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An explanation [Personal, but important]
11 years ago
Because of the deep connection that 
zzyzx and I have with the fandom, particularly online, there's been an incredible amount of...shall we say...speculation surrounding our break up.
Given that shi and I are actually making a tremendous effort to try and manage things peacefully and nicely, and given the reactions and...occasionally...less than kind words that have been spoken to or about one or the other of us, I feel it necessary to clear a few things up.
One, yes, we broke up, roughly 7 months ago. We have remained thusfar in the same apartment, in separate bedrooms, because of our children. That will be changing in short order, as I will be moving into my own apartment, with the kids.
Two, yes, the separation was initiated by me, for reasons that will remain between Zzyzx and I, other than those close to us whom we choose to tell.
Three, yes, a divorce will be ensuing. However, this has been agreed on by both of us, and it will be a peaceful, reasonable dissolution of our marriage. Neither of us intend to make this an ugly affair.
Fourth, yes, I will be taking full custody of the children, but I am not 'keeping them' from hir in any way. Visitation will be worked out and mandated in the divorce decree, and at a later time when there is possibility of her physical status or abilities changing, we will be considering partial custody.
Fifth, and this is quite important to note: WE ARE STILL FRIENDS. Yes, we have some terrible arguments and yes, this has been incredibly hard on both of us. But we are civil and nice to one another, and spend time together as such.
Lastly. We are BOTH seeing other people. That is not a reason to attack either of us, and it is our right. Additionally, please don't drag our names, or the names of those we are currently seeing, through the mud with the other person. It's just not nice, and won't win you points with either of us.
Given these things, I will go ahead and say that neither of us appreciate being snarked at, belittled, or snapped at because of our actions. We have made this amicable between us, and all it does is hurt our opinion of those saying mean things.
tl;dr, yes we're broken up but we're still friends and we appreciate everybody else being civil about it.
~Blossome
zzyzx and I have with the fandom, particularly online, there's been an incredible amount of...shall we say...speculation surrounding our break up.Given that shi and I are actually making a tremendous effort to try and manage things peacefully and nicely, and given the reactions and...occasionally...less than kind words that have been spoken to or about one or the other of us, I feel it necessary to clear a few things up.
One, yes, we broke up, roughly 7 months ago. We have remained thusfar in the same apartment, in separate bedrooms, because of our children. That will be changing in short order, as I will be moving into my own apartment, with the kids.
Two, yes, the separation was initiated by me, for reasons that will remain between Zzyzx and I, other than those close to us whom we choose to tell.
Three, yes, a divorce will be ensuing. However, this has been agreed on by both of us, and it will be a peaceful, reasonable dissolution of our marriage. Neither of us intend to make this an ugly affair.
Fourth, yes, I will be taking full custody of the children, but I am not 'keeping them' from hir in any way. Visitation will be worked out and mandated in the divorce decree, and at a later time when there is possibility of her physical status or abilities changing, we will be considering partial custody.
Fifth, and this is quite important to note: WE ARE STILL FRIENDS. Yes, we have some terrible arguments and yes, this has been incredibly hard on both of us. But we are civil and nice to one another, and spend time together as such.
Lastly. We are BOTH seeing other people. That is not a reason to attack either of us, and it is our right. Additionally, please don't drag our names, or the names of those we are currently seeing, through the mud with the other person. It's just not nice, and won't win you points with either of us.
Given these things, I will go ahead and say that neither of us appreciate being snarked at, belittled, or snapped at because of our actions. We have made this amicable between us, and all it does is hurt our opinion of those saying mean things.
tl;dr, yes we're broken up but we're still friends and we appreciate everybody else being civil about it.
~Blossome
I never understood what --tl;dr-- means.