I got married! (Finally!)
11 years ago
Soooooo... I know I've been missing a good long while, but I'll have you know that it was, at least, for good reason! On September 6th, I was wed to Casey/Theglavwen on the edge of Chilliwack Lake after nearly 8 years together - we were engaged to marry two years ago, but as many of you know, we had to unexpectedly move to Scotland before we had the chance. But we agreed to see what we could come up with since getting back to Canada this last winter, and despite our outfits almost not arriving on time (they arrived the day before), it finally happened (and only with a few major hiccups, haha).
It was a small wedding with a pretty short ceremony (we wanted things to be casual and comfortable for our guests) followed by a medieval-inspired feast that we cooked/catered ourselves. Some credits: outfits were made by Ravenswood Leather with custom modifications and embroidery designs by us, rings were made by Jewelry by Johan, my hair was done by Inna at Is., bouquet, hairpiece, makeup and nails were by me, cake was by Ganache Patisserie, and Casey's belt was made by Art on Leather (we already had the bracers and sword). We were told he wasn't going to be able to come, but we were lucky enough to have our friend's father, a semi-retired photographer, take some photos for us!
Me
Him
Us, just before walking down the aisle
The kiss
Us with friends
Us at the river's mouth
So, what's it like to be married? To be honest, it's really about the same! We've lived together for almost eight years now, practically attached at the hips and loving it (hah, that sounded a lot dirtier than intended), and as some other people have said, what defines a relationship really isn't its legal status or whether or not we have rings on our fingers, but something that can't really be easily or concisely written down in a public forum. I'm not going to go into a whole lot of gushy private feelings, but I will refer briefly to the same story I told in my vows:
When I was little, the number one fear I had was never being able to find someone to love and be loved by - someone who really understood me, and connected with me, who I could devote myself fully to and be loved back in return. I wanted more than anything else, basically, a Soul Mate, and was somehow terrified that I'd never find one. So, then, it was almost literally a dream come true to finally find Casey. We've been friends since we met in highschool 16 years ago, fell in love 8 years ago, and have since graduated university together, lived in Scotland for a year, and shared countless other life experiences together. The fact that, now, we have a paper saying we are officially married doesn't change much of anything at all, but it was still wonderful to make what we are together finally official in the eyes of our friends, family, and the law. I'm looking forward to sharing the rest of my life with him <3
It was a small wedding with a pretty short ceremony (we wanted things to be casual and comfortable for our guests) followed by a medieval-inspired feast that we cooked/catered ourselves. Some credits: outfits were made by Ravenswood Leather with custom modifications and embroidery designs by us, rings were made by Jewelry by Johan, my hair was done by Inna at Is., bouquet, hairpiece, makeup and nails were by me, cake was by Ganache Patisserie, and Casey's belt was made by Art on Leather (we already had the bracers and sword). We were told he wasn't going to be able to come, but we were lucky enough to have our friend's father, a semi-retired photographer, take some photos for us!
Me
Him
Us, just before walking down the aisle
The kiss
Us with friends
Us at the river's mouth
So, what's it like to be married? To be honest, it's really about the same! We've lived together for almost eight years now, practically attached at the hips and loving it (hah, that sounded a lot dirtier than intended), and as some other people have said, what defines a relationship really isn't its legal status or whether or not we have rings on our fingers, but something that can't really be easily or concisely written down in a public forum. I'm not going to go into a whole lot of gushy private feelings, but I will refer briefly to the same story I told in my vows:
When I was little, the number one fear I had was never being able to find someone to love and be loved by - someone who really understood me, and connected with me, who I could devote myself fully to and be loved back in return. I wanted more than anything else, basically, a Soul Mate, and was somehow terrified that I'd never find one. So, then, it was almost literally a dream come true to finally find Casey. We've been friends since we met in highschool 16 years ago, fell in love 8 years ago, and have since graduated university together, lived in Scotland for a year, and shared countless other life experiences together. The fact that, now, we have a paper saying we are officially married doesn't change much of anything at all, but it was still wonderful to make what we are together finally official in the eyes of our friends, family, and the law. I'm looking forward to sharing the rest of my life with him <3
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But yes. FINALLY :V Thank you kindly!
Good luck on your shared future!
These are some good news Jo x3 Hope you two have a good, long life together, and much happiness ^^
Heh, we were thinking if I had time, I could do a celebratory reception picture (makes me think of the image I did for you), except with our characters, instead. I probably won't have time, but it was a fun idea :b
Hey, I say these things even when I'm ready to commission you again, knowing it would delay the possibility of getting in queue.
Congratulations!
Such a beautiful celebration
To be honest, I've had a bit of a phobia of conventional weddings since I was little, so I was more than happy to embrace something different and more personal to us!
Glad you could do something that made you comfortable
Again, thank you kindly :)
Seriously, consider getting work done by Ravenswood Leather, which is why I linked them in my journal. They do wonderful custom work, and great embroidery - just be sure to get started on your order a good number of months in advance! People were surprised at the dress in particular, I think - when I told people I was getting a leather dress, I think people were picturing a creepy shiny pleather BDSM/Hells Angels thing with buckles and studs everywhere, haha. Instead, it's softly textured and supple, and really nice to touch! Even just for fun/casual wear, a men's jerkin looks great worn over plain clothes as a vest :)
Anyway, yeah. Thank you very much for your kind words :) <3
Sorry to hear about her surgery! My mother-in-law's friend had that done, and it's been really rough for her - I hope it goes smoothly for you guys! Maybe you could do something else water-related if she can't sit comfortably in the kayak? You could carry her romantically into the water and do some sort of romantic personal twist on a baptism or something? Or the whole kind of sharing-of-one-cup idea and drink some awesome cool freshwater from an icy glacial river (tastes so good!).
Again, so very happy for you and Casey - that is such a cool and memorable way to join your lives. :)
Sorry to hear about the barrage of health issues! Sucks - always seems to be something, sometimes. Back, neck, shoulder, hip... All those tend to have far-reaching effects. If you hurt your arm, that's not so bad, but if you hurt your back or hip, it kind of affects everything you do, all your movement, so it gets in the way of healing and just... yeah, giant pain. Our sympathy! <3 If you guys finally have your dream kayak wedding, be sure to let me know! I'd love to see pictures :)
Thanks again <3
Heh, could you get custom suits made? Or just wear a few wedding bits (bow tie, veil, etc.) on top? I still think that'd be totally awesome :) And! Before I forget, I didn't link the artist who made our rings, but maybe you'd be interested. This guy makes excellent ring inlays with pretty much any material you can think of - if you have a meaningful stone or material or colour, he could incorporate it into rings for you. Wood, meteorite, sand, crushed seashells, memorial ashes... Casey was excited to find him, because we were looking for high quality wood inlays, and this guy can do more styles with more material versatility and higher quality than we've been able to find elsewhere.
May more wonderful things come your way in your travels together.
We will have been married 35 years in October and you cause me to reflect upon a wonderful life.
I am so happy for you.
V.
We'll be going on a cruise. I am married to my best friend and that makes all the difference.
V.
I've never understood people who say that your wife/husband can't also be your best friend :S Some people feel like their spouse fit a certain role, and friends fit another, and they can't cross over, but that just sort of blows my mind.
I've never been on a cruise, although the two people I've heard personally from who have both say they got horribly seasick :S I think I'd still give one a try, though! Alaskan cruises to me always sounded really nice. Where are you guys going?
I think you have to like cruising. For me it's a forced relaxation and I rather like getting away from everything like that too.
V.
I love boating! But yeah, can sometimes get a bit of motion sickness (although that didn't start happening until the last few years x_x), especially if I'm already feeling a bit off for other reasons. I'm still thinking I'd give it a try, though!
I'm so happy for you two. ^^
Congratulations, I hope you have a wonderful life together.
It is good news to hear that despite any of the more minor and major obstacles for this wedding - namely your clothing arriving just the day before, as that alone could've been disastrous - that all things went well as a whole in the end, as it should be.
*chuckles* Well, there were still some unexpected/unpleasant bumps, but it's all over now, and I don't want it to get me down :) And, to be honest, we had a back-up plan for if neither our rings nor our outfits arrived XD (rings arrived one day before the outfits, despite emails saying they'd arrive a week earlier up until we got a "Sorry, there's been a delay," notification) - it would have been disappointing, for sure, but we would have made the best of it, haha.
Oh? Anything new on your end that you can share (or care to)? I've been bad myself with falling out of touch with people and keeping up my online presence, mostly because I decided to drop EVERYTHING and JUST work on wedding stuff, until it was over and done with, just to help keep me sane, haha. Should be getting back to normal this week, though - I have a few important things I need to do for Endless Realms first (primarily, their logo needs to be redone ASAP) but I for sure want your commission done before the end of the month!! (Extra exclamation point there for emphasis! Haha)
Most of my issues stemmed from an extensive work period at one point as well as illness. To my fortune things have better stabilized, so now is simply the time to put things back together and find out where to go from here.
And this sort of uncanny thing happens to him seemingly all the time. Neither of us are superstitious, but maybe we should be :V
Ah, so just really ran you down? I know how that is. I've had pretty unpleasant stomach and head aches the last month, still ongoing, and am hoping they'll let up now that the wedding is done with. I just imagine it's particularly hard for you, in that your work sounds rather unforgiving of personal misfortunes - you still gotta do it.
Doesn't seem to make an impact on them outside their behavior however, hah.
More or less that is the nature of it; such as with this work cycle I'll have worked over fifty-two hours in a single work week, but I should work no more than twenty the next, but there is always something that winds up needing my attention despite it not being my work. Hopefully, however, your headache and stomach problems resolve and disperse now with a lot of the stress lifted from you.
I feel so sorry for not reply to this jounal sooner i'm very sick in bed it has passes almost a week in bed. It's not serious but i don't see any sing to a sooner recover.
Anyway i'm glad to see that you are doing fine and finally married
Here's a belated congratulations!
I LOVE those wedding outfits!! Sooo much better than the traditional stuff! You two are a very lovely couple!!