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Valentine's day
17 years ago
Valentine's day is a crock. It is a sham designed to capitalize off of a moment of cheap, easily forgotten sentimentality and forced recognition of something that should be allowed to develop naturally. I am not making this statement because of a bitter memory, or because I was ever rejected on it; I'm speaking instead as someone who has had romantic feelings both online and off for several people.
You see, love isn't chocolate. It isn't cards. It's not even--Blasphemer that I am!--candlelit dinners in fancy restaurants, with soft, slow violin music playing in the background. Love isn't any of these things. These are NICE things, to be sure... but even they are nicer when they aren't seen coming a mile away. No, Love is a different animal.
Love is... not an emotion, in the same way that happiness or contentment or sorrow is. Those things can be brought about by love, or lead to love or even away FROM love--but love isn't a feeling. No, love is a connection--a link between people. A lot of people say that hatred is a heartbeat away from love, and from a biological and spiritual standpoint, it's true to an extent. Hatred, like love, is a link between people; once that causes intense emotions. There's a fundamental difference between the two, I think: one of polarity. Hatred is the rejection of a person for what you imagine or what you know about them--their desires, their aspirations, something you refuse utterly; be it serious or trivial. Love is the opposite of this.
Love isn't blind. Love sees openly, sees unquestionably--and accepts the differences, acknowledges them utterly. It CAN be one way, which is painful... but love as a link does not care. People who see into other people's hearts often become connected with them; which is understandable--Opening your heart to someone can make you vulnerable, it's true; but so can looking into someone else's heart. It lets you see how much of a PERSON, a person with hopes and dreams and feelings just like yours, they are.
You see, love isn't chocolate. It isn't cards. It's not even--Blasphemer that I am!--candlelit dinners in fancy restaurants, with soft, slow violin music playing in the background. Love isn't any of these things. These are NICE things, to be sure... but even they are nicer when they aren't seen coming a mile away. No, Love is a different animal.
Love is... not an emotion, in the same way that happiness or contentment or sorrow is. Those things can be brought about by love, or lead to love or even away FROM love--but love isn't a feeling. No, love is a connection--a link between people. A lot of people say that hatred is a heartbeat away from love, and from a biological and spiritual standpoint, it's true to an extent. Hatred, like love, is a link between people; once that causes intense emotions. There's a fundamental difference between the two, I think: one of polarity. Hatred is the rejection of a person for what you imagine or what you know about them--their desires, their aspirations, something you refuse utterly; be it serious or trivial. Love is the opposite of this.
Love isn't blind. Love sees openly, sees unquestionably--and accepts the differences, acknowledges them utterly. It CAN be one way, which is painful... but love as a link does not care. People who see into other people's hearts often become connected with them; which is understandable--Opening your heart to someone can make you vulnerable, it's true; but so can looking into someone else's heart. It lets you see how much of a PERSON, a person with hopes and dreams and feelings just like yours, they are.
