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17 years ago
You know, all the time I see websites, journals, frothing rants and constant berating on the part of women about men. I see insano feminist's movement websites, pamphlets, books, and media. I hear women scream out loudly about being objectified, being treated like meat, and crying out that they shouldn't have to prove their intelligence to everyone just to be accepted into a normal world, and that gender doesn't matter.
But the thing is... If gender doesn't matter, why is it so fucking important to them? Why is there some kind of implied comeradery I'm expected to join up into just because I have a vag? Why am I expected to bash men, hate on them, and expect only men to be liars, traitors, and cheaters? Why am I looked at strangely when I tell them to stop doing what they're blaming the men for?
Why is it that so many women hold themselves unaccountable for their mistakes, and instead push it onto being the man's fault? Why do they feel comfortable in their hypocrisies?
It's okay if a woman cheats on a man, she was doing it because he's a loveless scoundrel and deserves it.
It's okay if a woman lies to a man, she's just getting him to do the right thing.
It's okay if a woman condescends to a man, they'll never reach our superior level of intellect, anyways.
It's okay if a woman treats a man as a chunk of meat, they do it to us, right? It's time they had payback! Girls vs Boys in the most immature, intellectually-deficient slapfight of the century, fuck yeah!
All around me, on media and in real life, I hear the utterance of "Sexist pig!" under a woman's breath because a man hooted at her or some such thing. I will then hear her to go on about how she dumped her boyfriend because his dick wasn't as big as John's, whom she's been seeing for ages anyway.
It's fucking bullshit is what it is.
You can't yell at men for staring at women's exposed breasts on TV and admiring them, talking about how they've seen attractive girls lately, or be a consistently fussy cocktease and then go in your little flock of gaggling goose girlfriends to honk and flap on about the hottest guy you saw the other day at the mall, and how your boyfriend still can't find your clitoris because you won't tell the guy struggling to perform for you where the fuck it is.
Guys should just know where the clitoris and G-spot are, right? They should just auto-know exactly how to please you.
Oh, but giving them head is gross, so is learning the correct speed and pressure at which to handle a dick. That might degrade you, or, god forbid, make you seem interested in what's going on instead of appearing as a frigid, aloof little princess.
That's another thing I'm sick of hearing screeching about. The "degradation" of women, usually in reference to porn. Nevermind that the women in legal, well-made porn all agreed to appear in it and were paid for their performances in it. Nevermind that some women enjoy watching porn, and enjoy being in it as well. It's not some question of degradation. It's a fun sexual release and the female form is beautiful and easy to get off to. Get over it. Women are sex objects. So are men. That's kind of the way it's supposed to be.
Now, obviously, not all women are this way. But, I was raised in a very feminist household where men were bashed at every opportunity and little feminist houseparties were held, during which all the middle aged squawkers got together to bitch about the horribleness of men and what slimey bastards they were. I was sometimes slagged for having a lot of friends who were boys. I was expected to attend these. The majority of women in my life have behaved with this attitude towards men that really piss me off. If men are attracted to women, they're horrible monsters. If men are attracted to other men, they're geldings, women-by-honour and can be allowed in to the super secret cunt club to bitch more about men. And I'm fucking sick of it.
Yes, terrible sex based atrocities do occur. Rapes happen, spousal abuse happens, all sorts of horrible things happen. But a lot of people fail to realise that this sort of shit happens to men, too.
We have the vote, we have equal wages. Let's chill the fuck out a bit, shall we? Let's actually have learned something from the centuries of gender oppression, by not turning the fuck around and doing the same shit.
There are no men and no women. There are just people.
But the thing is... If gender doesn't matter, why is it so fucking important to them? Why is there some kind of implied comeradery I'm expected to join up into just because I have a vag? Why am I expected to bash men, hate on them, and expect only men to be liars, traitors, and cheaters? Why am I looked at strangely when I tell them to stop doing what they're blaming the men for?
Why is it that so many women hold themselves unaccountable for their mistakes, and instead push it onto being the man's fault? Why do they feel comfortable in their hypocrisies?
It's okay if a woman cheats on a man, she was doing it because he's a loveless scoundrel and deserves it.
It's okay if a woman lies to a man, she's just getting him to do the right thing.
It's okay if a woman condescends to a man, they'll never reach our superior level of intellect, anyways.
It's okay if a woman treats a man as a chunk of meat, they do it to us, right? It's time they had payback! Girls vs Boys in the most immature, intellectually-deficient slapfight of the century, fuck yeah!
All around me, on media and in real life, I hear the utterance of "Sexist pig!" under a woman's breath because a man hooted at her or some such thing. I will then hear her to go on about how she dumped her boyfriend because his dick wasn't as big as John's, whom she's been seeing for ages anyway.
It's fucking bullshit is what it is.
You can't yell at men for staring at women's exposed breasts on TV and admiring them, talking about how they've seen attractive girls lately, or be a consistently fussy cocktease and then go in your little flock of gaggling goose girlfriends to honk and flap on about the hottest guy you saw the other day at the mall, and how your boyfriend still can't find your clitoris because you won't tell the guy struggling to perform for you where the fuck it is.
Guys should just know where the clitoris and G-spot are, right? They should just auto-know exactly how to please you.
Oh, but giving them head is gross, so is learning the correct speed and pressure at which to handle a dick. That might degrade you, or, god forbid, make you seem interested in what's going on instead of appearing as a frigid, aloof little princess.
That's another thing I'm sick of hearing screeching about. The "degradation" of women, usually in reference to porn. Nevermind that the women in legal, well-made porn all agreed to appear in it and were paid for their performances in it. Nevermind that some women enjoy watching porn, and enjoy being in it as well. It's not some question of degradation. It's a fun sexual release and the female form is beautiful and easy to get off to. Get over it. Women are sex objects. So are men. That's kind of the way it's supposed to be.
Now, obviously, not all women are this way. But, I was raised in a very feminist household where men were bashed at every opportunity and little feminist houseparties were held, during which all the middle aged squawkers got together to bitch about the horribleness of men and what slimey bastards they were. I was sometimes slagged for having a lot of friends who were boys. I was expected to attend these. The majority of women in my life have behaved with this attitude towards men that really piss me off. If men are attracted to women, they're horrible monsters. If men are attracted to other men, they're geldings, women-by-honour and can be allowed in to the super secret cunt club to bitch more about men. And I'm fucking sick of it.
Yes, terrible sex based atrocities do occur. Rapes happen, spousal abuse happens, all sorts of horrible things happen. But a lot of people fail to realise that this sort of shit happens to men, too.
We have the vote, we have equal wages. Let's chill the fuck out a bit, shall we? Let's actually have learned something from the centuries of gender oppression, by not turning the fuck around and doing the same shit.
There are no men and no women. There are just people.
You just continue to ignore us and continue on with your pity-party. It's not cool, and it's not going to get any attention from me.
I've had friends who've committed suicide. That shit isn't something you fucking joke about, or say to get attention, okay? Also, you should know better than to smoke, I mean honestly.
I'm talking about all the other journals of yours... and every other girl you came off as a sleaze too because you're too busy trying to find a mate on the net instead of actually dating someone.
Pro Tip: get through high school and find yourself instead of being a jackass and trying to get a girl online.
Orly? I did?? I don't see it. Like I said... at your age you need to focus on school and find yourself. NO ONE wants a sleaze who failed school or dropped out. Jobs are hard to come by, mates are hard to come by. It's better for everyone.
double wat
Aer sorry for the dramaz...
This journal makes up for it IMO
it's so nice to not be 15 anymore.
Maturity is such a great thing!
My local radio station has been buzzing about this lately ever since the whole Chris Brown and Rihanna thing, and they dedicated a whole week to teen violence, but no one seems to have found a definite answer to this question.
It is never acceptable for a man to hit a woman, and it is never acceptable for a woman to hit a man. But I don't think a man should hit a woman back if she hits him, because on average, men are much stronger than women, and can do a lot more damage. If he gets angry enough, a strong man can kill a woman with a blow.
If someone's using violence for communication, something is up. You need to figure out what it is you're not picking up before things get out of hand, and you're best off using something other than violence to do that. If you don't know beyond doubt that you need to reply with violence, don't respond in kind. Someone speaking with violence isn't usually trying to do you real harm, just get your attention.
If the message is dominance or rage or someone's seriously lost their marbles or is otherwise honest-to-god coming after you, it's game on. You do what you need to do to defend yourself. At that point communication is over; just try to make sure nothing permanent happens.
Oh, and if you use violence first? Fail. Running out of words is unacceptable. Of course, I may have a skewed view on that - it'll be obvious by now that I personally do not, as a rule, run out of words.
I rarely ever take out the chainsaw, but it's just hard for to believe that you've never even considered it.
Hit meh.
Transcend THIS.
No more momma jokes. That kinds made me sad, and guilty. =[
Hmmm . . . Perhaps I could start a whole new trend of "yo daddy" jokes?
I dunno if yo daddy would take off, but where I work, we've had REMARKABLE success with your face. Not the same thing as a yo mamma line; they're situational rather than pre-prepared. But. I'm just sayin', it works.
Besides, your face is already a joke.
...see?!
And I like, invented 'your face' jokes in my fifth grade class, lol. Now I pretty much overuse 'yo momma' jokes.
Typical conversation with me:
Person 1: *cough*
Me: That's what yo momma said in bed last night! :0
Person: That wasn't very nice! :<
Me: Neither was yo momma!
/end convo
Lol.
On a slightly different topic, but same sort of idea.. 5 or 6 years ago or whenever I was in high school law, we had a debate about same-sex marriage. Now personally FIRST off I don't think it's anybody's business whether two people who love each other decide to celebrate it with their friends and family, but really, with all the war and bullshit and hate in our world why in hell should we victimize and discriminate against love when it happens? Obviously I'm totally accepting of people of same-sex being in relationships and having all the same opportunities as people who are opposite sex in relationships. But there was this muslim girl in my class (and no I'm really not racist or discriminatory) and she was so against it that she was flipping out that we were even bringing it up... and I just wanted to slap her, and look her in the eye, and say to her "for somebody who is of a sub-culture in our society who is exposed to more unjustified racism and discrimination and prejudice than most anybody else, and cries over it, don't you think it's a little hypocritical and asshole-ish to turn around and do exactly the same thing to somebody else who is in a similar position to you?"
Ahaha
/end rant
"I want to learn how to effectively communicate with people of all races and backgrounds."
Here's an idea. Why don't you fucking start with "Hello?"
It would be really cool if more people thought this way.
I am so using that ._.
Actually, the pay gap between men and women widened last year, with women earning less for the same/similar (but with a different job title) job in the UK. Equality can sometimes only be on paper, and not occur in reality. I understand what you're saying though as men can too be treated unfairly due to their sex, though it comes out of resentment and can sometimes be understandable. Women are arguably doing things to men and getting away with it and the authorities have laughed at men that have complained but it can also work the same way, it's okay for a man to be a single parent, in fact he's often praised, but a single mother is often looked at as dirty, a failure etc. etc. Sex equality is a strange thing, which is very complicated and hard to deal with. There are just so many issues, I guess, with different arguments to be made. But as you said, the sexes are trivial differences in comparison to the similarities, in that we are all human =)
With only a minority of exception, men are stronger in the upper body than women, and in jobs where that strength is important, an average woman wouldn't be able to keep up. So how do you make it fair to the employer and employee both? If you had two men of equal qualification up for that job and one was weaker, nobody would blame the employer for hiring the stronger guy, but if it was a man vs. a woman who was weaker, the employer would be accused of sexism for hiring the man.
Of course I'm also aware that there is a pay disparity when it comes to jobs where the woman does the work just as well as the man. That there is a tendency for male employers not to hire or promote women when they can hire or promote a man. There is a reason for this, albeit unfair: That there is a stigma, societal or instinctive or both, attached to men being submissive to women. A woman boss breeds a sense of resentment among male underlings, which can cause a ripple effect of negativity and tension through the entire structure of the company. Males working under a female might take out their frustration on women working below them, or generally act out in petulant and destructive ways in their workplace.
It's childish and stupid, but I've seen it happen.
I too have seen what you describe happen as well as a ton of other examples that have disadvantaged women in the work place. Including the need of women to sometimes appear masculine in order to be accepted in a job for example Prime Minister Marget Thatcher (of Britain) had voice lessons to lower her voice to sound more masculine for the position. 'Equality' can often be disguised as women being treated as being the same as men, thus measured up to male standards of things, rather than a neutral standard.
When growing up we all experience socialisation and so it is difficult to determine whether the differences between the sexes are due to biology or the 'training' by society. For example girls are commonly given dolls because they are girls... but does her sex really mean she will like dolls? I don't think so - I liked dinosaurs and trains :D It works the same with boys, they are given army men and play tool kits etc. So it starts from a very young age and gets more intense through advertising, socialising, education, work etc. as we get older.
Could I steal your MSN? I think you'd be great to chat to =3 Note me it if ya like
For pay differences, the issue there is that males tend toward more direct aggressive behavior, and this translates directly in salary/pay negotiations. Males typically push a little harder and argue a little more for that extra little bit in those negotiations. Given some of the positions I've worked in the corporate world, I've seen and noticed this firsthand. That's not even taking into consideration the more traditional "male needs more money because he has woman and kids" versus "female is working because she does not have a man and therefore has no dependents" assumptions that are commonly made.
But yeah... long story short, males often get paid more because they negotiate harder for it.
Either you're speaking hypothetically or something I had apparently guessed wrong about is now crashing down before my eyes.
I tend to assume people are dudes because I'm oblivious.
But you are right, a lot of woman need to simply get over themselves and accept the fact that we have now achieved equality, at least in the western world. If these feminist's really want to make a difference they should put their bitching to good use in other parts of the world.
I will say that on the whole, female children and male children are raised very differently, but I disagree that males are any less emotional than females, they're just "trained" to deal with it differently.
Basically, I have the exact same opinion as you, and I applaud you for taking the time to put it into words.
WHAT IS THIS, I DONT EVEN...
Anyways, I agree wholeheartedly with you point Aer... :(
My sister's friend used to go out with a guy who treated her like that! He was so controlling! He didn't even let her wear her hair down! But, he still flirted with other girls and my sister's friend was like "Oh, he's only joking." Meanwhile, my father was also a flirter and he had an affair behind my mother's back! When my sister's friend's dick boyfriend left her, we were all trying to calm her down while simultaneously telling her that she was MUCH better off without him.
Most people don't think about it, but the war between the sexes is -incredibly- profitable. Basically, you've got a constant influx of mass media indoctrinating people to perpetuate their own self-esteem problems. Those self-esteem problems sell all kinds of things; cosmetics and weight control pills and exercise machines and phallic sportscars... They even make people into commodities and sell them.
Through a barrage of imagery and ideas that starts in infancy, people are trained to think certain things and expect certain things about both genders, and then spend tons of money to try to fit into that world. There is no way to win when no matter what you do, you're criticized for it. The classic is the slut/bitch comparison, but men have just as many cant-win expectations. Either you're too macho or you're a pussy. Either you're too nice or you're a dick.
As long as you're kept dancing, you're too distracted to realize what's really going on.
Totally and utterly agree =3
Guys are marketed to just as much, with nifty cars, watches and god knows what else, I barely pay attention to anything in adverts. The only reason I know about Bratz is through an ex-friend's little sister!
They had pleated, low-riding miniskirts.
In size 6X.
I barfed.
Nice endign line it sums it all up very nicly. Funny part is do you believe that most peoepl think wemon are incapable of raping a man! XD its halarious...
If you want to be treated equal you get the good AND the bad
I love men, especially when they do blokey stuff.
I'll probably stand up to one side and defend the other at times, but only when I think they deserve it.
Sometimes we cling to our last shred of 'x'-attribute because we think it's the only thing we have left to stop us becoming part of the amorphous blob of "humanity", even if it is a concept forced upon us by everybody else.
Saved.
Because it means I'm not the retarded stereotype you described in this journal today.
....That was a joke just so you know.
On a slightly related topic, I've actually seen more hatred in the gay community towards straight people than straight people hating gay people. Double standards are so much fun, aren't they?
My thought was I would fall in love with the person, and gender didn't matter and I don't have to make a one or the other only kind of choice.
2. ... Now, obviously, not all women are this way. ... Second paragraph up, from the bottom.
Because otherwise you get "DON'T LISTEN TO THIS CHAUVINIST PIG" (even though he said the truth.)
Because otherwise you get "DON'T LISTEN TO THIS CHAUVINIST PIG" (even though he said the truth.)
I have big troubles with girls IRL - not that they don't like me, but their general attitude and way of speaking to people. The ones I do get along with best are all tomboys and it's a fucking shame that they normally gets to take crap from other girls for actually acting cool.
I can sooo relate to what is being said in this thread. Like, just the other week, the most fucked up thing happened - a girl in my law class did something that a guy could never fucking dream of doing without permanently being labeled as an asshole.
Basically, we were in recess talking about an appartment move that a friend was doing and discussing which way would be best to get his bed out, since it's heavy and the appartment is several floors up. I didn't pay attention to what this girl, who is a known bitch, suggested, but everyone had a little giggle about it and my friend said "hun, it doesn't work that way"
And then, out of ABSOULTELY NOWHERE, she laid the mother of all slaps across his face. Like, it fucking echoed, and everyone were completely stunned. Everyone were silent, shocked, and she goes:
"I'm no fucking 'hun' to you, got that, you sexist?" and walked away all sassy.
I swear to god.
The girls still hang out with her as if nothing happened. Even though some think it was fucked up, I've heard others saying it was good of her.
Now, please tell me, what the hell would have happened if a guy did something like that? What would happen if a guy hit a girl in the face for a word.
I mean, stuff like this paired up with some other shit, is why I date guys. I could fuck a girl, no problem, cause their bodies are still attractive to me, but I can just no way in hell see myself in a relationship with a "liberated woman". And even though the majority of girls aren't as extreme as this, I've found that deep down in their brains, they still got this attitude - The "Treat me equal about everything that's good for me but treat me special when it's stuff that's negative for me!". The "I demand you don't look at me when I dress this way but hold up the door and carry stuff for me" deal. I can't stand that. Mind you, I'm all for equal pay and that shit, but there are some things so deep rooted with woman that you just can't get it out. The exceptions? Oftentimes the tomboys or the ones who have chosen to distance themselves from the female clusters and ideologies.
Also, finally - zennie55. I love how you act a total psycho bitch, obviously, and then decide to blame "the gays". From what I have heard and from what I have read - Leave the fucking internet forever. It aint a threat, it's a fucking blessing. The furry fandom takes shit from all flanks cause of paranoid psychos like you - and trust me, you wont be missed if you dissapear. I had never heard about you before today and I wouldn't give a damn if you faded from existance tomorrow. Go bwah somewhere else.
Well, the idea is, if we are all double standard, the man should be able to hit her right back.
OH WAIT. THAT'S DOMESTIC ABUSE. :D
I love how women are all like "bawww women are abused" but a man somehow can't do anything back when a woman slaps him. I'd punch her right back.
And yeah, some people are gay from the beginning, but I know a few people who turned gay because of HORRIBLE experiences with women as a whole. I also agree with your views on sex. I love women's bodies (the only thing they have going for them tbh), but personality-wise, I'm super gay. D:
I don't care if you pulled the "I'm leaving FA forever" drama.
I felt like I wrote this. You have effectively captured the double standard era of the past thirty years.
If you don't already know, www.menarebetterthanwomen.com .
At this point I'd add my own opinion or explain further or show IRL examples of this. But I can't. Because I couldn't have delivered this any better. Way to have the balls to go over the "OMG UR A CHAUVINIST!!!11 BUT BEING A FEMINIST IS OK" edge and tell it EXACTLY LIKE IT FUCKING IS. The feminist movement didn't stop at equal. They have too much. It's bull. And I'm glad that there are others who know it and say it.
You get a free commission for this.
And inb4 "lol op is a virgin"/"op is a loser". Fuck you.
The person in question is Zennie55 who said he's leaving. :D
Also -- I'd totally bang a chick, long and hard. But fuck if I'd ever have a relationship with one. I couldn't handle it!
The hypocrisy in this world never ceases to amaze me.
I have always wondered what life would be like if I had a girlfriend but I think being in a same-gender relatiosnhip is so much easier.
We had a talk with my darling few days ago about "womens logic" which she admits to doing at times. She had read "women-finnish-women dictionary" and said few things there just stung her "It really hurt heading that because some things were so accurate, dammit!" and I have quite typical engineer brain. We got into the result that men can have that "woman logic" because it is not really gender-related but more nature related and she would definately need a "engineer-finnish-engineer dictionary" :)
We're all just people, categorizing is unimportant.
I have modeled for a pinup site for a couple of years now, and the whole 'porn is degrading to women' thing drives me nuts. I signed up for it, I did it, I certainly took the money, and was paid generously for my time. Not degrading at all.
The Militant Feminists just need to stop looking for things to be angry about.
NEVERMIND THAT I'M WEARING A PUSHUP BRA AND A SEE-THROUGH SHIRT
YOU'RE RAPING ME
WITH YOUR EYES
FOUL MALE BEAST
I took the easy way out and turned gay anyways XD
But yah, people should learn to see each other for who they are, rather than what they are :3
I agree so much I cant add anything besides that, as a fellow girl: I AGREE SO FUCKING MUCH!
Girls treat boys like CRAP and are surprised when they do it back, well duh!
I did stuff like that, in fact its my first instinct, but I realized it and would NEVER hurt my guy like that again, It would kill me.
but then again, I'm pretty androgynous IRL, and have always loved having my nerd-male friends. If I don't have enough testosterone in my life I feel unbalanced xD
still this rant is trash and the only reason people like it is because they have a shit view of the world
Would you like to try again?
Everything you do, say, and things you don't even have control over makes people determine what they think of you. In the subject of race and gender there are advantages and disadvantages of being whatever you are.
As a white male I feel that I really have no say in anything related to gender and race, and I think that is really fucked up. White people are usually seen as racist, and lazy people who are born into wealth. As a man I am seen as a pervert, and potential rapist who also gets more money because I have a penis. Usually all the people spouting about hatred and racism on the television are pretty racist themself, and we are ALL guilty of stereotyping people. Its human nature really.
At a young age I noticed that people were not equal in a lot of things. I asked a girl for a hug as a joke in middle school and was suspended for it. They didn't care about my side of the story and they of course believed the girl... though later her father would call me and ask me for my forgiveness. Back then I told the father that it was alright, but when I think of it now I probably could have made a huge deal out of it because it was unfair. I mean after that experience and seeing things on the news a guy can worry about some girl getting pissed off at him and claiming sexual harassment. Oh and back on the subject of school there was this girl who kept slapping my ass and grabbing my crotch but when I reported it they didn't give a shit, because you know... as a guy I must love being grabbed by some ugly bitch. (Oh noes I say bitch! I am so politically incorrect here.)
I could go on about race issues to, but I think that is about as obvious as what I just stated above though I haven't had any real issue with that personally other than I can't stand it when all people do is blame their race as the reason they can't get a job. Maybe that's true in some places but damn! Something I have had a issue with personally though has to do with sexual orientation. I am a homosexual! Well bisexual, but some gay people just annoy the shit out of me. I mean a good number of them are trying to get kids to stop saying "gay" as a negative thing, but I loved saying that! "That's gay" but maybe that is just my hatred for political correctness kicking in. People need to stop being so damn sensitive already.
Ugh so many things determine what people think of us so why should we care so much?
Your name
Your race
Your skin color
Your hair color
Your over all appearance!
Your religion
PRETTY MUCH EVERYTHING YOU COULD IMAGINE.
There are SEXISTS, RACISTS, and HOMOPHOBES, but don't become so jaded that you yourself become one of those (tough I guess that last one would be heterophobe), and think everyone of a certain group is BAD MANS.
Anywho rant over. Thanks Aer!
Even worse, I have a male friend who was violently raped. He can't get help for it, they wouldn't let him into the local crisis group as "he might make the group uncomfortable." When he tried to create his own group the city shut him down saying it was sexist. He had people picketing and freaking out, because "men can't be raped."
WTF, is all I have to say.
The courts would not touch her. No decent lawyer would take on the case. They flat out said to us that being a woman in a divorce situation, no one would believe us about what happened. They said she'd just claim she was on some kind of journey of self-liberation, which she did, and people believed her. She compounded all of this by making up complete lies under oath about my father sexually abusing me.
She would have gotten away with next to none of this if she was male. I'm sick to death of people telling me I should still talk to her because "She's your mother!". If it was my father that did this no one would bat an eye.
Did I mention I have been denied scholarships solely on the basis of being a white male? Sexism exists and it's commonly on the side of females now. What's worse is so many females are completely ready to take every opportunity it gives them.
Some people are a little more "equal" than others.
I too hate how women try to play victim and never look at their own mistakes. (I'm talking about women as an entirety, not individual people. Unfortunately, a good majority of bad incidences that have happened to people I have known when it comes to sexual downplay of any kind, have been women. It's unfortunate but it's true.)
While I am a feminist, my goal in feminism is the original one of the movement: to find out why a certain gender has more power than another, and how we can put a stop to it by making both genders equal. Not by saying men are assholes and women should be dominant.
I want both genders to be equal. Equal pay, equal treatment in the job, home, media, everywhere. Though the thing is, men DO tend to get paid more in the workplace, and over 90% of all crimes are committed by men. As to why, I'm sure it's much deeper than "they're just men".
I've had my share of follies though that have been overlooked by a lot of people. While I never try to complain about my relationships with guys because of the fact people will just go "Stop being a stupid girl and get over it. You're all equal blablabla..." I've had to deal with relationship abuse on part of the man. I've dealt with sexual harassment on part of a man from my old job. I've had to deal with female friends who have suffered sexual trauma from males.
Though I would love to throw in that girls are fucking stupid sometimes and they piss me off more than guys do. =/ Christ I wish I could just smack a few certain bitches at the moment. XD
For the record I'll throw in there that my current partner and I always please each other equally in the bedroom. I find it fascinating that some girls won't service their boys; how artrocious! I love nothing more than to make my man feel good. And while he doesn't do the exact same services for me, he will do other things that are of equal amount of effort. (I'm trying not to get too TMI here, so I'm sorry if I did. I hate to say it but sometimes I think I'm an oral-addict. =X)
So that's my imput. I really enjoyed reading this. :3
I have to agree whole-heartedly with you there. Mind if I use that line in my sig?
Oh, by the way, I'm a guy with a fear of being raped, abused, and otherwise finding myself in less than desirable circumstances, with no recourse. Why? 'Cause 'guys don't get raped/abused'.
I view gender like race. As in, a difference in appearance, and that's about it.
Stop slicing humankind in half by imaginary lines.
Both sides have equal capacity to love, hate, do good or bad, or what have you.
Anyways, I'm done now. Thanks for the read.