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Death in the Family (Those Waiting for Art PLEASE READ!)
10 years ago
Yesterday morning my grandfather passed away.
He has been having a bit of a hard time for a little less then a year now. I believe I wrote a journal about it when he first started having issues last year. IDK.
It's been really crazy the last 24 hours, and obviously hard.
I Grew up living next door to my grandparents. My dad still lives next door to them. So we were close.
It's..idk...
There are a lot of good memories, and he was a fire fighter, met JFK, helped during the MLK riots, then became a travel tour guide and went all over the world. He also did these insane Christmas displays with things he created to look like Disney characters and all sortsa stuff. Even had Bugs Bunny in a helicopter on the roof (I'm serious, I'll post pics when I get them)
He brought Santa Clause in 3 nights during the Christmas season. On a fire truck no less! So that all the children in the community could see him. He did it for free and most people remember him for that. He was 85 years old. And leaves behind his wife of 65 years, my grandmother. She had a stroke about 2 years ago. So IDK if she will start to get better, or deteriorate and perhaps pass on herself...I just don't know.
Sadly he was also severely abusive. To me, my dad, my aunt, cousins, etc. Most of the really bad stuff has only been in the last few years. IDK. I don't want to say anything bad about him. Especially not so soon after he's passed. It's difficult to say the least. He has hurt my dad and Aunt and Cousin SO much. I haven't been back to Virginia for about 5-6 years, so aside from FB pictures, he hasn't seen me much. Though we do...did talk on the phone.
The last call I got from him was on my 30th Birthday last month when I had the flu.
I have the last gift I will ever get from him sitting right next to me right now.
So basically things are crazy hectic right now. We don't know when the funeral will be yet, and I will most likely need to go back to Virginia for it (I live in Florida)
I was hoping to have some of these done before valentines day (the free art) But I just don't know.
I will keep working on it until everyone who is on the current list has their art. Just please understand that I am completely overwhelmed at the moment. I have no less then 4 Dr's appointments this week and I'm also supposed to be Belly Dancing with a troupe at the State Faire on Sunday. So even if I don't have to go to the funeral this weekend, I'm still completely swamped.
I'm hoping working on the art will help get my mind off of things. I have a few of your lovie pieces sketched, and I'm hoping to do some line art and maybe some color today.
So just letting you all know what's going on. I didn't forget about you guys, I promise.
I'll post again when I have a more clear idea of what's going on, and maybe post some WIPs of what I have so far.
He has been having a bit of a hard time for a little less then a year now. I believe I wrote a journal about it when he first started having issues last year. IDK.
It's been really crazy the last 24 hours, and obviously hard.
I Grew up living next door to my grandparents. My dad still lives next door to them. So we were close.
It's..idk...
There are a lot of good memories, and he was a fire fighter, met JFK, helped during the MLK riots, then became a travel tour guide and went all over the world. He also did these insane Christmas displays with things he created to look like Disney characters and all sortsa stuff. Even had Bugs Bunny in a helicopter on the roof (I'm serious, I'll post pics when I get them)
He brought Santa Clause in 3 nights during the Christmas season. On a fire truck no less! So that all the children in the community could see him. He did it for free and most people remember him for that. He was 85 years old. And leaves behind his wife of 65 years, my grandmother. She had a stroke about 2 years ago. So IDK if she will start to get better, or deteriorate and perhaps pass on herself...I just don't know.
Sadly he was also severely abusive. To me, my dad, my aunt, cousins, etc. Most of the really bad stuff has only been in the last few years. IDK. I don't want to say anything bad about him. Especially not so soon after he's passed. It's difficult to say the least. He has hurt my dad and Aunt and Cousin SO much. I haven't been back to Virginia for about 5-6 years, so aside from FB pictures, he hasn't seen me much. Though we do...did talk on the phone.
The last call I got from him was on my 30th Birthday last month when I had the flu.
I have the last gift I will ever get from him sitting right next to me right now.
So basically things are crazy hectic right now. We don't know when the funeral will be yet, and I will most likely need to go back to Virginia for it (I live in Florida)
I was hoping to have some of these done before valentines day (the free art) But I just don't know.
I will keep working on it until everyone who is on the current list has their art. Just please understand that I am completely overwhelmed at the moment. I have no less then 4 Dr's appointments this week and I'm also supposed to be Belly Dancing with a troupe at the State Faire on Sunday. So even if I don't have to go to the funeral this weekend, I'm still completely swamped.
I'm hoping working on the art will help get my mind off of things. I have a few of your lovie pieces sketched, and I'm hoping to do some line art and maybe some color today.
So just letting you all know what's going on. I didn't forget about you guys, I promise.
I'll post again when I have a more clear idea of what's going on, and maybe post some WIPs of what I have so far.
Take your time as well, no need to feel rushed in things, it'll make you feel worse.
I know I'm going to need the comfort of art when I get back. I have NO idea how I'm going to survive this trip. For serious.
Plus my mate Juin will not be coming. So that sucks too :/
Aww, that sucks he isn't coming. :/
Goodluck over the next couple of weeks!
I think I just need to survive this weekend, and after that it should get better. All the family stuff and the funeral will make it more real ya know?
so yeah...
It gets more real later... Strongs to you Lysette
My own list...he saw one of the tattoos on my shoulder and called me trash.
I'm the only one that was far enough away from him over the last 2 years since my grandmother had the stroke, so I am able to see past all the bad a little easier, but I totally sympathize with my family.
My cousin saw my grandmother the day my grandfather died after not coming around for 2 years. I know my grandmother accepts her and her wife, and loves her dearly. Heck they think my grandmother might start to improve now that people can come around her again. He (my grandfather) had been so nasty to people before her stroke and then after that he pretty much chased everyone away. He even was brought up on sexual harassment for being overly lascivious to one of my grandmother's nurses/caregivers.
Idk...what does it say about a person when their passing is a GOOD thing?
A lot of people have said my grandmother may pass sooner now that hes gone because of the fact that they were married for 65 years. But I think she might actually get better. Lord knows what kind of abuse he did to her.
idk...I feel aweful speaking ill of the dead. It seems so wrong. But..yeah...idk.
It'll all be more real once I get up there. Ugh I'm going to lose my fucking mind I swear.
Fun thing is that when someone called about my grandmother and I mentioned my family was at the funeral, I immediately started getting a speech on how these things happen and not to be sad... I just said I was fine and I knew that, nothing to worry about. They kept going on... uh... well clearly they didn't know her the way I did >.>;;;; anyways, happens I guess
I wish you a safe trip there and back, strength to get through, and warmth and support from your friends and loved ones all along. I'll be sending positive energies your way.