*nodsnods* I know just what you mean. It sounds that, like me, you're largely asexual towards humans. Heh - I like how you put it too - touch-ically intimate is nice; hugs, kisses, cuddling. Going more physically/passionately intimate in more adult-ish ways, ehhh... kinda uninteresting. After many years of first not knowing that asexuality was even a thing, and then later being worried about mentioning it, I've realized the best thing you can do is just be up front about it. It's something that I find a lot of people struggle to understand because sexual drive has gotta be one of the most base, deeply ingrained human behaviours, so for most people who have it, it's very hard to imagine it not being there. But a good partner - one who is willing to love you and be with you, will listen and will try to understand. :) Don't be afraid to tell people Kurra.

Ohhhh, i'm so not asexual. Hah. I REALLY AM NOT (and am glad for that). Just, before the #$@%*&ing, there's got to be the bonding.

Ahhhh... so it's more that you're worried about "bonding" being something that turns into the other party wanting more intimate stuff too quickly?

...Sssssort of. but I declared what I wanted to.

Same suggestion still applies though; be honest, and be yourself. If the person is truly worth it, they should understand (and appreciate) your wanting to take time.

I worry sometimes about what's going to happen if I ever get into a relationship. Here I am approaching my mid 30s and I have zero experience with relationships and intimacy/sexual things except for looking at porn... are they not going to like me because i'm so inexperienced? I really want to get into a relationship but at the same time it SCARES me so I don't go seeking it out...