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9 years ago
So I have a Facebook profile, and I've begun adding furries. I'm not adding anyone who is 18 and under, as its just inappropriate for someone of my age to be 'friends' with people so young. I know if random adults had been friending my daughter when she was under 18 as a parent I would have been very unhappy!
One thing I've noticed is so many needy furs. Many posting about being lonely, posts like 'Rate me' or 'What do you want from me' and a list of numbers with answers...And it makes me sad.
I had someone post they were going to suicide- and it really disturbed me. How do I, as someone who can entirely sympathise with those emotions help someone halfway around the world, who I don't know, with something as huge as feeling suicidal? The truth is, I can't. I can send a 'Hey, I hope you're okay' message- but I really can't do much. I don't know if they're serious, or attention seeking- and that is a hard thing for someone like me. I am very empathic, and when people talk about those things it brings up my experiences, and makes me want to help them- like others helped me. But how to do that without seeming like a creeper is a fine line!
We, as furries, attract broken people it seems- and thats perfectly okay- everyone needs a place to be loved and appreciated. But what worries me is this constant dependence on others to make oneself feel good. You do *not* need anyone else's approval to be worthwhile. You are a living breathing testament to your strength, your abilities and you are worthy of living life- and the only person who needs to love you, and to pay you any attention is yourself. *YOU* are the most important person in your life.
I know it can be hard to just be you sometimes- I really truly understand that. I have been there, and when I turned the light onto myself- instead of shining it outwards, hoping someone would see me and think me worthy- my life changed.
I learned to love me, and be happy. I'm not happy all the time- no one is- but I no longer let things that I cannot change (and sometimes that includes how people feel about me) bother me to the point it had in the past.
And I want anyone who reads this to know that if you are struggling, and want someone to talk to- I am here. I offer my shoulder to cry on, or an ear to listen. You are not alone, and there is someone in the world who would miss you if you weren't here.
Me.
One thing I've noticed is so many needy furs. Many posting about being lonely, posts like 'Rate me' or 'What do you want from me' and a list of numbers with answers...And it makes me sad.
I had someone post they were going to suicide- and it really disturbed me. How do I, as someone who can entirely sympathise with those emotions help someone halfway around the world, who I don't know, with something as huge as feeling suicidal? The truth is, I can't. I can send a 'Hey, I hope you're okay' message- but I really can't do much. I don't know if they're serious, or attention seeking- and that is a hard thing for someone like me. I am very empathic, and when people talk about those things it brings up my experiences, and makes me want to help them- like others helped me. But how to do that without seeming like a creeper is a fine line!
We, as furries, attract broken people it seems- and thats perfectly okay- everyone needs a place to be loved and appreciated. But what worries me is this constant dependence on others to make oneself feel good. You do *not* need anyone else's approval to be worthwhile. You are a living breathing testament to your strength, your abilities and you are worthy of living life- and the only person who needs to love you, and to pay you any attention is yourself. *YOU* are the most important person in your life.
I know it can be hard to just be you sometimes- I really truly understand that. I have been there, and when I turned the light onto myself- instead of shining it outwards, hoping someone would see me and think me worthy- my life changed.
I learned to love me, and be happy. I'm not happy all the time- no one is- but I no longer let things that I cannot change (and sometimes that includes how people feel about me) bother me to the point it had in the past.
And I want anyone who reads this to know that if you are struggling, and want someone to talk to- I am here. I offer my shoulder to cry on, or an ear to listen. You are not alone, and there is someone in the world who would miss you if you weren't here.
Me.
PinaWolfe
~pinawolfe
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Exactly. On the internet its really hard to decipher the usual clues, but I always take someone seriously. Its too important not to.
