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9 years ago
I've been in the dumps pretty badly lately and several questions have crept up on my mind, in one particular issue:
Are the friends you have really your friends? What separates a friend from just someone you know and talk to from time to time? Can you be friends with people that hate each other or do you need to choose between them eventually? Can you consider someone a friend if that entire thing is based one just one thing and the moment it is not a topic there is nothing else?
I'd like to hear about what you guys have to say about this sort of stuff. That said, WHY I am bringing it up here of all places... well, I dont have anywhere else to ask, really. I'll be deleting this journal in 3 days, so if someone doesnt wanna see this every time they come to my page they dont have to worry about seeing it too much.
Are the friends you have really your friends? What separates a friend from just someone you know and talk to from time to time? Can you be friends with people that hate each other or do you need to choose between them eventually? Can you consider someone a friend if that entire thing is based one just one thing and the moment it is not a topic there is nothing else?
I'd like to hear about what you guys have to say about this sort of stuff. That said, WHY I am bringing it up here of all places... well, I dont have anywhere else to ask, really. I'll be deleting this journal in 3 days, so if someone doesnt wanna see this every time they come to my page they dont have to worry about seeing it too much.
If someone cares if you disappear, if someone wants and values you for who you are, then they are a friend.
Please don't delete this journal!
I'd say if you feel like you can call someone your friend, and they feel like they call you the same, then there you go. No need to overthink it, you know?
If your friends that hate each other hang in different groups there shouldn't really be much issue. If it's within the same group of friends that there's animosity it's best to try and get some kind of understanding between them. You can still be civil to people you don't like.
You could always just try asking. Get their take on the relationship, see how they feel about things. If they're concerned that you would ask that, it probably means they're a good friend. Maybe I have no idea at all and I'm just cynical, who knows!