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Issues with certain people.
9 years ago
Every once in a while. I get upset at select artists here on FA who I have interacted with. They are people who are artists, and can be good ones at that. However, as people who interact with people and socialize, I find that they can be manipulative, rude and take advantage of people they call friends. With some research, I do find that those people I have a reputation for the things they have done wrong. Seeing who these people are, I get an intense want to worn people to avoid these artists and to expose them for the people they are behind their masks! It's extremely easy to throw up a mask and make yourself appear as a much nicer character then you actually are, then use that connection to use people for their own gain. There is a very certain someone which I wish I could cut that connection and save that someone. It really sickens me on who some people go around and hurt people from behind a mask.
However. I don't know what to do about it. Feel like I can't in fear of a few things. One is because I know of FA's view on drama, and would smite me down if I say anything. (Even with this Journal,). Two is that I'm not too good with words, and would most likely botch my words and/or message I'd have towards such people. Three is how people view me. You know that saying of the thing that you're mad at, is the thing that you're afraid of becoming. It just leaves me at a stale mate where I go in cycles in my mind. I end up feeling like ether yelling at them, or draw hate art. (Wouldn't post.)
So.. Anyone have any advice of what to do when these emotions arise? I want to avoid drama, but... Well, you know how drama is, and don't know what I should do.
:EDIT: Seems that people are mistaking what I'm looking for by this journal. I do block and do my best to ignore. The problem is when I remember said people and dwell on hating them. How do I avoid/get myself out of dwelling part?
However. I don't know what to do about it. Feel like I can't in fear of a few things. One is because I know of FA's view on drama, and would smite me down if I say anything. (Even with this Journal,). Two is that I'm not too good with words, and would most likely botch my words and/or message I'd have towards such people. Three is how people view me. You know that saying of the thing that you're mad at, is the thing that you're afraid of becoming. It just leaves me at a stale mate where I go in cycles in my mind. I end up feeling like ether yelling at them, or draw hate art. (Wouldn't post.)
So.. Anyone have any advice of what to do when these emotions arise? I want to avoid drama, but... Well, you know how drama is, and don't know what I should do.
:EDIT: Seems that people are mistaking what I'm looking for by this journal. I do block and do my best to ignore. The problem is when I remember said people and dwell on hating them. How do I avoid/get myself out of dwelling part?
It's best to just move forward and forget about them.
If a person sucks, other people will interact with them and figure out as you have :P
The golden rule to bear in mind with all this, not everyone will get along with everyone, just because you don't like how they handle things (The artists) doesn't mean they are necessarily as much of a deal to the rest of the community. If someone wants your opinion, or you know someone personally who could be interested in getting to know them, I think its a fair idea to share your opinion and outlook if the topic comes up. But, you need to trust the community, and your friends, to make their own opinions. Maybe they don't agree with your outlook, maybe they don't care about what you have a problem with, that is their choice to make. Its good you want to protect those you care about and decry what you feel is an injustice in the way these people act, but sometimes people need to make their own mistakes to learn, if you go around trying to publicly protect everyone from these masks as you put it by shaming them where everyone can see, they may never learn to be wary, they may never learn to make their own judgements about the integrity of those they wish to get in with.
Have an opinion, don't be afraid to say "I dislike this person for X Y Z." when the conversation justifies it. But, don't make yourself a drama llama and publicly make your complaints the problem of your fans and friends.
Side not, and because sheer curiosity. How did you find this journal if you're not watching me?
I really like this person's art though, so I have continued to follow them, but I no longer read their journals, or give comments, or favorite anything because I don't want to give them undeserved attention. I feel like if I (or anyone for that matter) would call them out, the artist's many fans who have fallen for their facade will just strike me down in an instant, invalidating anything I say. So I just watch now. It would be unwise to start a war, but maybe PM your friends to not follow this person, and your feelings about them. Anyone you can save from falling into their manipulation is good.
I think it is best to just leave it alone, let someone else do the outcry.
Nobody is perfect... measuring people by your own yardstick (that is, judging them by
your own standards) is a recipe for disaster. Learn to let it go. People are allowed to
be jerks... it's not nice, but it's not illegal.
People use the expression "take a chill pill", which to me means getting away from FA
and the computer, and doing something different for a while. Play videogames, read a
book, go have a bite to eat, that sort of thing.