Life Update & Relationships -- Dragoneer's Journal -- Fur Affinity [dot] net

Life Update & Relationships

5 years ago

I really didn't want to address this publicly, and wanted to keep our personal affairs both personal and private. Unfortunately, a few malicious individuals who found out about this decided to start spreading rumors, going to our friends behind our backs and discussing our private info... and the rumors have spread, and some of the things I'm hearing are as far from the truth could possibly be.

Sciggles and I have separated. It's hard to say that openly and publicly but it is what it is. Sciggles and I have drifted apart somewhat, and our directions and life goals have taken us down different paths. Our separation is a mutual one. Sciggles and I are still best friends, and I consider her one of the closest people in my life. There is nothing devious or malicious between us and we both have nothing but respect and love for each other and want nothing but the best. We are still a strong team and have no plans on stopping that.

Again, I wanted to keep my personal life just that — personal. Sciggles is one of the best things to ever have happened in my life, and I don't regret a single day that's gone by with her in my life.

200 Comments

Fireboy224
Watcher

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5 years ago

I was curious but never wanted to ask because it was none of my business.

Sciggles
Anthro Artist

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5 years ago

Honestly I wish that was how everyone thought, it really should be something thats between us and its unfortunate that this post needs to be made. But better that everyone know the truth than run around with negative rumors.

Fireboy224
Watcher

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5 years ago

I understand drama happens and there are some situations I get people do it. but this there was no reason too. Sad to hear as always but its your guys life, this isnt People Magazine. Just hope you are both doing well afterwards and hope life is happy on the separate paths.

YamatoIouko
Watcher

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5 years ago

I kind of assumed you guys were moving apart just based on your art submissions. >.>

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JadeMoontail
Artist/Writer

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5 years ago

I agree with this statement

WithoutAVoice
Art Whore

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5 years ago

Well then I surely wouldn't have known about it.
Shame that these people want to spread rumors and what have you.
Hoping this gets resolved and left alone.

Dragoneer
Digimon | Virus-Type

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5 years ago

I felt the need to address it head first before the rumors went further. Both to confirm, but also to dispel some of the narrative some people are adding onto it.

WithoutAVoice
Art Whore

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5 years ago

Oh yes, of course.
It is nice, however, to see that it was mutual between the two of you.
Not too many people do that nowadays.

FURtitude
Fursuit Maker

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5 years ago

I knew nothing about this until you posted but am a little confused, it says that sciggles is with firenvy?

Sciggles
Anthro Artist

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5 years ago

Thats because I am with Firenvy. We've been friends for a while and started dating recently. Neer and I didn't feel like we needed to post our relationship details or explain things at the time but we hit a point that we had to clarify things /now/ even though I don't feel we owe an explanation for our personal lives better to knock the rumors down now before they grew further.

FURtitude
Fursuit Maker

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5 years ago

No worries, although it still says on your profile you're a member and not an admin; is that a hiccup on FA's system?

Shivadramon
Watcher

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5 years ago

If you are looking at my Sciggles profile it says member because I keep them separate. This is my admin account and is still marked as such on my end. Not sure if its showing member to others or why if so.

FURtitude
Fursuit Maker

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5 years ago

Ahh okay, had no idea you operated under two accounts.

veemon1
Photographer

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5 years ago

i prefer not know what dragoneer's going through.

Dragoneer
Digimon | Virus-Type

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5 years ago

As would I.

veemon1
Photographer

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5 years ago

reason why i stay out your problems my friend.

MODCA
Digital Artist

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5 years ago

It's none of my business, yet I'm still sorry to hear that. Hope you two are doing fine.

Tigerman
Writer

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5 years ago

Honestly hadn't heard anything about this. At least things are still good between the two of you. Hope for the very best for you from here on out.

Ratchet_Lomu
The One and Only Horny Thel Butt

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5 years ago

As long you two are still friends, that's what counts. I'm sorry that some people have to be so stupid to try to make it worse for the two of you.

CrimsonMercury7192
Digital Artist

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5 years ago

That is just terrible! D:
I haven't heard any of these rumors and I don't trust rumors in general.
Backstabbers are one of the worst people to have in your life. It hurts you very badly that you put all your trust in them.

I am very sorry to hear about your break up...

Dragoneer
Digimon | Virus-Type

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5 years ago

My biggest issue is people twisting the truth, adding speculation and rumors as far as what happened and why, then broadcasting it all over. I've seen a few tweets about it, and it's just like "Oh, I guess Furry TMZ is out and about, looking for anything they can get."

CrimsonMercury7192
Digital Artist

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5 years ago

That's another reason why I hated the Dark Side of the Internet.

Williamca
Giant Stupid Dog

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5 years ago

Furries gonna be furries

Adam0800

#link

5 years ago

I am sorry to hear what has happened to you. While I do not know you personally. Private life should be kept private and it's sad to see you resorting to posting this publicly to address the malicious rumours. It's a shame you are put into a position where your only compromise was to address it in a journal. I very much wish all the best to you and Scgiggles. In hope lets hope that things can be resorted more easily. It's very easy for people to get the wrong impression or perception when there is no context to changes.

Quite frankly, it is none of our business what your personal life entails. However at times like these it seems necessary for you to address and fix the issues others have caused.

All the best to you Dragoneer.

Dragoneer
Digimon | Virus-Type

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5 years ago

I didn't want to address it, but I was tired of seeing people twist and warp what actually happened without knowing anything about it. It's just easier to put it out in the open and go "Yes, it happened, but we're still besties!" and move on.

I don't think anyone would want to address it at all and I didn't expect you wanted too. Still, glad things ended on good terms. :)

Bomba
Fursuiter

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5 years ago

sorry to hear about it man

FrostBight
Watcher

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5 years ago

It goes without saying that you both will continue to always have my love and support.

Sciggles
Anthro Artist

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5 years ago

AND YOU HAVE OURS, DEAL WITH IT...

Dragoneer
Digimon | Virus-Type

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5 years ago

I love you, too... even if you have access to In and Out Burger and I don't.

BlakDrgn
Art Whore

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5 years ago

So much this. XD

Kuntos
Writer

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5 years ago

but...you might have Sonic Burgers and i don't? :o

Dragoneer
Digimon | Virus-Type

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5 years ago

I love Sonic and White Castle, but there are none around me.

Kuntos
Writer

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5 years ago

awww, yer all alone from the awesome burgers as well! D:

and yer not even out in the sticks like me! D8

Jaxa
Digital Artist

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5 years ago

Do you at least have Five Guys to put into your mouth?

Their burgers are good fresh.

Rega
Fursuiter / Photography

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5 years ago

always good that you guys are friends tho.

RoninFoxtail
Art Whore

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5 years ago

Ouch. Sorry to hear man, but it's good that you two are still on good terms.

I have not heard any of these rumors personally. It is so terrible that people are spreading ANY rumor about you guy's personal affairs at all. I'm sorry this happened to you guys. As long as you guys stay strong, happy, and healthy that is what should matter

Sciggles
Anthro Artist

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5 years ago

Thank you very much Night <333

Foxpiper
Musician

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5 years ago

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UfJQ6yveYH0

thunderstrike23
Anthro Artist

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5 years ago

...You would think people have better thing to do then spread shit around...but, I guess it's not called 'Internet Hate Machine' for nothing. Well here's hoping it dies down quickly now that it's...unfortunately out in the open. Glad to see it was a mutual separation, however. Those are always the best, where you can still be friends after it all.

xK2x
Anthro Artist

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5 years ago

Wishing you both the best. <3

Sciggles
Anthro Artist

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5 years ago

Echoen
Writer

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5 years ago

Sounds like you need to purge a few people from your contacts list.

Rikkoshaye
Taco

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5 years ago

I was and am in a similar situation, and it's amazing how nosy and unfriendly people are, especially with spreading rumors. I wish the best for both of you and I'm glad you two are moving forward while staying so positive towards one another.

SD2522
Anthro Artist

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5 years ago

I'm sorry to hear that you two split, but at least you're handling it like adults (both with the separation and this). I'll never understand why others want to pry into other's personal lives, are their own private lives that boring?

Leucrotta
Traditional Artist

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5 years ago

Aww man, whatever the heck that was, I'm sorry.

Bannor
Writer

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5 years ago

Sorry to hear about the separation, but glad you two have remained friends. It's a shame that you have to also deal with a few people that derive joy from spreading gossip/rumors/crap about it, when, as you say, it's no one else's business. Hope you two remain the best of friends as you explore your own paths. :3

RoyTheDragon
Gamer/Coder/Artist in Progress

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5 years ago

Don't those assholes have anything better to do than breach on other peoples lives?
I don't see the need for people to be spreading rumors once they got word. even if it's the slightest bullshit.
(Quote me if you want, i personally don't give a damn)

ANYWAYS
I'm very sorry for you, Dragoneer and Sciggles. May the best be with you as you part ways.
It was fun while it lasted. and unfortunately as they say, things don't last forever.

Dragoneer
Digimon | Virus-Type

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5 years ago

Sometimes people just want to have the scoop on something that nobody else does, and take it too far.

Devin_Otter
Watcher

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5 years ago

OH damn, I didn't know this was happening!

HeartWolfdragon
Art Whore

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5 years ago

I never heard any of these rumors :(

Im sorry about your seperation though, it always nice to stay friends though :)

YamatoIouko
Watcher

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5 years ago

Hey man, there's no shame in admitting any of this. Life happens, and sometimes relationships don't last. It's shitty that people were spreading rumors and shit, but you shouldn't feel ashamed or anything that things didn't work out.

I get you want to keep your personal business personal, but you're a very visible member of the fandom. It's kind of difficult to avoid that forever, and particularly on something like this. Eh, I don't even know. It's good you two split on decent terms, at least.

Dragoneer
Digimon | Virus-Type

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5 years ago

It's true. I'm visible in the fandom, which comes with its own pros and cons. It's near impossible to have a bad day and try to vent without things being taken out of context, or people to misinterpret things.

YamatoIouko
Watcher

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5 years ago

You've got all the drawbacks of being a celebrity with none of the kinds of money, adoration or influence. That...has to kind of suck.

Dragoneer
Digimon | Virus-Type

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5 years ago

Very much so. XD

YamatoIouko
Watcher

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5 years ago

That's one of the reason I don't really get in on the "bash 'Neer/the admins for the shit of FA". You guys are running this on your own, and you're only human. Mistakes happens, nobody's perfect. And do you guys even make any income on this? Because for what this is for a free site, people get a fucking lot. But maybe I'm a sucker for underdogs. XD

Trunchbull
Chokey Hazard

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5 years ago

They literally aren't running the site on their own though. Dragoneer sold FA to IMVU and IMVU is paying the admins to run the site but I dont think Dragoneer told IMVU the full scope of what FA is as a site because of all the issues that popped up like the ADS, for starters.

They aren't underdogs. They're just people who don't know how to handle things personally versus professionally.

YamatoIouko
Watcher

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5 years ago

Probably because they aren't professionals? Dude, what the hell do you want here? They're people. People fuck up sometimes, and sometimes they have to work with what they have available. I'd rather have an FA owned by IMVU than no FA at all.

Sorry that I'm willing to give sympathy to the people everyone else hates. Fuck me, I guess I'm a terrible person. Should I head for Calvary, or you want to just crucify me here in front of all these people?

jamesfritz
Photographer

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5 years ago

Unfortunately they're being paid by an actual company, so it's their job to be professional.

lolno
Writer

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5 years ago

Exactly. The second you start pulling in a regular paycheck, professionalism becomes a requirement. That's why it's called professional in the first place -- it's stopped being a hobby and turned into an actual job.

quoting_mungo
Cat nerd

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5 years ago

I didn't want to respond to this thread because it's Neer's personal journal and not the place to make a deal out of addressing ridiculous site rumors, but it's looking like y'all won't drop it.

Administrators are volunteers. I'm not pulling in a penny, much less anything that deserves the name 'paycheck' off of the time I sink into FA. We're still doing our best to handle issues promptly and professionally, but please do not go around perpetuating the rumor that we're all raking it in since the site was bought out.

I'm fine with not being paid. I'm not fine with people going around claiming I am paid.

Maybe it's time people stop pretending they know what's going on in site staff's personal lives, in general?

jamesfritz
Photographer

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5 years ago

We're talking about Neer, not you.

quoting_mungo
Cat nerd

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5 years ago

Neer is not multiple people. It was claimed that "IMVU is paying the admins", not "IMVU is paying Dragoneer".

I'm not going to argue about this, because bickering on his journal is disrespectful to Neer, but please stop rumormongering. It doesn't look good on anyone, yourself included.

Arti4000
Anime Artist

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5 years ago

Well, best of luck to the both of you wherever your lives decide to lead you.

Trunchbull
Chokey Hazard

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5 years ago

I see her admin privileges have been revoked. shoulda stayed and played it cool sciggles, that's what ye wanted right? ? ?

Trunchbull
Chokey Hazard

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5 years ago

inb4 comment hidden by administration and account suspended lol.

Dragoneer
Digimon | Virus-Type

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5 years ago

I'm not going to hide your comment, Trunchbull, but I am going to say that it's rather tasteless to bring some hostility into a post like, especially when I've outright stated my respect and care for her. I don't know what you're intending to start but please leave your drama at the door.

Trunchbull
Chokey Hazard

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5 years ago

also, I'm still getting harrassed by jasonafex's whiteknights and you haven't addressed any of the messages I sent you. this may not seem like the appropriate time but any private message i send to you gets ignored. the death threats need to stop and you not doing anything isn't funny or professional. tell jasonafex to straighten his ass up.

I wouldn't be this mean toward you if you did your job for once.

Sciggles
Anthro Artist

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5 years ago

Notes are not the best form of contact and it even states that on his profile, if you file a ticket an admin will look into any issues you are having.

Trunchbull
Chokey Hazard

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5 years ago

I DID MULTIPLE TIMES ON DIFFERENT ACCOUNTS and no action was taken because those accounts aren't POPUFUR while jigglebones is.
And my fucking journals got taken down for harassment and other bullshit claims like personal quarrels when there was no such thing, all because it was in the timespan of the jasonafex drama. I don't remember everything due to the hit-and-run but screenshots and archives don't lie, so I know everything that went down, mein fuhrernd

it's not just notes though. i've talked to him through journal comments and I TRIED with twitter but he flatout ignored. just ignored. And I even mentioned to him on twitter that i sent him a note. ignored. He's not a competent employee.

Trunchbull
Chokey Hazard

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5 years ago

And of course no response because FA administration would rather sweep it under the rug than actually clean up the mess properly.

Also lol apparently the comment hiding begins because dragoneer couldn't step his damage control game up

Really man? This journal has nothing to do with your personal isues. Why would they even want to help you when you're being an outright dick? You brought unsolicited drama to a journal that was trying to CLEAR drama. What is wrong with you people? It's words on a screen dude. Get over it and grow up. Stop being a douche to people and then flip around and DEMAND their help. Jesus they are actual people too

melaniecaffrey
Digital Artist

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5 years ago

Still says she is an admin on her admin account >_>

Trunchbull
Chokey Hazard

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5 years ago

what the fuck it doesn't for me

also meant to fuckng edit the comment not delete it

Sciggles
Anthro Artist

#link #parent

5 years ago

I am still an admin :)

and there was no need for that comment. We are still a team and best friends. There is no ill will.

Trunchbull
Chokey Hazard

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5 years ago

it's literally showing you as member for me http://i.imgur.com/zLqIG3v.png
in fact, all admins including dragoneer have the same member tag

not sure if that's a glitch on your site or just my shitty browser. It's probably mine.

ps thanks for unhiding the original comment.

Rafeal
Watcher

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5 years ago

Not inserting into the argument... but...

You don't show up as admin in my browser, either... *shrugs*

Dragoneer
Digimon | Virus-Type

#link #parent

5 years ago

Sciggles is still on the admin team. Did you really find it necessary to bring insults into a post like this?

Trunchbull
Chokey Hazard

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5 years ago

if you can consider that an insult [which it wasn't]. either way it was accidentally hidden. so i guess that's one problem out of your way.

Dragoneer
Digimon | Virus-Type

#link #parent

5 years ago

You seem to think I was in any way unaware of what was happening. I was fully aware of what was happening. There was no "cucking" involved.

Trunchbull
Chokey Hazard

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5 years ago

that's easy enough to declare friend but what actually happens is often a different story behind those closed doors. You've lied enough about personal life and the wellbeing of FurAffinity as a site to make your word hard to believe. so, sorry it's kind of hard to believe what you're saying. but, whatever makes both persons of this look good, right?

^{ʲᵘˢᵗ ᶠᵘᵏᵏᶰ ᵇᵃᶰ ᵐᵉ ᵃᶫʳᵉᵃᵈʸ, ᵗʰᶦˢ ᴵˢ ᶜᵒᶰˢᶦᵈᵉʳᵉᵈ ʰᵃʳᵃˢˢᵐᵉᶰᵗ/ᵇᵘᶫᶫʸᶦᶰᵍ}

Chase
Rare Elite ?? World Boss

#link #parent

5 years ago

"ʲᵘˢᵗ ᶠᵘᵏᵏᶰ ᵇᵃᶰ ᵐᵉ ᵃᶫʳᵉᵃᵈʸ, ᵗʰᶦˢ ᴵˢ ᶜᵒᶰˢᶦᵈᵉʳᵉᵈ ʰᵃʳᵃˢˢᵐᵉᶰᵗ/ᵇᵘᶫᶫʸᶦᶰᵍ"

Grow up.

If you're unhappy, you can disable your account here.

Mensies
Digital Artist

#link #parent

5 years ago

Now we all know that suicide is not an option. As long as you don't take action against a popufur's account, you're allowing this kind of behaviour to occur with people like Jasonafex, Zaush, and Trunchbull. Suspend or talk it out. Making her close her account isn't the point.

lolno
Writer

#link #parent

5 years ago

Popular users on this site get to be exempt from the rules due to the page views they pull in. It doesn't matter how blatantly they break the rules, the admins will find some reason to not take action if the watcher count is high enough.

Thera
They/Them

#link #parent

5 years ago

I didn't want to believe it but that's my own experience as well. >_>;

Course you can't straight up delete it
replacing all that SUPER LEET PHP must be tough

-IV-
Digital Artist

#link #parent

5 years ago

Come on man. De-op her.

She caused all this trouble and heartache and depression and just plain shat allover your future family plans forever and you're just going to pretend like nothing happened?

What's next? Giving admin status to her new bedbuddy for good measure to show you're all still friends and stuff?

Dude.

Dragoneer
Digimon | Virus-Type

#link #parent

5 years ago

She caused all this trouble and heartache and depression and just plain shat allover your future family plans forever and you're just going to pretend like nothing happened?
Nothing like that happened whatsoever.

-IV-
Digital Artist

#link #parent

5 years ago

You posted an earlier journal where you complained about depression and lack of artistic creativity/motivation.
Separation hurts. It does this kind of stuff to you.

You have been made to feel bad.

And she doesn't look like she's hurting about it, drawing herself with hearts and shit.

windfalcon_art
Coffee-addled falcon

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5 years ago

Maybe I'm out of place saying this, but I think Dragoneer knows better what's going on in his own relationship than you do. It's kind of rude to say "you have been made to feel bad" when Dragoneer himself has told you that the relationship issue has nothing to do with his depression and lack of motivation.

Please respect when people dispel rumors about themselves.

-IV-
Digital Artist

#link #parent

5 years ago

Sure it has nothing to do with it. It's just one hell of a damn coincidence that his relationship going down the drain happens to be around the same time with him feeling a bit kinda not very happy and creative. And everybody can't seem to understand why.

Just cause you people won't have the balls to say it, I'll say it for you. This shit hurts, and one person in this crappy failed love triangle has gotten the short end of the stick and is most likely hurting the most, cause the other two seem all too lovey-dovey and shit to care, and their lip service in this thread means nothing to me, cause I wasn't born yesterday. I can smell bullshit from a mile away because my own trust was abused.

Maybe I'm bringing my own issues into this, but I feel that I need to say these things.

Also, I'm not even going on rumors (which turned out to be true, as this very journal shows), I'm at this point going on official info alone. Sciggles' Twitter, her BF's twitter, Neer's journals. I'm just connecting the dots.

Sciggles
Anthro Artist

#link #parent

5 years ago

Please don't assert your feelings into what you /assume/ we are feeling. As I said below how I feel and how I express it is my business and you have no right to try and push these other ideas out there as fact. Some parts of my life and things that lead to this will remain private and yes I do ask that that be respected. If you can't drop it and stop trying to make it out like I've caused his depression I will take it as harassment. So kindly knock it off.

-IV-
Digital Artist

#link #parent

5 years ago

I'm not talking to you. And I'm done here.

windfalcon_art
Coffee-addled falcon

#link #parent

5 years ago

You are incredibly rude. You're not talking TO her but you're talking ABOUT her, and she's not allowed to defend herself? What is wrong with you?

You got called out on incorrect speculation, got embarrassed, and told one of the involved people basically to butt out of her own business. I'd be absolutely humiliated at my behavior if I were you.

Sjru
Digital Artist

#link

5 years ago

Reminds me of papparazis that snup into others lifes just because drama and fluff

SuMei
Anthro Artist

#link

5 years ago

Aww sorry to hear about the separation! I hope all will be well in the future for you guys though, and stuff like that happens unfortunately. Happened to me with one of my exes, and we're best friends still :) If you need to talk hit me up through a note X3

Dragoneer
Digimon | Virus-Type

#link #parent

5 years ago

Communication is important in a relationship. It can make all the difference in the world.

SuMei
Anthro Artist

#link #parent

5 years ago

Yes that it definitely can, and also the thing that changed my relationship with my ex girlfriend at the time. Stuff happened, then like...we spoke and we mutually broke up. However, we support each other as much as we can still, and I hope you can still do that with your ex :)

Indagare
Writer

#link

5 years ago

*hugs* All my best to you and Sciggles as you go your own ways. I hope both of you can find love again even if it's not with one another.

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cryptor13
Anthro Artist

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5 years ago

Aww. I am sorry to hear that. You and Sciggles made a fantastic team together. I do wish the both of you well on your separate adventures.
I am also sorry people were rude to talk about something that wasn't their issue to discuss. Rumors are despicable things.
Best wishes to you both.
I've always enjoyed seeing the comics of the two of you together~ n.n
I am so happy you are still close and great friends~

Sciggles
Anthro Artist

#link #parent

5 years ago

We are still a strong team :D just different now

cryptor13
Anthro Artist

#link #parent

5 years ago

I am happy to hear this~ <3
Will there still be parties and sushi dinners? XD

Dragoneer
Digimon | Virus-Type

#link #parent

5 years ago

Always.

cryptor13
Anthro Artist

#link #parent

5 years ago

Sweeeet~ <3

starfox246
Writer

#link

5 years ago

youb been together this long i hope you two can work it out

blackfrost
Watcher

#link

5 years ago

I hope the best for you both. I'll never understand why others can't stay out off folks business. It doesn't partake to them they need to bugger off.

Tombfyre
Writer

#link

5 years ago

Ah, the rumor mill. :/ This is definitely none of my business, but it sounds like you're both being very civil about things. That's usually a good sign. :) Good luck to you both!

Thera
They/Them

#link

5 years ago

I've watched this kind of thing happen far too many times now.

Neer, if you ever need someone to talk to, just message me anywhere.

kayanamasha
DarkDoomer's cringe repository.

#link

5 years ago

well, it was obvious lately, with the posts and journals from you and her, it kind of made me feel worried.
of course, we all seen what were going on, and even this isn't our private life, it's like everybody feels like the need to be excessively open about everything on social networks. i'm trying to stay as disconnected from this kind of stuff as much as possible but there's info you can't avoid now.

so, well, take care man!

Let
Anime Artist

#link

5 years ago

I honestly had no idea.

Kurrikage
Filler of Rooms

#link

5 years ago

It's all good dude. Glad to hear things ended mutually rather than explosively. Isn't going to stop me from watching either of you.

feralfrenzy
Digital Artist

#link

5 years ago

While I know it's none of my business, I hope things work out and motor along smoothly.

Dineegla
Classical Artist

#link

5 years ago

Whatever happens I know that both of you are wise and will respect each other. God bless you both!

Jimbear
Jimbear the Macro Sorcerer

#link

5 years ago

This is a little sad to hear, but I'm glad you both are still on the same team and are close friends. Good luck to you both. :)

Izaak
Navel Sea Captain

#link

5 years ago

It never once crossed my mind dude, but i'm so glad that things ended peacefully and that you're still great friends, that is wonderful! Keep strong and carry on, and if ever you wannae talk or whatever, know i'm always there for you~

TechKat
Photographer

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5 years ago

Off-topic, I wouldn't even want to deal with Trunchball either if that's how they're going to act on a personal journal, all because they didn't get their own way. Maybe if they shown some respect to the admins, they'd be dealt with. Acting like admins aren't fragile humans.

On-topic, hope things work out and that this separation doesn't go further away from being close friends.

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jamesfritz
Photographer

#link #parent

5 years ago

I love when Administration only hide the stuff that exposes the truth, and leaves critical commentary like this to the public like Trunchbull was ALL in the wrong.

TechKat
Photographer

#link #parent

5 years ago

I never said Trunchbull was in the wrong, nor do I agree with admins hiding comments.

But with the type of bullshit they're throwing out, it's not helping their cause. Dragoneer is only hiding comments so that drama doesn't unfold in the wrong place.

You really want something done about it, go e-mail IMVU's CEO directly. Guarantee that you'll get somewhere.

Chase
Rare Elite ?? World Boss

#link #parent

5 years ago

You may also open a trouble ticket and get assistance here.

While the block system may assist users in resolving unwanted contact in most cases, we have little tolerance towards users making threats.

I saw some comments about messaging staff directly; however, this goes against Fur Affinity's Code of Conduct. We ask that users do NOT contact staff directly via Notes, shouts, or comments. Site issues should handled via the ticket system in almost every case.

NamelessImp
Some kinda artsy imp thing

#link #parent

5 years ago

Not arguing for or against anyone, but trouble tickets are often handled so painfully slowly, that I don't blame users for noting or leaving shouts. I get you guys can't do everything at once, but tickets can back up for MONTHS and never be addressed. It's still happening, so obviously more recruits need to be taken up. And when it's something upsetting like death threats, you want it taken care of. I've seen many people report things but then finally 3 months later an admin gets to it and says it happened too long ago for them to do anything. That's flawed and needs to change.

Chase
Rare Elite ?? World Boss

#link #parent

5 years ago

I agree that in the past, ticket response times left a lot to be desired; however, our responses are pretty quick now with exception to Beta/UI/Bugs which require troubleshooting and more back/forth.

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Kuntos
Writer

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5 years ago

sucks to hear y'all split up, but i'm glad you could at least salvage a good friendship despite it. :)

you guys both keep giving it yer best for now.

technicolor_pie
Digital Artist

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5 years ago

This 'cucking' meme is the dumbest thing the chans have produced in awhile, and that's saying something.

I know this is weird coming from me since I'm regularly critical of you but: Sorry people are being ridiculous about the relationship thing.

Dragoneer
Digimon | Virus-Type

#link #parent

5 years ago

I had no idea what cucking is. I had to look it up. Heh.

technicolor_pie
Digital Artist

#link #parent

5 years ago

It's okay. Neither do most of them considering how they use it. Cripes.

jamesfritz
Photographer

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5 years ago

How is this possible when you're friends with Zaush?

Zanth
Watcher

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5 years ago

Oh you!

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fastbreak333
Watcher

#link #parent

5 years ago

A "cuck" is a man paired with a woman that is sexually active with other men. It came from that Zoe Quinn fiasco; they referred to his ex-boyfriend as a cuck since Quinn allegedly slept with other people. It's been a persistent slang word ever since.

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ShadowEon
Traditional Artist

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5 years ago

It has been,its been around for a long time.

fastbreak333
Watcher

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5 years ago

It has, the Zoe Quinn fiasco just made it super popular.

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Sirfy

#link

5 years ago

O man, that's a real bummer to hear :( I'm glad to hear that it wasn't something negative and you guys are still close though <3 Even more sad that I first heard about it through these malicious rumors. Wish people would mind their own business~
*hugs*
I love you guys <3

Kubo
Art Harlot

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5 years ago

good god the aggressive bitching here is just beyond ridiculous. :/
I'm so sorry you have to even deal with this preyfar.
I wish you both the best & some much needed peace from some of these folks <3
Your lives are your own to manage - not everyone elses.

danieldr4gonz
Traditional Artist

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5 years ago

it's none of my business but weren't you and Sciggles married/engaged before this happened?

JadeMoontail
Artist/Writer

#link

5 years ago

Sorry to hear this, and I wish you didn't have to make this journal

Magnumugus
Artist/Modeler

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5 years ago

i had the same thing happen to me some years ago im just glad they are still my best friend

irreverent
Watcher

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5 years ago

I'm sorry to hear this, and I wish both you and Sciggles all the best in your future endeavors. Your candor and professionalism in dealing with a very public facet of a deeply personal issue is a credit to you both.

Machinesbleedtoo
Nosebleed Enthusiast

#link

5 years ago

Much love to you both. <3

4Death
Digital Artist

#link

5 years ago

It's sad that people have to be asinine enough to cause problems, nevertheless ones that meddle with secrets and relationships. Dragoneer, I feel bad for you having to go through that, but at the same time, I do hope you and Scriggles still kick ass together, and continue to build a stronger fur-community here.

ThreeDawg
Remixer

#link

5 years ago

Maybe if you stepped down from running the site, you might find yourself under much LESS of a magnifying glass, because frankly, the decisions you've made over the last few years have made many a person simply come to not really liking you. At all. And perhaps, that is what has influenced the decision to air things like this out in the open.

But really, keep anything you don't want found out off the internet. Almost anything can come back to bite you eventually.

Vene
Artist Monster Extraordinaire

#link

5 years ago

Im sorry you two split. But it is good to hear you two are entirely on good terms about it. I never heard any rumors going around, but i tend not to believe them most of the time

You and Scigs are both awesome people and a credit to this community. Keep on doing what you do best <3

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daniel_arken
Anthro Artist

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5 years ago

I second the furs who said that they didn't want to know. That's all your business.

Personally I think it's garbage that some furs feel the need to destroy what they can, but at the same time, we're a society that relishes in shadenfreude. It really is the dark side of fame, and it sucks.

Hope things clear up, and those responsible figure out something else to do. I would say someone else to pester, but it's better to hope that the behavior gets old.

Take care, dude.

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d0e
Bourgeois ArtPimp 4d Đœlateriat

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5 years ago

Long ago someone created art that asserted that FA was

“Powered By Drama”

If that is true, then FA’s UPS batteries are all topped up!

Kai151Drandro
Digital Artist

#link

5 years ago

I'm glad your still strong Dragoneer!

Phiora
Art lover

#link

5 years ago

Gosh, I'm so sorry that you drifted apart, and horrified rumors were being spread. I haven't heard any, But I don't really go seeking it out.
Very glad to hear you'll continue being so close <3

*waves some pom poms* Keep up the positivity!!!!!

LGslam
Traditional Artist

#link

5 years ago

Sorry to hear about it. I can understand that it's bad to just leave rumors going around until it gets out of control and makes it really worst.

On a lighter note, it still good to hear that you two are still best friends. As long as you two can still hang out, it's all good.

Ryunwoofie
PrOn Artist

#link

5 years ago

Goes to show how mature people can be and bring up petty crap they have no idea of behind the scenes or even how long this has been going on. Neither of you deserved that. Someone's relationship status is no-body's business. PERIOD. Some people can't get out of their own asses sometimes.

I'm sorry what happened happened and I wish you both the best. I'm glad you could remain friends. I know breakups don't always happen that way and you are fortunate for that.

Takara_Kitsune
Watcher

#link

5 years ago

I'm sorry to hear you two have seperated. Honestly, I'm glad you're both still friends, though.

I still love both your artworks, and I may not agree with everything that goes on with the site, but I surely don't see the need to invade anyone's privacy over it.

Honestly, a bit sad to have heard this at all, I didn't know before, and I kinda don't think I wanted to know. I hope you're both doing well, though, and I hope that things settle down so you can move on. (Move on from the rumors, I officially declare that you and Sciggles must remain friends... FOREVER. I can't do that? Fine. >: ( ) But yes, these sorts of things should never be brought to light publicly in any manner, unless it's done by the actual involved parties. Major downside to this whole "Internet" thing.

Furrydragon
Watcher

#link

5 years ago

I like to wish both of you the best in each of ur futures ^^

cobaltin
The Purple Gay thing

#link

5 years ago

Unfortunately those in the eyes of many see all incorrectly. As it goes in the Entertainment industry, so does it anywhere else. The more famous you are the more your personal life becomes one with your public. Trust me, I know how shit it is, I work with people who know how shit it is. But you're a quote unquote celebrity in the eyes of the fandom, and your dirty laundry is unfortunately going to be ruffled through by those with too much time and too little to do. Sorry for the breakup, mate, I know how hard those are mutual or not. But if you get back on the horse and keep it going you'll get a move on, don't worry~

ShadowWolger
Watcher

#link

5 years ago

I'm sorry to hear this man its sad that people stick their noses in places they are not supposed to be, if you ever want to chat I'm here *hugs*

Raidy
Photographer

#link

5 years ago

That surely had to be one of the hardest posts in sure you've made here, 'Neer. I'd say I'm sorry to hear you two have gone separate paths but the fact you're still close is the good I can take from this. I do know it can be a struggle still, because it is a big shift in your life. I wish nothing but the best for the two of you!

Lots of love,
- Raidy

Haikei
Beatboxer

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5 years ago

As someone who is currently in the exact same scenario as you in my love life. I understand how hard it must be if on top of that, if people start spreading rumors about it too. I wish you a lot of strength! And I wish you both the best in your futures! :)

FunkatronicDingus
Watcher

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5 years ago

lmao furries

timril
Watcher

#link

5 years ago

I'm sorry you've experienced such a dilemma

fastbreak333
Watcher

#link

5 years ago

Celebrity culture is a strange one... even if you're only popular in a subgroup like furries or YouTubers, you'll still get so many people closely following everything you do. I hope you deal with this stress accordingly.

jjames012002
Photographer

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5 years ago

I was curious about what was going on from noticing a few things. But I didn't want to ask or push anything for the simple reason you said alone. I'm sorry to hear what has happened and sorry to hear what your friends have said. I still think you two are the best still out there. Either way, again. My greatest heart out their for you all and hope many amazing friendship more to come.

By the way, if this doesn't really make much since or anything. Sorry, running on nearly no sleep for 2 days at the moment. Goodnight! xD

AkuDrache
Digital Artist

#link

5 years ago

Hey Everyone is happy that's what matters! i never listen to peoples rumors anyway! you will always be tops in my books Dragoneer! you were one of the First people to write to me As "preyfar" On Big gulp Message board i believe it was. <3

Mercury.
Watcher

#link

5 years ago

Depression hurts it can make life feel very heavy and weighted down. I've suffered with it for years... it's sad to see your life being flashed like a news feed. Being so out in the open has to be very hard emotionally and physically. I can't offer much but support and an ear if you ever need one. Depression bi polar etc... doesn't get better with medication on its own it takes a support system of understanding people around you and knowing signs to help manage it.

There also could be support groups in your area for you to talk with. But... if your like me the furry thing tends to be one trigger I can't talk about just to anyone. I'm worried about being judged -.-; but if I can help anyway please don't hesitate to ask

mobius1
Digital Artist

#link

5 years ago

People like to stick their nose where it doesn't belong, heck had a drama bomb fall on me last year, over very very very false rumors. Gotta love the internet's * you're guilty before proven innocent * mentality.

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Sciggles
Anthro Artist

#link #parent

5 years ago

Who exactly are you to claim to know how I feel or what this has been like for either of us? We didn't want to make our relationship "issues" public but felt we had to and it was damn hard. Just because I don't post about crying or hurting doesn't mean I haven't had my share of pain. I just choose to express myself differently and I don't feel there is anything wrong with that nor is there anything wrong in how Neer wishes to express himself. There is however something wrong with you trying to turn this on me when we are trying to clear the air of rumors. You are adding to the pettiness in all this and would appreciate it if you would refrain from making such assumptions.

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Dragoneer
Digimon | Virus-Type

#link #parent

5 years ago

She does feel bad. We both do, but we both agreed that we each need to move on. There's been a lot of other mitigating factors which have lead to what's going on, most of which I haven't broadcast publicly. But again, I have no ill will or issue towards her.

likeshine
paradrenasite

#link

5 years ago

Best wishes to you both!

Thrakos
Bangaa Mercenary

#link

5 years ago

Personal stuff shouldn't be public, that I can agree on. Although, if a husband and wife team are the Administrators of a site, then your personal problems are affecting your professional life.

All this doesn't really matter though, FA will forever remain the site of empty promises and "We'll do better" journals. All words and zero action.

AffyWolf
Digital Artist

#link #parent

5 years ago

Took the words right outta my mouth ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

KittMouri
Traditional Artist & Writer

#link

5 years ago

I'm glad things were concluded peacefully and that you were able to preserve the friendship. That's what's important.

KV1NN4
Freelance Artist

#link

5 years ago

Aw man i somehow missed this announcement until now; sorry to hear about the separation but glad to hear you 2 are still a team and friends.

summercat
Furry Librarian

#link

5 years ago

Was honestly surprised when I saw this.

CockatriceKing
Digital Artist

#link

5 years ago

I know we don't see eye to eye often, and as such have butted heads, but there's some desperate ass people in here for entertainment or drama where there is none.

Hope you both are doing well and glad to see you both handling things in a healthy and responsible way.

quoting_mungo
Cat nerd

#link

5 years ago

As separations go, mutual ones where you remain friends are pretty much the best-case scenario. Sorry that's where life took you both, but sometimes that's what happens. Better to talk it out and part ways now, than let it grow into something that kills the fondness you still have between each other, yanno?

Hadn't expected this, but I'm not the most observant person on the planet, and I don't go digging for rumors about my friends or coworkers, so... You know where I'm at if you need me.

Crimsonred77
Writer

#link

5 years ago

I'm sorry to see all the negativity going on here, neither of you deserve a lick of it. Keep your chin up, your friends close, and work through this silly little thing we all call life. I'm sure this is tough on both of you, but you both seem to be in the best of spirits and taking it well as can be expected. Keep on soldiering, and good luck to you both!

Lizeron
Digital Artist

#link

5 years ago

I figured this out when sciggles posted some pics. But in the end, I was like "Oh, ok, now moving on with my own life"/

It's amazing how much people suck at living not to care about things that doesn't affect them at all.

BackStabber
Devourer of Cheeseburgers

#link

5 years ago

Yeah but sadly Sciggs and Neer, this is the furry fandom. A lot of people in it lack the common sense to know what is and what isn't their business. Sorry to hear you've been dealing with this amount of grief from people who went about spreading rumors just so you'd give in and make a public journal to satisfy their curiosity. People really have no respect these days.

Straitfox
Traditional Artist

#link

5 years ago

That has got to be rough...

When trolls were harassing me and my ex, we had to split up. Course she was new to the whole gay and furry thing.

I just hope you both get the best of luck and just be safe. *hugs the neer*

sereneadream
Digital Artist

#link

5 years ago

Best wishes to you guys!

NachT
PrOn Artist

#link

5 years ago

That blows, but at least your both being mature and respectful about it. Not something found very commonly anymore :/

KryphosDrgn
Kaiser

#link

5 years ago

Part of me wants to say that it's not my business and another part of me doesn't want to look like a jackass when I refer to Neer and Sciggs and I'm the only one who didn't know.

Either way, best wishes and happy times for you.

Sigil

#link

4 years ago

I'm so out of the loop I didn't hear about this until recently!

Glad to hear it was on as-good-of-terms-as-possible and I hope you're both doing ok <3

hunter85
Watcher

#link

4 years ago

That sucks, sorry

XzTS
Watcher

#link

3 years ago

Wow, I've been out of the loop on this until i read Susan's journal on her birthgiving. I was like, "new guy, who dis¿", followed by a, "wait, wat¿!", and then immediately wondered when this happened.

Twizzle

#link

5 months ago

ED is really useful

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