Wtf is wrong with me? -rant-
9 years ago
I seriously don't know what to do. I feel like I'm just..nothing to my so called friends. No one ever just messages/calls me to say hi, or to ask if I want to hang out, or just check on me. No, all I ever get is 'I need this', 'I need that', 'Can you do this?', or when they do invite me to hang out, they never have money for things and expect me to pay for everyone.
I mean..I like to think I'm a fairly nice person. At least, decent to be around. I don't know. It really hurts my feelings when I reach out to people and get ignored, but am always expected to be there for everyone else.
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I mean..I like to think I'm a fairly nice person. At least, decent to be around. I don't know. It really hurts my feelings when I reach out to people and get ignored, but am always expected to be there for everyone else.
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But, we pretty much don't have friends that contact us either. I find you either make the effort to reach out yourself, or you don't see people. Generally people (myself included) are too busy or lazy with their own lives to really plan anything aside from bigger events. (And that's ok with me -- not that social to begin with!)
You seem pretty nice. Bummer that they seem to want you to pay for everything, though -- have you made a habit of it in the past and now they've come to expect it? Maybe time for new friends from a different crowd, if that's possible. :)
And unfortunately, I have made a habit of it and now don't know how to cut it off without making anyone unhappy. I believe you're right though..with my career and how quickly I'm growing as an artist and person, it may be time for a change..
But yea, it's tough sometimes especially when people want to take more than they're entitled to because you're being nice. I was kind and gave someone a really good deal on a fursuit tail when they discovered the fandom and some doodles for free, and now they're constantly badgering me to do more for them while I patiently explain that my queue is huge and I work all day to pay the bills. :P
Dunno how to go about making new friends other than meetup.com, or events! XD We don't really get out much these days.
Meh..guess I'll figure it out though. I have no idea right now
I don't talk much either, but when I try to reach out to them, or even try to join in a conversation, I get ignored. I dunno, it sucks, and I'm trying to make new friends, but I just struggle so much talking to people I dont know