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A glutton for punishment
9 years ago
So this is going to be about a furry, Who I will not name because im not a complete ass. That felt it would be a good idea to tell family and friends about there fetishes. This did not go very well for them. They first told there parrents. Which resulted in a more or less negitive out come. They then told close friends. One of which didn't care and the other a bit freaked.
Why would you do that to you're self? You know yo'u're into something thats considerd taboo, and is generaly fround upon. Yet you not only tell you're family, which sees you as a full grown adult, and may have very diffrent views on certain things. But then you tell you're friends that dont really need to know.
Yes im A diaper fur, yes I wear Diapers, Yes I use, and yes MY family and friends now. The diffrences, I told my mother when I was living in a completly diffrent state in a diffrent house. Not under her control. So I could not suffer from ANY negitive side effects. Thankfully my family is very open minded. So that saved alot of effort. And my friends, well 90% of them I met on here, and are fellow ABDL's.
But knowing this, I still cant logically see a reason to tell anyone that doesnt need to know, that you're into X & X thing. Specially when its as taboo or strange as being say a Furry or a AB/DL. I mean you don't go up to you're mom and say "Hay I like watching porn at 11:05 am. Or atleast I hope not.
Now as far as telling someone you're Gay, Bi or what ever. Thats on you. Thats something that I feel should be told, Specially if you're going transgender or falling in love with the same sex. Just because it could end badly if people find out the hard way. Not saying its going to end well either, But atleast you told them.
That being said, It just seems like a lot of people are just setting them selves up to bebome a outcast. Telling someone ANY of the above has the potential to cost you everything. It can cost you you're friends, Family, Reputation, and sometimes even you're life and freedom.
So my advice to anyone that wants to tell someone about a fetish, Is simply to not do it. If they don't need to know, don't tell them. Just don't do it. (Unless its a drug problum.) The only exception is if you are getting married, if its something illeagle, something you need help for (say drug abuse/self harm)And maybe MAYBE someone that you completely trust. But thats a BIG MAYBE!
I don't mean to sound like a douche cannoe. I just feel that someple furries out there think that they HAVE to tell people so they can achieve something. Well im here to tell you that that's not the case. If its not causing anyone harm, and its not illeagle or dangerous. Keep it to you're self.
Take it from someone that has gone down that road, And got a rare happy ending
Why would you do that to you're self? You know yo'u're into something thats considerd taboo, and is generaly fround upon. Yet you not only tell you're family, which sees you as a full grown adult, and may have very diffrent views on certain things. But then you tell you're friends that dont really need to know.
Yes im A diaper fur, yes I wear Diapers, Yes I use, and yes MY family and friends now. The diffrences, I told my mother when I was living in a completly diffrent state in a diffrent house. Not under her control. So I could not suffer from ANY negitive side effects. Thankfully my family is very open minded. So that saved alot of effort. And my friends, well 90% of them I met on here, and are fellow ABDL's.
But knowing this, I still cant logically see a reason to tell anyone that doesnt need to know, that you're into X & X thing. Specially when its as taboo or strange as being say a Furry or a AB/DL. I mean you don't go up to you're mom and say "Hay I like watching porn at 11:05 am. Or atleast I hope not.
Now as far as telling someone you're Gay, Bi or what ever. Thats on you. Thats something that I feel should be told, Specially if you're going transgender or falling in love with the same sex. Just because it could end badly if people find out the hard way. Not saying its going to end well either, But atleast you told them.
That being said, It just seems like a lot of people are just setting them selves up to bebome a outcast. Telling someone ANY of the above has the potential to cost you everything. It can cost you you're friends, Family, Reputation, and sometimes even you're life and freedom.
So my advice to anyone that wants to tell someone about a fetish, Is simply to not do it. If they don't need to know, don't tell them. Just don't do it. (Unless its a drug problum.) The only exception is if you are getting married, if its something illeagle, something you need help for (say drug abuse/self harm)And maybe MAYBE someone that you completely trust. But thats a BIG MAYBE!
I don't mean to sound like a douche cannoe. I just feel that someple furries out there think that they HAVE to tell people so they can achieve something. Well im here to tell you that that's not the case. If its not causing anyone harm, and its not illeagle or dangerous. Keep it to you're self.
Take it from someone that has gone down that road, And got a rare happy ending
I've seen this in various forms over the years. Everyone knows that one person who does "x" thing and gets screwed over. Some of us know more than that "one", too. XD
Unless that person needs to know, I keep information to myself. For example, I'm a diaperfur as well. I'm also a bedwetter. Now, I wouldn't tell folks offline about that unless I was going to sleep on their furniture. I mean, I'd be diapered anyway, but I think it's still a good idea in that case.
Also, we need to talk more.
And that we do. Got Skype?
And yes actually. I don't use it very much but i do have one. Its my xbox gamer tag.
Also, we *are* friends on Facebook, remember? :P
I've actually spent a good deal of time philosophizing on this topic and I've only come up with a few reasons why someone might do this. The first reason is simple enough; to garner attention. Nothing says "Look at me!" like being able to post about how after sharing some information that you should have kept to yourself you're now the facing abuse or general disdain at home.
This ties into reason number two which is victim culture. In the fandom there is the hugbox and in the world as a whole the political correctness issue. Without diving deep into the pros and cons, when it is relevant and when it's not of the issues we can sum it up as the following; if you can label yourself a victim then you can expect support as no matter your actions the victim can never be at fault. It's like a social loophole whereby even if you deserve what you have coming to you because of your own actions it's believed that only a douche would point this out to you or the community.
Third is the person that harbors internal guilt over their fetish or life choice and feels the need to "confess" to get some relief. This is often tied into a reasoning that by doing so it is on the world as a whole to now accept you for who you are, no matter how taboo that might be socially. On an interesting note this same twisted logic does not apply to others who have a fetish or belief that you don't also subscribe to leading to a hypocrisy that irritates me to no end. Case in point is the strange friction between Bronys, Furrys and within those groups bondage people, lifestyle people and art people. I know this is a simple case of human psychology but it does not make me feel any better about it.
Finally there are those that just feed on conflict and drama. I think there exists some poeple that for various reasons such as mental illness leading to self defeating behavior are compelled to wilfully go against their own best interests in an effort to feed off of the conflict that is certain to ensue.
At the end of the day it often comes down to a simple truth about human beings and society that I learned young in my life but is not common knowledge. It's as easy as this:
1.) Society should accept me for who I am and I should be able to dress, act (non harming of coarse) and have an interest in what ever I want without judgement or hostility. *This is in fact the the truth in so much as it is indeed the goal*
2.) We do not live in that world as described above and knowing this anything you do willingly that causes friction with society no matter your intent is on you. Though you have every right to complain about about it, and you're certain to find a small group of people to commiserate with you about it, it's still your own fault.
3.) As it's common knowledge that society, rather wrong or right, is about finding ways to integrate and conform it is beholden on you to not go out of your way to create friction. As such any action you take that would cause such friction is not the fault of society for doing what it was always going to do, but on you for willingly being an affront to it's perceived norms.
I'm not saying that it's right but it is the reality of the world in which we live. If you're not being stoned to death in the streets or dragged behind a motor vehicle until you die for it just count your blessings and move on with your life.