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9 years ago
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‧͙⁺˚*･༓☾☽༓･*˚⁺‧ Ya know... this "victory" for butterface and everyone trying to say, "Get over it", "You'll live", "suck it up, the people spoke", just comes back to me and all I'm hearing is, "I'm privileged", "I've never had to deal with being unsafe on a daily basis so I'm going to show an utter lack of empathy and understanding towards others".
I don't know why it still surprises me. It obviously shouldn't seeing as what just happened but it doesn't make it hurt any less.
I came out for 2 reasons in 2014.
1. I was suicidal and needed to finally do something about it.
2. I felt safe enough to do so both family side and social side.
Going on almost 3 years into my transition and I'm absolutely terrified right now. Not only for my self but for my family.
In almost 3 years I have dealt with threats against my life, threats of rape, managers attempting to fire me or make me use private restrooms. I've had doctors treat me like I'm insane, keep me in unsafe spaces and belittle me.
I've had countless purposeful misgenderings by people who chose not to understand.
But not once did I feel this terrified. I've been frustrated before at the system for denying me necessary medical coverage but I've never quite feared it.
Today is different.
And if you don't understand that, or try to play it like it's "Not so bad" you obviously haven't taken the time to consider exactly who is going to be sitting in office 9 days before my birthday. You haven't listened and your lack of empathy is disturbing. If you want to keep arguing with me that this won't be nearly as bad as all "liberaltards" keep blowing it up to be, then I have no issue blacklisting you.
Let me break it down for you in a general way:
Fuckface has promised to repeal obamacare. With a republican run senate and house, this will pass in a heartbeat. There goes my insurance for my family.
My state hasn't expanded medicaid so we'll be floating in medical debt land beyond any repair.
Fuckface's VP also just happens to be a religions right wing nut who thinks conversion therapy is a godsend to wipe these gays out of our community. He also in general has a very anti-lgbtqia view point and has before whispered shit in Fuckface's ears and will continue to do so to further his own religious agenda.
So that leaves my husband and I in an ostracized area. We are already hanging on by a thread as far as discrimination protections go, with him in office, we'll have no rope left. Which means we could loose our housing if they lift those discrimination bans and say.. my landlords want to find new tenants that'll pay more and want us out.
So that's two direct points that effect me directly. Let's take it a notch more!
Trans is a good hot button topic right? With Penhead sitting there cackling from above, I can watch all my protections as a human sink away. He'll fuel a fire wide open to start those bans on trans bathroom issues once again. States will pick them back up and what then? It'll be HB2 on a wide end scale. I could walk into a bathroom at a gas station and if someone happens to question me, I'll have literally no legs to stand on.
Of course, this is just a generalized sample of things that they have already said they would be doing or gesturing in that direction.
Granted, I could get extremely lucky and they leave trans rights alone. While I'm not afraid of butterface on that level, I'm scared shitless of what pendick will do instead.
I already live in fear of being outted in public.. I fear holding my husband's hand in front of others. I fear of being raped and murdered just for being who I am.
So when I hear people say, "Get over it, it's not as bad as you make it". I hear the words, "Go fuck yourself, you don't matter".
Can I make it these 4 years? If I'm cautious. If I play my cards right.
I've wanted to move to Canada for the last 3 years, nothing has changed there but I know realistically it's a long way out of reach. Mainly financially.
I would and am looking into relocating to Oregon. The state has protections in place for trans persons and would probably be a bit safer than my own state right now.
So it's an option. An option that I plan to work out and take the soonest I can.
I didn't throw away my vote. I placed my vote in fear and was still let down.
All the progress the lgbtqia had made has now been put on hold if not going to be pushed back.
It's distressing.
I just want to have the same rights as any other human being in this country.
Apparently, being treated equally on a lawful level is just something they don't want us to have.
That's my election rant. I'm not going to debate with you. This is MY journal. MY space. I opened the floor but I'm not opening the hate door.
Don't have something civil and nice to say, don't type it. I'll delete it and blacklist as needed.
I don't know why it still surprises me. It obviously shouldn't seeing as what just happened but it doesn't make it hurt any less.
I came out for 2 reasons in 2014.
1. I was suicidal and needed to finally do something about it.
2. I felt safe enough to do so both family side and social side.
Going on almost 3 years into my transition and I'm absolutely terrified right now. Not only for my self but for my family.
In almost 3 years I have dealt with threats against my life, threats of rape, managers attempting to fire me or make me use private restrooms. I've had doctors treat me like I'm insane, keep me in unsafe spaces and belittle me.
I've had countless purposeful misgenderings by people who chose not to understand.
But not once did I feel this terrified. I've been frustrated before at the system for denying me necessary medical coverage but I've never quite feared it.
Today is different.
And if you don't understand that, or try to play it like it's "Not so bad" you obviously haven't taken the time to consider exactly who is going to be sitting in office 9 days before my birthday. You haven't listened and your lack of empathy is disturbing. If you want to keep arguing with me that this won't be nearly as bad as all "liberaltards" keep blowing it up to be, then I have no issue blacklisting you.
Let me break it down for you in a general way:
Fuckface has promised to repeal obamacare. With a republican run senate and house, this will pass in a heartbeat. There goes my insurance for my family.
My state hasn't expanded medicaid so we'll be floating in medical debt land beyond any repair.
Fuckface's VP also just happens to be a religions right wing nut who thinks conversion therapy is a godsend to wipe these gays out of our community. He also in general has a very anti-lgbtqia view point and has before whispered shit in Fuckface's ears and will continue to do so to further his own religious agenda.
So that leaves my husband and I in an ostracized area. We are already hanging on by a thread as far as discrimination protections go, with him in office, we'll have no rope left. Which means we could loose our housing if they lift those discrimination bans and say.. my landlords want to find new tenants that'll pay more and want us out.
So that's two direct points that effect me directly. Let's take it a notch more!
Trans is a good hot button topic right? With Penhead sitting there cackling from above, I can watch all my protections as a human sink away. He'll fuel a fire wide open to start those bans on trans bathroom issues once again. States will pick them back up and what then? It'll be HB2 on a wide end scale. I could walk into a bathroom at a gas station and if someone happens to question me, I'll have literally no legs to stand on.
Of course, this is just a generalized sample of things that they have already said they would be doing or gesturing in that direction.
Granted, I could get extremely lucky and they leave trans rights alone. While I'm not afraid of butterface on that level, I'm scared shitless of what pendick will do instead.
I already live in fear of being outted in public.. I fear holding my husband's hand in front of others. I fear of being raped and murdered just for being who I am.
So when I hear people say, "Get over it, it's not as bad as you make it". I hear the words, "Go fuck yourself, you don't matter".
Can I make it these 4 years? If I'm cautious. If I play my cards right.
I've wanted to move to Canada for the last 3 years, nothing has changed there but I know realistically it's a long way out of reach. Mainly financially.
I would and am looking into relocating to Oregon. The state has protections in place for trans persons and would probably be a bit safer than my own state right now.
So it's an option. An option that I plan to work out and take the soonest I can.
I didn't throw away my vote. I placed my vote in fear and was still let down.
All the progress the lgbtqia had made has now been put on hold if not going to be pushed back.
It's distressing.
I just want to have the same rights as any other human being in this country.
Apparently, being treated equally on a lawful level is just something they don't want us to have.
That's my election rant. I'm not going to debate with you. This is MY journal. MY space. I opened the floor but I'm not opening the hate door.
Don't have something civil and nice to say, don't type it. I'll delete it and blacklist as needed.
That's twice in recent US history.
I feel for you, I really do, because I can relate to some of your hardships as well. I've been living in hiding, having two lives, to avoid all the backlash associated with sexual orientation, not to mention being a fur. My colleagues at work, my boss, and many people I know in everyday's life, while being usually nice and gentle, would turn to beasts if they knew that I had sex with men and women. I know it, I've heard their words when some stories made the headlines about someone who didn't conform to the socially accepted standard, what they said when my country had it's own fight to expand civil marriage to same sex couples, and so on.
I'm sorry for you, and I do hope that you manage to ride out those four years unharmed, and that, when the next election comes, your country wakes up from the nightmare and finds another Obama to elect as president.
There's a lot to be terrified of for various groups, and I think if we aren't vocal fast from the get-go their divisive and hateful agenda will succeed.
My long-distance bf wanted to move here for a few years now, and now . . he's just wondering if it's worth it at all. and I don't blame him. If we ever did take things more seriously, I don't think housing together would be so easy, much less getting married.
I can't imagine what transgendered people will go through under that shit-tard Pence as VP.
He doesn't deserve that sort of power, he didn't really deserve the power he HAD.
There's so much to worry about in the next four years, and it seems progress will be thrown in the bin if we don't step up and get involved. And even then, it'll be very difficult, I imagine . .
And this isn't even considering the everyday bigots of various corners who will feel justified in acting out on their bigotry because they have a president that they feel validates their hatred. The number of assaults and cases of bigoted vandalism are already on the rise, many citing Trump as their excuse. Like, I feel like this is a lot worse than people are giving it credit for--sure not the end of the world, but many marginalized lives are in very real danger right now.
I know that I'm supposed to have faith in our democratic system, but when people are writing in votes for a dead gorilla on top of voting on the basis of a single issue, it's kinda hard to not be worried, ya know?
(Also sorry for this soap box haha this wasn't meant as an attack of your statement, but the venting apparently needed to happen on my end. <3 }
As for the rest, I can see why your worried but a lot of the laws and changes obama had made can't be turned over so easily thankfully. Also the dead gorilla thing? Well, that goes on morals. If you don't agree with any one on the ballot, then they don't need to vote for any of them. Especially if they felt like trump and clinton were not suited to be in the white house which neither are, in my opinion.
Just try your best to stay strong, thankfully America won't allow ourselves to be ruined
Like, I'm trying to be hopeful, but I always feel it's best to plan for worst case scenario. Tbf, I'm more afraid of society right now than the immediate threat of overturned laws. I might be a pessimist coming from the bottom of the social totem pole, but we were ruined a long time ago. The past few years were our first good steps forward in a long time, and I am afraid of losing them. -shrugs-
I just really hope my fears are proven wrong.
Also controlling will always be something allowed, as for the whole abortion thing? I'm on the fence about that. If it was rape, or if the pregnancy can cause serious health risk or death then yes. But if it's because you were stupid and didn't use protection or weren't on the pill. The baby should come into this world and if you are unable to support the child then there are services that can help or adoption. That's just my personal view and I respect every one elses opinion on the matter.
Also I'm crossing my fingers that this situation will change the face of America for the better and act as a huge wake up call for both the right, and the left. The way things went this time is because of the constant hate mongering. You have normal white folk who aren't racist, who are caring, and loving being called racist, bigots, white privileged, threatened and violence being shoved at them. Basically what minorities have been doing to others what they hated done to them over the past 6 or so years. So there was a push back, people who were normally in middle ground became outraged after all the striving our nation has gone through to conform. A tug of war so to speak. Sadly it happened, and all we can do it try to move on from there but the riots, the protesting, burning and vandalism wont help, from neither side.
At least what we can do, 'on here' is take the higher path and try and work together as a community. We're all fur's, we all love this place, each other and we need to support one another despite how we voted, who's in office or other wise. Or in the end, the bad guys win
Trump won on the white vote. I can only hope that demographics render that an impossible feat in the near future.
Name one way the left has ever 'oppressed' the right in America.
Again, name a single instance of the left 'oppressing' the right.
Also there are A LOT of people in this nation, a fuck ton. And kindly go online and you'll see a lot of the extremist from both sides doing this shit. If your incapable of finding this on your own I'll help you .
We should of had bern, but we got left with cancer and cancer. Now that cancers spreading to irrational fear crazed individuals from both sides letting emotions Governor their actions rather than empathy or intellectual thought. B O T H sides. "Booooth" "LEFT AND RIGHT"
Your fear is totally understandable. Conservatives in power (and the voters that support them) want to keep treating you as female when you just need to take a piss, but would probably treat you as male to see your marriage annulled if they can reverse same-sex marriage rights. I'm not gay or trans and while the issue doesn't impact me personally, I'm still very much afraid for my GLBT family and friends who face a very uncertain future and all levels of threat and harassment every day, as well as very much disgusted by how they are all treated by those who object to their mere existence.
The "people" may have spoken, but they have spoken a support for a mentality of bigotry and sexism that hasn't been seen since the 1950s. I never thought that kind of mentality existed in such widespread numbers in this day and age. That construction barrel with a tumbleweed sitting on top and his goth sidekick, along with the republican majority congress and any ultraconservatives they appoint to the supreme court are a threat to same-sex marriage equality, GLBT rights, abortion access/women's health, low and middle class taxes, the minimum wage, labor laws/unions, women's equal pay, healthcare, the education system (ie. putting creationism in science class), immigrants who have no criminal record, foreign affairs/diplomacy, national security, efforts to study and fight global warming, NASA, renewable energy...you name it. Now, for a lot of those things they could have a hard time fucking things up, but that doesn't mean they won't try every chance they get.
http://www.latimes.com/politics/la-.....htmlstory.html
That article describes why it would be hard for them to repeal Obamacare and same-sex marriage equality, among other things, which can give us some relief but that doesn't mean we should become complacent and act like nothing would happen. Complacency is what resulted in a jar of racist Metamucil being elected to the highest office in the country along with the most ultraconservative ultrareligious nutjob imaginable.
There is no "get over it". Things may not be terrible yet but that doesn't mean it can't get very bad soon, especially if antidiscrimination laws are repealed or even banned like they did in NC. That month-old jack o' lantern lied and lied and lied, caught on video or on social media saying one thing while he denies he said anything, and his supporters turned a blind eye to it. I guess they thumped a hole in their bibles where it says "thou shalt not lie". I've been practically pulling my hair out for the last 2 days in a frustrated confusion wondering how and why this happened when he pissed off and offended at least 3/4 of the country's population.
Canada is a bit of a long shot because of their requirements of having a job lined up and such. Late Tuesday night I actually looked up my eligibility for moving to Canada, during that time their immigration website was slow and crashing. I'd toyed with the thought before in past years but once it was certain a leftover bag of candy corn had won the election I became serious in my thoughts about it. Your best bet may be Oregon as you say, at least for now. You absolutely deserve the same rights and respect anyone else can get. Never settle for less.