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You CAN talk politics and religion with "REAL" friends.
9 years ago
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I see so many people going fucking INSANE right now. Seriously, it is worse this time than it was when G W Bush got elected.
Hell, just on FA I see tons of journals of people cussing out entire groups of people they once got along with, burning bridges with people they once considered friends, all because of election year politics and butthurt over their "team" losing.
And I keep seeing journals and articles, especially on the left side of things, that are telling people not to EVER talk politics or religion or such with friends... As if they had some handy dandy guide to life.
That makes me wonder, how many people do they consider supposed "friends" that they have to tiptoe and censor themselves around?
That doesn't sound like a friend to me.
Real... As in REAL "actual friends" are usually friends BECAUSE you CAN talk politics and religion and hot button issues with them. They are likely friends in the first place because they have many of the same interests or ideals as you... That is usually how friendship works.
Any time you have to fear or censor yourself and not be yourself around supposed friends is NOT GOOD. It means you are being fake, you are putting on a certain persona that is not actually YOU and eventually it will be found out. I especially see this with the people that honestly think they can "make friends with everyone", at some point they burn out or people catch on to them.
Now the one place you DO NOT talk about politics or religion and such is WORK... You are there to do a job and get paid for it, not to hang around a water cooler and chat about the hot button issues... Even if there are people you agree with, just excuse yourself and make it known you are there to be professional, and not to make BFFs with everyone.
Again, the best friends are the ones you CAN talk about hot button issues with, and it is okay for friends to have disagreements, it is actually HEALTHY, as long as you don't go all extremist nutty. This is where "agreeing to disagree" comes in, there is no need to get hostile or throw away a friendship over something silly. And if you do want to throw away a friendship over a single disagreement, well, that says a lot about you, and it's not very good.
Hell, just on FA I see tons of journals of people cussing out entire groups of people they once got along with, burning bridges with people they once considered friends, all because of election year politics and butthurt over their "team" losing.
And I keep seeing journals and articles, especially on the left side of things, that are telling people not to EVER talk politics or religion or such with friends... As if they had some handy dandy guide to life.
That makes me wonder, how many people do they consider supposed "friends" that they have to tiptoe and censor themselves around?
That doesn't sound like a friend to me.
Real... As in REAL "actual friends" are usually friends BECAUSE you CAN talk politics and religion and hot button issues with them. They are likely friends in the first place because they have many of the same interests or ideals as you... That is usually how friendship works.
Any time you have to fear or censor yourself and not be yourself around supposed friends is NOT GOOD. It means you are being fake, you are putting on a certain persona that is not actually YOU and eventually it will be found out. I especially see this with the people that honestly think they can "make friends with everyone", at some point they burn out or people catch on to them.
Now the one place you DO NOT talk about politics or religion and such is WORK... You are there to do a job and get paid for it, not to hang around a water cooler and chat about the hot button issues... Even if there are people you agree with, just excuse yourself and make it known you are there to be professional, and not to make BFFs with everyone.
Again, the best friends are the ones you CAN talk about hot button issues with, and it is okay for friends to have disagreements, it is actually HEALTHY, as long as you don't go all extremist nutty. This is where "agreeing to disagree" comes in, there is no need to get hostile or throw away a friendship over something silly. And if you do want to throw away a friendship over a single disagreement, well, that says a lot about you, and it's not very good.
I am myself, I will not change who I am to make someone else "feel" more comfortable around me.
You don't just get bits and pieces, you get "The Whole Package".
Oooh! There's a sex joke in there! Giggitty!
Real friends will possibly give you shit for difference of opinion, but will not be so hasty to burn bridges on your friendship.
I swear, it's like it is the "Participation trophy" generation, mad and throwing a temper tantrum because they didn't get a reward for losing!
But what differs me from them is a have a sense of reality. You win some and ya lose some. Just a part of life. Only way you can win is if you make it happen. Hard work and perseverance ^w^
Debate can be quite healthy and even enjoyable as long as it doesn't devolve into a shouting match.
Some of the best thinkers of our times were willing to step outside of their ideals and "safe spaces" to hear and entertain the thoughts and opinions of others, maybe even change their minds in the process.
If you like what I say, then you believe much of the same.
More people need to speak up instead of hiding and being afraid of what others may think.
To borrow our new orange President's catch phrase.
"Make Furry Great Again!"
You can't have "diversity" when people are too afraid to speak their minds.
^_^