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16 years ago
"Build a man a fire, and he'll be warm for a day. Set a man on fire, and he'll be warm for the rest of his life." - Terry Pratchett
I OD'd on chem so I stayed home today. >.> Anyway.
I've been thinking about this a while, and I'd like to know what other people think about it. When I joined the community/fandom about...six-ish months ago, I noticed right away that a lot of people seemed to be in open relationships, in multiple-person relationships, swingers, or something similar. I'm not talking about single people trolling for booty, they exist in bold numbers everywhere. XD
Before I joined I never noticed any of this going on, and I was certainly never invited to join in. Ever since though, I've been harassed for cyber sex, invited to join multiple-person relationships, and hit on by people who have patiently listened to me go on and on about my boyfriend for long periods of time. I am at the point where I believe a large portion of the community assumes that because someone is a furry, they are open to sexual advances of every kind.
Is this just me, just how the fandom works, or something normal I just never noticed happening in life? It makes me uncomfortable to be hit on, especially since turning someone down usually results in them insulting everything they know about me. I don't know how else I can tell people I am not available in ANY sense. Do not want. D8
This fact, among others, also makes me not want to tell people I'm a furry. I'm not rejecting who I am, I AM a furry and I know it, but I find that as soon as I tell someone (furry or not) they immediately either hit on me or assume I fuck dogs all day. I'm not some sort of pure, nonsexual being, but I'm not a stereotype, a creeper, or a cheater.
What do you think? How do you deal with people, furry and not, and do you tell them you are a furry? Have you given up on the fandom at large, or do you just ignore some people and move on? I want to know~
I've been thinking about this a while, and I'd like to know what other people think about it. When I joined the community/fandom about...six-ish months ago, I noticed right away that a lot of people seemed to be in open relationships, in multiple-person relationships, swingers, or something similar. I'm not talking about single people trolling for booty, they exist in bold numbers everywhere. XD
Before I joined I never noticed any of this going on, and I was certainly never invited to join in. Ever since though, I've been harassed for cyber sex, invited to join multiple-person relationships, and hit on by people who have patiently listened to me go on and on about my boyfriend for long periods of time. I am at the point where I believe a large portion of the community assumes that because someone is a furry, they are open to sexual advances of every kind.
Is this just me, just how the fandom works, or something normal I just never noticed happening in life? It makes me uncomfortable to be hit on, especially since turning someone down usually results in them insulting everything they know about me. I don't know how else I can tell people I am not available in ANY sense. Do not want. D8
This fact, among others, also makes me not want to tell people I'm a furry. I'm not rejecting who I am, I AM a furry and I know it, but I find that as soon as I tell someone (furry or not) they immediately either hit on me or assume I fuck dogs all day. I'm not some sort of pure, nonsexual being, but I'm not a stereotype, a creeper, or a cheater.
What do you think? How do you deal with people, furry and not, and do you tell them you are a furry? Have you given up on the fandom at large, or do you just ignore some people and move on? I want to know~
More and more people are living alternate lifestyles nowadays, from polygamy, to completely online relationships, to open relationships. It seems to be just the way the world is headed. Fewer and fewer people seem to be content with settling down with just one person.
My being a furry seldom comes up in conversation, but then, I also seldom venture out into the real world. All those I talk to online are either furries themselves, or are so close it's a damned thin line.
Truthfully, the stereotypes that go with being a furry make me not want to admit to it, but I always try and be honest with others and with myself, so even though I'm not what I think of as a stereotypical furry, the furry fandom is a part of my life. In twenty or thirty years it may not be, as I've noticed there are very few furries over the age of forty, or at least those that will state thier true age. Maybe being a furry is just another stage of growing up for some people. Considering the furry fandom, to most people, is just a way to get their kinks worked, I can understand how the older your get, the less you participate in the fandom.
So yeah, for the most part I ignore the assholes and the desperates, and just enjoy myself in the fandom, without resorting to anything sexual. I make it perfectly clear if they persist that I am not interested in them for any sort of relationship or sex, and will stop talking to them if they continue. Block and delete has been used a few times by me, though I give more then enough fair warnings.
I don't appreciate being treated like a piece of meat. It's not flattering to me, or the person assuming it.
So, um, yeah. That's my opinion/mini-rant!
So I'll just say: Multiple-partner relationships and polyamory are interesting, and cool for them if it's something that works for all parties involved. However, I don't want it, either. I'm content with being a furry who wants a one-on-one romantic relationship, and sometimes I wish I could yell at others for not respecting my views because that's sure as hell the type of response I'd get if I tried to persuade/pressure them into becoming monogamous.
I tend to keep my being a furry private IRL. It's just not something I'm comfortable with discussing, unless it's with someone who I don't feel will judge me. As for other pushy furries, who know I'm a furry online, I just tell them my boyfriend wouldn't appreciate their advances. If they didn't get the hint and keep on, I flat-out tell them I'm uncomfortable.
I think that polygamy is on the rise in general, not just in our little subculture