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On the subject of death...
8 years ago
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We have lost another member of the fandom recently. I can't say that I have ever met him, or talked to him. But it is always sad to hear about someone passing.
Death unfortunately is about to hit much closer to home for me though. My great uncle probably only has a few days left. The doctors said about 2 weeks...and that was last week. He is dying of cancer.
What this does though, is makes me think about my own death. I don't have many people that talk to me, draw me things, or just share memories with me. But I wonder, when I die, how many people will suddenly show up and say "Oh, I knew Sheba! She was my best friend, blah blah blah." how many people will post journals here on FA, or Facebook, etc talking about their memories of me? Why must people wait until someone is dead to do these things? I want people to show me that they care and think about me while I am alive. Not once I am dead. Then it is too late, and quite honestly just seems like a way for others to get sympathy. I could have never really talked to someone, but once I am gone, I am suddenly their best friend and they are so heartbroken and want people to feel sorry for them. Don't do that when I die. There are seriously very few people who I have probably impacted in my life.
Now, with that said, if you want to be my friend, if you want to draw me things, tell me how you feel about me, or share memories with me, TELL ME! Don't wait until I am gone and post shouts on my page saying that you wish you could have known me better. TAKE THE TIME TO GET TO KNOW ME WHILE I AM ALIVE! I love making friends. I love making an impact on people's lives. But unfortunately I am way too socially awkward and shy to be the first to approach someone. So please...don't wait until I am gone to decide that I am worthy of being remembered...
Death unfortunately is about to hit much closer to home for me though. My great uncle probably only has a few days left. The doctors said about 2 weeks...and that was last week. He is dying of cancer.
What this does though, is makes me think about my own death. I don't have many people that talk to me, draw me things, or just share memories with me. But I wonder, when I die, how many people will suddenly show up and say "Oh, I knew Sheba! She was my best friend, blah blah blah." how many people will post journals here on FA, or Facebook, etc talking about their memories of me? Why must people wait until someone is dead to do these things? I want people to show me that they care and think about me while I am alive. Not once I am dead. Then it is too late, and quite honestly just seems like a way for others to get sympathy. I could have never really talked to someone, but once I am gone, I am suddenly their best friend and they are so heartbroken and want people to feel sorry for them. Don't do that when I die. There are seriously very few people who I have probably impacted in my life.
Now, with that said, if you want to be my friend, if you want to draw me things, tell me how you feel about me, or share memories with me, TELL ME! Don't wait until I am gone and post shouts on my page saying that you wish you could have known me better. TAKE THE TIME TO GET TO KNOW ME WHILE I AM ALIVE! I love making friends. I love making an impact on people's lives. But unfortunately I am way too socially awkward and shy to be the first to approach someone. So please...don't wait until I am gone to decide that I am worthy of being remembered...
I just don't talk that much lol
And it's a peculiar thing, and an interesting phenomenon. People not speaking much of or too someone, until after they die. Then suddenly they all come out of the wood works with all the great stories and things they allegedly did, said or thought of said dead mofo. Some of it's just kind of how we're brought up. It's a reaction, and an almost expected thing. Say something nice, say something in remembrance of so and so, and then everyone quietly nods and thinks isn't that nice. Then they're slowly forgotten. This happens in time and isn't unusual or right or wrong really. It just is.
But what gets me, are the ones who embellish or straight up lie about their interaction(s) with the deceased. That's some scumbag bs right there.
You're indeed around now, we all are. We just have to remember to enjoy the now. We get such little time in this realm. Might as well do what we can with it ya know? See ya at WN by the way.^^