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Problems with the boyfriend (scary things!)
8 years ago
I suddenly decided to change my life. More precisely, I already changed it. But for me there has always been a load of relationships with a guy. I did not feel very much, but I was comfortable with him.
In order to fulfill my dreams, I had to finish this relationship. But who knew that this is circumvented SO.
In general, now he is following me and terribly frightened. Today he grabbed and did not let go home, I was very scared. I burst into tears and wanted to call my father.
Now he calls me and writes sms, I'm VERY scared.
I want to go to Moscow this week and stay there. There he will not be able to get me and I will be able to seriously look for work. To me it is terrible, the head has again started to hurt or be ill :C I am all on nerves and I am afraid to make silly and rash act.
How do you cope with stress? What can help? I'm scared and confused thoughts (
But seriously, alert the authorities, especially if you are so scared and think you may be in danger.
I'm ashamed, but I can not and will not seek it. Because this person can do anything to me in this situation (
Thank you for support! In Russia, the police work quite differently (
These things are so freaking stressful - but the best way to manage your stress is honestly to rely on others. By that I mean, talk to people you trust, make sure you have friends around you - you will find that you will feel far more at ease if you are not alone. Even online friends, I'm sure they will understand and be there for you ♥
My tips for you:
♥ get somewhere safe - you seem to be making steps to do this, good.
♥ If you can, stay with someone else that you trust - maybe go out with a friend or a family member. You will be safer with more people around you <3
♥ talk to people about it. Don't stay silent, make sure people know. Silence does nothing for you, but helps the guy who is causing you grief.
♥ Call the police if you are afraid - stalking is serious so please don't be afraid to tell the authorities so that they are AWARE of what is going on. Especially if he has already grabbed you!
I'm so sorry that this has happened to you sweetie - I hope you find relief from this guy soon! I've been in a shitty situation myself a couple years ago and it really is terrible and scary. Try to focus on your plans, your future goals, and remember that once you are away from him you will be safe <3
I don't know if this will help at all, but this is such a powerful subject for me I have to say something ♥
Tell your family/friends what's going on, literally everyone you trust, and perhaps stake out with one of them for a few days/weeks, depending on the severity. Don't even worry about feeling "pushy" or "imposing", your safety is the most important thing right now! <3
As others were saying, take documented legal action and start by alerting the authorities, and make sure you follow up with a restraining order and other legalities if you wish to press charges. This was something my family member didn't do, and in hindsight, I believe it might have played a roll in stopping the confrontations.
Don't even try approaching him anymore, he seriously isn't worth your time. I don't like judging from afar, since it's an asshole thing to do, but I can confidently say this guy is a complete dick. Swerve, I promise it will do you good in the long run. Stay strong hun, I hope your struggles with this dude end soon!
I know how scary these situations can be! Get yourself somewhere safe and in good company so you can focus on healing!!
Hang in there! <3
Проведи дни в Москве максимально хорошо, только положительные эмоции помогут более-менее настроить себя на нужный лад.
В Москве было весело и я наконец-то успокоилась, сейчас в Сочи торчу. Домой не хочу вообще. В среду лечу снова в мск. Нет, нет, я не вернусь домой, не сегодня и не сейчас.