I can't keep doing this anymore
7 years ago
I understand that this sounds like a very morbid title and something that may come across as a moment of angst for many of you, but as of late there has been a lot of things that has been making me wonder one question.
Why am I still bothering with this fandom?
I know that it may seem pretentious to ask, but I have to be open and honest with you all. There has been more and more of a reason I haven't been that active posting as of late. I find myself coming to gradually enjoy this entire fandom less and less. Ever since the big electoral shocks of the Brexit referendum and Trump's victory, I cannot begin to tell you all how much respect for people I used to look up to I have now lost. All the nonsense involoving the virtue signalling, the identity politics, the shaming of any none progressive thoughts and ideals, I have been seeing another side to the entire community. It seems that if you dare step out of line with any thoughts that didn't support a globalist socialist utopia trying to be pushed, you are instantly a bad guy. The rise of people's hatred against any slight confusion goes into radical and dangerous territories. I want to try and keep an open mind with a lot of things, but with the ever increasing isolation of anyone who doesn't follow along with radical left leaning ideals to shun someone and instantly accuse them of being Nazis or facists has really broken a lot of patience down with me making me wonder what is even the point anymore.
I also feel that for the last fourteen years of being in this community, I have been living a lie and not been able to openly be myself. Be my true self. Someone who can draw more than just content to give people their fetish fantasies while I try to put some actual effort into something and it barely gets a batting eye. In all honesty, I feel that I have wasted a huge portion of my time in this community. If not for the few friends I have been attatched to, it would have been a miserable experience to have gone through all this for nothing, but even they are moving away from it all now. Maybe they too have gotten tired of the fandom and are moving on with their lives, or maybe they are just cutting out people who don't support the same thought experiments is just an outsider now. With my dad's parkingsons not improving, my mum going to retired in a couple of years and now my graduation from university nearly four years ago now I have so little so show since I have been afraid of anyone judging me for my furry and brony content. I know it may be silly to suggest that there has been no need to worry about these things, but its just how I view things. I have seen how anyone can be just so ugly to anyone who doesn't follow a new and 'progressive' way of thinking. The identity politics that have arrived in this community, the SJW nonsense, the disrespect anyone with a different view point, it has really broken me down.
I feel like I was holding onto something that despite all I have done, I cannot keep doing this anymore. Maybe I am just not in the right mind set, or maybe I am overthinking things again, but it isn't like me to be able to go much further in this fandom now. I feel I don't enjoy it anymore with its current change of direction. Which is why from the start of the new year, I will be here a lot less since I think its time to stop acting like a character and act like myself instead. Maybe I will put something up every so often, but I feel like this is time to stop living a fantasy and come back to a reality that will give me a bigger chance and get away from all the political drama, a chance to finally be more like myself.
I am sorry if this seems like a downer, but at least I can finally explain a little more about what has been going on now.
Why am I still bothering with this fandom?
I know that it may seem pretentious to ask, but I have to be open and honest with you all. There has been more and more of a reason I haven't been that active posting as of late. I find myself coming to gradually enjoy this entire fandom less and less. Ever since the big electoral shocks of the Brexit referendum and Trump's victory, I cannot begin to tell you all how much respect for people I used to look up to I have now lost. All the nonsense involoving the virtue signalling, the identity politics, the shaming of any none progressive thoughts and ideals, I have been seeing another side to the entire community. It seems that if you dare step out of line with any thoughts that didn't support a globalist socialist utopia trying to be pushed, you are instantly a bad guy. The rise of people's hatred against any slight confusion goes into radical and dangerous territories. I want to try and keep an open mind with a lot of things, but with the ever increasing isolation of anyone who doesn't follow along with radical left leaning ideals to shun someone and instantly accuse them of being Nazis or facists has really broken a lot of patience down with me making me wonder what is even the point anymore.
I also feel that for the last fourteen years of being in this community, I have been living a lie and not been able to openly be myself. Be my true self. Someone who can draw more than just content to give people their fetish fantasies while I try to put some actual effort into something and it barely gets a batting eye. In all honesty, I feel that I have wasted a huge portion of my time in this community. If not for the few friends I have been attatched to, it would have been a miserable experience to have gone through all this for nothing, but even they are moving away from it all now. Maybe they too have gotten tired of the fandom and are moving on with their lives, or maybe they are just cutting out people who don't support the same thought experiments is just an outsider now. With my dad's parkingsons not improving, my mum going to retired in a couple of years and now my graduation from university nearly four years ago now I have so little so show since I have been afraid of anyone judging me for my furry and brony content. I know it may be silly to suggest that there has been no need to worry about these things, but its just how I view things. I have seen how anyone can be just so ugly to anyone who doesn't follow a new and 'progressive' way of thinking. The identity politics that have arrived in this community, the SJW nonsense, the disrespect anyone with a different view point, it has really broken me down.
I feel like I was holding onto something that despite all I have done, I cannot keep doing this anymore. Maybe I am just not in the right mind set, or maybe I am overthinking things again, but it isn't like me to be able to go much further in this fandom now. I feel I don't enjoy it anymore with its current change of direction. Which is why from the start of the new year, I will be here a lot less since I think its time to stop acting like a character and act like myself instead. Maybe I will put something up every so often, but I feel like this is time to stop living a fantasy and come back to a reality that will give me a bigger chance and get away from all the political drama, a chance to finally be more like myself.
I am sorry if this seems like a downer, but at least I can finally explain a little more about what has been going on now.
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Look, the best advice I can offer is that you could easily start an SFW account for less fetishy thing and advertise it, see what interest that generates. I'd like to see some more non-fetish stuff, ya know? But hey, I can't stop you, do what you do man.
Look up the UC Berkeley riots.
Look up the March Against Sharia Protests.
Sadly we live in a world where everyone is offended by everything. While change and progression can certainly be a good thing, it's the way that some people go about that really gets under my skin. I'm not saying that the whole world needs to shape up and just accept everyone's ideals. But if people were less of dicks about it, then the world will be a better place. I mean, is it really so hard to keep your mouth shut? What ever happened to "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all"?
And I'm sorry to hear about your father and to learn of your current stance on the fandom. But it's your life and your choice to make. Whatever you decide to do, I'm sure you'll pick the best choice for yourself and let nobody else tell you otherwise.
Also, people move on. It doesn't have a goddamn thing to do with politics. It might have something to do with how little activity your account has, though.
Perhaps you should move on, too. If you were... Naive enough to get a degree in a field you wouldn't have dared apply for because "OMG fursecution," I don't know what to tell you. The time to leave was when you graduated or probably before that.
I don't know why you made this journal. If you made it because you thought you'd get asspats... Well, no dice. I don't care about politics anymore, but if there's one thing I can't stand, it's WHINING.
And on the bright side, at least FA and Twitter haven't completely destroyed themselves like tumblr has...yet.
that one person though.... they are the EXACT GOD DAMNED thing that you said happens when you step out of line and don't conform to the group think. and that is what makes me angry. i used to think it was nice to do what you thought was best, but i lost several friwnds because of it, and honestly it only makes me more aggrivated when people get so obssessed with politics that they throw out being human beings to one another and just start at calling you names, branding you, or whatever the fuck else.
i agree with you i i would say almost every way, people have to always bring up what a good person they are because of the people they spend time with or help and it only sounds liek they feel they need to help them because they are helpless and incapable of helping themselves. the identity shit is everywhere, people care more about what you are than who you are, if you don't identify as a certain thing then you are cast out because peopel can't tolerate anyone that isn't the exact same.
to this day since i played the story in destiny 2 i always remember a conversation had between hawthorne and cayde where she says taht insecure people tend to spend mroe time around like minded individuals, and it's becuase they can't deal with a thought that might make them think theya re wrong or not perfect. some people just like the ability to think critically and that critical thought could change their entire world. and they arescared of that.
i kind of went on arant but i wanted to give my thoughts on these things that it seems like you have already started getting attacked/branded for. and in all honesty this stuff is kind of why i don't really watch many people anymore on here, oe fallow people on twitter. everyone has to be political about everything and nothing can be just keptas a safe place online where people can enjoy not interacting with the real world. i have had it where in literal days i've seen how politically retarded and obssessed they were with politics that i stopped watching them. their art isn't worth their stupidity. so i'd rather not see that shit too keep enjoying what they have that isn't political.
oddly enough thought i have also had thoughts that i belong in a different time becuase most of the people i know or hear or see all think in a specific way and hate anyone that isn't the same. it hurts to see so many people who would attack or just throw you away liek trash if they heard you actually speak out. some people say we are living in a better more openly afe time, but more people live in fear that they did when i was still in school. i may be and idiot, but i sure as hell am not stupid and i can see this stuff that others seem to lack the ability to. i think it all comes down to critical thought.
as for art stuff.... i don't honestly know, i've watched you and what you create since i was young and probably were one of the people i got into really enjoying the fandom for. i even rememebr some animations you did, and how much i adored watching the one with that green wolf girl, she was such a cute charcter and i loved to see her and duragan. if you feel it's time to move on, it will suck, but i can understand. i think honestly, even if noone cares, the thing you should worry about is just enjoying your art, wether you get a ton of people watching, or if not many care for it. you draw when you want and if people have a problem with that, then it's their fault.
i can say i haven't ben doing a good job at supporting the artists i like, but it can be ahrd sometimes. if nothing really catches my eye, i don't really have anything i think i could say.
Duragan, would you feel better if someone requested a commission from you, and would you be able to finish it by Christmas Eve or Day?
What I would do if I was considering leaving (and I have thought about it a number of times) would be to take a piece of paper and divide it into two columns, positive and negative. In the positive column list all the good things which you like about the fandom, the reasons you joined perhaps, friends, art, creativity and anything else. The same with the negative column listing things you don't like about the fandom whatever they are such as some of the things you've outlined above. Have a good look at this list and consider if it is worth leaving, or if you should stay.
If you do stay maybe you should have a look at how you interact with the fandom, you could even get a new name and identity, or it could be to double down on keeping the stuff you don't like out of sight so you don't have to think about it.
To me this is one of the issues with social media, everyone and every topic crammed into one place, looping and cycling around, the very feedback loop formula social networks use to grow content just work to amplify the worst things and then there's the people who just do it to look popular, get RTs, likes and follows and don't actually care about the subject at all.
Hope to see you soon in meat space anyways. ^_^ *Hugs.*
Also.. nahh, don't let a vocal minority fool you into thinking that they're the majority of the furry fandom.
The caliber of people you're talking about are the ones who are very much ready to break friendships, harm people's reputation, or fire people from their jobs just because they don't have agreement on political opinions. They'll twist their words and your words to deem themselves right. They'll get vicious and attack you as a person, instead of attacking your ideology.
Instead of leaving the fandom, avoid these toxic people. If they chase you, block them. You don't need them in your life. Besides, wherever you go, there's going to be these kinds of people.
And ultimately, let's face it; Are you advocating violence? Self-harm? Illegal things? Are you shaming other people, bullying anyone? Absolutely not, so you have every right to speak your mind.
That being said, you can't expect the metaphorical wild cat to not tear up your sofa, so it's best to avoid public journals or comments on FA to minimize toxic contact. Those aren't the correct place for politics anyway. Go to forums dedicated to that thing, or friends on a chat server, whatever it is. Just don't let yourself get bullied into shutting up about your opinions completely. Don't live that lie.
Let me restore some of your hope as well. I know a few furry friends who are very much left wing in their view, don't approve of Trump AT ALL, but are totally fine with me disagreeing with them on many things. very chill, amicable people. And after that, we can talk about oversized cuties because nothing wrong happened. You want to surround yourself with these kinds of people, who can separate an individual from his opinions, regardless of their own opinion. Someone that you can agree or disagree on various morals and values, and not get hated for it as a human being. How about that?
I kind of had to come to terms with my own beliefs and how other people might not agree and I realized myself that I, personally, do not want to be a hateful, toxic left-wing nutjob. I was almost that person after Donald Trump was elected president and then I realized that I didnt want to be that way. I realized that branding people an enemy is not a good way to reconcile with others and build rapport with people. I dont wana be divisive or hateful. I think a lot of people with more conservative leanings are genuinely good people that only really have different idea bout how things should be done. Maybe different people have different ideas about how things should be done but I know we all generally have the same values. I expressly shy away from making brash assumptions about conservatives and get annoyed when other lefties say rude things about republicans.
One person I love very much has more conservative beliefs than I do and he might approve of the US President. And you know what? It doesnt matter because I still love him. Because sometimes the relationship matters more than trying to be right or standing my ground. Sure it annoys me, as a Mexican-American, but I can live with it and I can at least talk to him about it. And he can respect that I get where he is coming from with all his concerns and really listen to him.
I am not trying to go on and on about how I am better than other Left-Leaning people, I just want you to know that people like me exist and we value you. I really hope more people treat you with respect. Maybe i don't entirely agree with you but I respect you and I know that what you believe does not come from hate or bigotry. And honestly, talking to people with dissenting opinions or points has actually improved my worldview. I still consider myself sort of a liberal but i am alot more moderate and It is because of having my views challenged and seeking the truth. I still hate the President of the United States, but i don't want to automatically brush off people who don't.
I hope that you can try to understand where some of these other more defensive liberals are coming from though. Some people are just concerned at the way things are going, such as the people of my blood, the Mexicans. However, despite how much they might genuinely care about what they are standing up for, you dont need to put up with them bashing you, they should know better.
I remember when i used to look through your gallery like ten years ago back on Deviant Art and I really loved and still appreciate your art style and your presence. I think it would be a shame if you felt like it was time for you to leave the fandom . However, I hope that whatever you do, You find peace and happiness.
I dont know what I could say to help with the way you are feeling but I want you to know that I hear you and I understand where you are coming from and I hope others can do the same towards you.
Merry Christmas