Here is a video of a rarely gifted psychologist on the dynamics of shame.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IAbe3Vmulng

I know that shame is a murderer, it kills our spirits, it keeps us tied up and in bondage. It helps us lose control of ourselves. And it is a liar. Shame that cripples is a liar, shame that guides you into a healthier lifestyle to make immediate and proper corrections is good. But shame that has no cure... It is evil. I am about a quarter of the way into it, but it is very good, it comes highly recommended.

I highly encourage everyone to give this a watch, it can help you live your life.