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6 years ago
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Sup Peeps!
Been mulling over talking about this to anyone for a long time, but i think i would like some opinuons from others.
I am visiting my family doctor in a couple days to ask about hormone testing. I suspect i may have an imbalance and want to get tested, or whatever they need to do to find out. I have several possible issues related to hormone imbalance... but the one that has been at the forefront of my mind is... having basically no sex drive. I'm already feeling really weird about saying anything. It's something i've not told anyone but my partner, and it took me a long time to even tell him. It's something i've always experienced. Even as a teenager, i really didn't have an interest in sex. I don't know if it's a hormone issue or maybe I'm Asexual, but i want to find out. If i can fix the problem, i want to. This is certainly not to say anything against Asexuals, it's just that i personally would like to have a more traditionally healthy sex drive, both for me and my partner's happiness. If i'm Asexual, then i can accept that, but i want to explore my options as to what might be causing this before i accept that it's just sexuality.
My big issue is simply knowing which it is, a sexuality or a hormone imbalance. Has anyone else ever gone through a similar situation that could give me some advice? My new family doctor seems to be more hollistic, rather than ordering tests or writing prescriptions, so i fear i will have a hard time explaining what i want to him. It seems everytime i have asked about help for issues in the past(like frequent headaches/migraines), he will simply say i should eat different foods and/or do more excercise. I believe this isn't necessarily bad advice, but it feels like he brushes away problems as simply life style choices. I just feel like my doctor doesn't really care about my concerns and i am really nervouse thinking about what I need to talk to him about. I don't really even know how i'm going to start the conversation. I feel like if i don't have a plan marked out before i go in, he won't take me seriously. If anyone wants to offer any help or advice, I'm all ears. I just feel lost a bit with all of this, and I don't really know who to turn to. But you guys always seem like a wonderful group here on FA, so this seemed like my best bet...
I am visiting my family doctor in a couple days to ask about hormone testing. I suspect i may have an imbalance and want to get tested, or whatever they need to do to find out. I have several possible issues related to hormone imbalance... but the one that has been at the forefront of my mind is... having basically no sex drive. I'm already feeling really weird about saying anything. It's something i've not told anyone but my partner, and it took me a long time to even tell him. It's something i've always experienced. Even as a teenager, i really didn't have an interest in sex. I don't know if it's a hormone issue or maybe I'm Asexual, but i want to find out. If i can fix the problem, i want to. This is certainly not to say anything against Asexuals, it's just that i personally would like to have a more traditionally healthy sex drive, both for me and my partner's happiness. If i'm Asexual, then i can accept that, but i want to explore my options as to what might be causing this before i accept that it's just sexuality.
My big issue is simply knowing which it is, a sexuality or a hormone imbalance. Has anyone else ever gone through a similar situation that could give me some advice? My new family doctor seems to be more hollistic, rather than ordering tests or writing prescriptions, so i fear i will have a hard time explaining what i want to him. It seems everytime i have asked about help for issues in the past(like frequent headaches/migraines), he will simply say i should eat different foods and/or do more excercise. I believe this isn't necessarily bad advice, but it feels like he brushes away problems as simply life style choices. I just feel like my doctor doesn't really care about my concerns and i am really nervouse thinking about what I need to talk to him about. I don't really even know how i'm going to start the conversation. I feel like if i don't have a plan marked out before i go in, he won't take me seriously. If anyone wants to offer any help or advice, I'm all ears. I just feel lost a bit with all of this, and I don't really know who to turn to. But you guys always seem like a wonderful group here on FA, so this seemed like my best bet...
But I can tell, you should look for some else as your doctor.
A Doctor who does not really listen to your problems and concerns, and doesn't take them seriously is not a good doctor.
In germany we have something called "Freie Ärzte Wahl" -> "Free choice of medical doctors".
We can go and leave a doctor that moment, the doctor can't help or doesn't seem thrustworthy or for any other reason.
Look, if you can find another doctor who is willing to listen to your problems and concerns and where you feel cared for.
*hugs*
Besides that, I wish you all the luck of the world, that you can find the answer, you're looking for :3
And thank you for the advice ^^
Personally, if you were prescribed something to test at the very least to see if it kicks your hormones into drive; you can at least figure out if its an imbalance or simply a mental one.
Failing that, I suppose it's simply finding a trigger. Sometimes a certain requisite needs to be checked for one's stimulation to grow. Unfortunately something like that is so personal even suggesting ideas is beyond help.
Thanks, Talon ^^
Could always try to spice things up in your relationship as well. Sometimes a little spark can go a long way.
Possible adding spice could help, but even with other partners in the past, it's never really been something i wanted. So it has felt more like it's a Me problem, and not a Them problem. If that makes sense.
Thanks for the advice, though. It's really appreciated ^^
Thanks, Walking ^^
As for your problem specifically though, I sadly also don't have any personal experience with such issues. But I hope you do find a care person that can actually assist you, or at the very least convince him that you wont be satisfied until you know for sure.
Id start the conversation just like you kind of did here. "hay, I feel I have a hormonal imbalance, here are the reasons why." and again, if he just flat out refuses without explanation, press for one. Bring your loved one if you need it for support and have you both press for answers. A doctor should be helping you find them, not brushing you aside like used paper. If he just flat out wont give you an explanation, he doesn't deserve your business, he clearly doesn't want to help you, so you should stop helping him with your funding and try someone else.
I wish you the best with this, I hope things turn out ok and you can get the answers you seek. Also hope it is something that can be managed and even cured, and you can feel the pulsing desires that many of the pics you make contain within them.
Thanks for the advice. It's appreciated ^^ Fingers crossed I get some answers.
But yeah, I hope so. I really really do ^^;