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5 years ago
Alot of furs and friends can not seem to understand my family of wives. so today i want to share some of how and why it works, and why im still so happy to
be here! better get a coffee because i will be rambling a bit ^^ for good reason.
Our ENTIRE family shares the love of realistic mature female body shapes, furries, herms/female switches, females, anthros, cute and sexy appearance, breeding, sex, yes more SEX, cuddles. Most of us dislike the same things to, ferals, scales, males and humans... well majority of us anyway.
We are a family of wives, we are all the same title of "wife" with noone being higher or lower than another. this is important! all our voices are of equal importance, and anything that will effect the entire family needs to be discussed and agreed on by us us all! for example accepting a new wife into our family.
When my wife really needs me, you can bet im dropping what i doing and going there, date or not! "Sorry sweetie, your pussy feels good and tight, but i have to run!". I cant really explain this i guess, but my wives are there for me when i need help, and i will be there for them! I give my soul, love, support and care to those that have given me theirs!
Something that came up alot when i first joined my family was jealousy, its a nasty thing that causes anger and hate over time if not addressed. i had to acknowledge it and admit i was feeling it. talk about it to my family, its hard to manage this if you cant talk about it, and will break a family up if left unchecked. I have a far better handle on it now, i can walk into my wives having group orgies with random strangers and feel really happy that they are having fun!
That leads into another thing, understanding that we not all the same, something i might consider normal is very upsetting to another wife, maybe i dont understand the reason why, but i do understand its hurting my wife, lets talk about it, let me understand her, and then support her! I love her, and want her just as happy as i am!
Yes, we communicate alot, we talk about anything troubling, upsetting us or just anything. this can not be understated enough. I can tell you, just talking about the issues you have as they come up really helps! this really helps to bind us together even closer. We hardly ever hide our feelings anymore, if im horny ill say right out "im feeling horny for some pussy" or something like "ok our bunny wants to be herm today and fuck our wolf, so ill let my tigress take my pussy for a pounding, and our couger cant play right now, so she can watch us all, maybe join us later, does that sound like a good plan to everyone?". "i was feeling really jealous of that girl you where with" I already know this problem is on myself, but now my wife know how i feel and she can talk to me and calm me down, maybe even organize a threesome with her so i dont feel left out.
Ok this one is hard for me to talk about, but here it is... forgiveness, i had a hard time with this at one point, one of our wives just left us suddenly, just saying "goodbye" (or something like that). this hurt me so badly, because i was so close to her. i literally was enraged and angry thinking to myself "how could you do this to us! you broke all our hearts!". For months i hated her, i could not believe what she did to us. Now, after so long i looked back and realized, my mind
was clouded by hate, i did love her, and everything we had together was good. i still dont know the reason why she left, but she did not intend to hurt us. and that is the most important part! what she did might be wrong for us, but she never meant to hurt us! I forgive her, and i want her back! We need to forgive! We are going to hurt each other! but its not because we want to! Its important to remember this!
I am wrong, what i did was wrong! i am sorry! None of us are above these words, and by saying them, we are declaring our love! "i love you so much and dont want to lose you, the love of my life!"
Crying my eyes out here, but hope you all enjoyed my rambling <3
be here! better get a coffee because i will be rambling a bit ^^ for good reason.
Our ENTIRE family shares the love of realistic mature female body shapes, furries, herms/female switches, females, anthros, cute and sexy appearance, breeding, sex, yes more SEX, cuddles. Most of us dislike the same things to, ferals, scales, males and humans... well majority of us anyway.
We are a family of wives, we are all the same title of "wife" with noone being higher or lower than another. this is important! all our voices are of equal importance, and anything that will effect the entire family needs to be discussed and agreed on by us us all! for example accepting a new wife into our family.
When my wife really needs me, you can bet im dropping what i doing and going there, date or not! "Sorry sweetie, your pussy feels good and tight, but i have to run!". I cant really explain this i guess, but my wives are there for me when i need help, and i will be there for them! I give my soul, love, support and care to those that have given me theirs!
Something that came up alot when i first joined my family was jealousy, its a nasty thing that causes anger and hate over time if not addressed. i had to acknowledge it and admit i was feeling it. talk about it to my family, its hard to manage this if you cant talk about it, and will break a family up if left unchecked. I have a far better handle on it now, i can walk into my wives having group orgies with random strangers and feel really happy that they are having fun!
That leads into another thing, understanding that we not all the same, something i might consider normal is very upsetting to another wife, maybe i dont understand the reason why, but i do understand its hurting my wife, lets talk about it, let me understand her, and then support her! I love her, and want her just as happy as i am!
Yes, we communicate alot, we talk about anything troubling, upsetting us or just anything. this can not be understated enough. I can tell you, just talking about the issues you have as they come up really helps! this really helps to bind us together even closer. We hardly ever hide our feelings anymore, if im horny ill say right out "im feeling horny for some pussy" or something like "ok our bunny wants to be herm today and fuck our wolf, so ill let my tigress take my pussy for a pounding, and our couger cant play right now, so she can watch us all, maybe join us later, does that sound like a good plan to everyone?". "i was feeling really jealous of that girl you where with" I already know this problem is on myself, but now my wife know how i feel and she can talk to me and calm me down, maybe even organize a threesome with her so i dont feel left out.
Ok this one is hard for me to talk about, but here it is... forgiveness, i had a hard time with this at one point, one of our wives just left us suddenly, just saying "goodbye" (or something like that). this hurt me so badly, because i was so close to her. i literally was enraged and angry thinking to myself "how could you do this to us! you broke all our hearts!". For months i hated her, i could not believe what she did to us. Now, after so long i looked back and realized, my mind
was clouded by hate, i did love her, and everything we had together was good. i still dont know the reason why she left, but she did not intend to hurt us. and that is the most important part! what she did might be wrong for us, but she never meant to hurt us! I forgive her, and i want her back! We need to forgive! We are going to hurt each other! but its not because we want to! Its important to remember this!
I am wrong, what i did was wrong! i am sorry! None of us are above these words, and by saying them, we are declaring our love! "i love you so much and dont want to lose you, the love of my life!"
Crying my eyes out here, but hope you all enjoyed my rambling <3
You must be a trusting person, unafraid to love and experience all that you can.
I understand about your cherished lover departing with little but a goodbye... It is a common occurrence across the web and in real life...
I had a relationship where my partner and I were utterly consumed by love and lust and bliss for the other. Every second together was literally an experience of beautiful love between us.
But she became overly possessive...
And eventually she could not take the love she felt for me, without ownership. We were both in this relationship because we were polys... trapped in less than loving marriages. I know that's controversial and we knew it was wrong, but we saw this as a way to keep our sanity and our marriages.
And yet towards the end, she wanted to scrap two marriages with children and start a third...
My point is that these kind of things can happen. What was born out of romantic logic and physical necessity suddenly became hurtful for her. She had to own me.
And then one day, she simply disappeared.
No goodbye even... My heart was utterly broken and I thought perhaps all manor of things had happened to her.
She did eventually email me and explain what I said above. And that our love was too powerful for her, too consuming.
And I think something similar happened to your lover.
Perhaps they had conflicts with their marriage or other relationships and could not take the strain. Maybe they led a dual life and were breaking their own heart. I have seen the latter happen with Christians myself. They feel deeply torn between the people that they love and enjoy romantically and their God...
In the end you may never know... But you know they were a good person, that's for sure. Otherwise you could not have loved them.
And good people only do things like this if their heart is overwhelmed. She must have loved you very much and was deeply drawn. Pulling away was like amputating one's heart. And the worst part for her, was the knowledge that she was breaking yours.
Understand that it hurt so much because your love was so powerful. But she could not live between the two strongest points in her life.
How do I know that?
Because when a good person does something like this, they must have an important reason weighing on their heart...
I can tell you that I will never forget the powerful love we made- and the considerable lust. And if I had it to do over, I would- heartbreak and all. Be glad for the love you made and what you experienced. The negative never really goes away, but it will fade into a shadow, until mostly the love remains.
Life seems to be a series of hellos and goodbyes. While I did finally get a goodbye and an explanation, I had a choice to make.
I could lament and focus on the goodbye and hello, or I could be happy for the bliss and ecstasy we both experienced.
I have only know a love like our a few times i my life, but I can say those few times have been with the long waits in between.
Most pleased you got your friend back!!!