So my life lately has been a shitshow. The person I was seeing dumped me out of the blue (2 days before Valentine's). About a week later he started hooking up with a newly single friend of mine (I didnt know this at the time). 3 weeks pass and this past Sunday, he wants to get food together. We'd talked about getting lunch as friends, so I thought he was just being impatient.
The whole time he's being weirdly flirty and aggressively suggestive. This felt awkward, because he had previously set very strict boundaries.
We ended up going on a drive, and he amped up his wording, making things more confusing. Making jokes about "taking me back to his place to fuck the shit out of me" etc.
I still thought he was just being raunchy and wanted to Actually talk.
Obviously that wasnt what happened when we got to his place..
Meanwhile, the chick he'd been talking to about dating -just the previous night/morning mind you- is spiraling and reaches out in her crisis. He leaves her on read until he takes me home.
So.. the next morning I have a bs apology saying he didnt have feelings for me like he'd claimed post-coitus, but actually had feelings for someone else, but that he'd "sabotaged" anything happening with her because he couldnt keep it in his pants (I'm paraphrasing). I spent the day depressed.
That night, she reached out and revealed who she was.. I was briefly devastated... she wasnt a close friend, but I'd admired her for a long time. We even look like we could be sisters.. but then I got angry. We started comparing notes about his habits and phrases.
We decided to confront him together to get back our things we'd left at his house. Because he needed to see we weren't the same damn person, fucker.
Next day (tuesday), we met up after she got off work, talked for an hour and realized there was even more he did that was the same between us.
We got our stuff, with the energy of the pair of pissed off goth witches we are. He was cowed. I refused to acknowledge him anymore than necessary, she said he looked terrified when he wouldn't hand me my stuff.
After, she and I talked for another 3 hours. Turns out he might have been fucking his last ex too while he was seeing me. A friend witnessed him making out with her outside his work. He claims they just talked... I dont believe a word he says anymore.
But I was feeling pensive tonight and wrote this to him:
"You have ruined me.
Because of you, I realize that I can't assess when someone is truely being genuine with me. You gaslit me and clouded your intentions with promises and insinuations that you never intended on following through.
You used me.
Used my feelings to get what you wanted, and planned on throwing me away when it no longer would get you what you wanted.
You abused me.
You, who became so offended at a perceived comparison one day... now I see that it was because you hated the unintentional truth behind it.
You treated me like an object.
Something to get you off, rather than the person who was loving and supporting you. But you never cared about that, did you? You never cared about anything beyond what you could get me to do in your bed. You wanted my secrets to use them against me. Your invisible espionage into my fears, to learn exactly how to trick me.
You will get exactly what you deserve.. maybe not now, but eventually. Your 3-fold karma will come. And for myself and the others you've hurt, used and abandoned... I hope I get to watch. 🔥😎🖕"

I havent tagged him where I posted it. But he knows who he is (he still reads my posts), and most of our mutual friends know too. He's managed to alienate himself from a group of at least 20 people by trying to secretly fuck two from the same friend group... how fucking stupid can you be?