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Hard times, but things change.. (read latest journal)
5 years ago
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I don't know where to start, since it is a difficult situation..
But some of you, who know me for many years, know that i went through quite some shit in the last decade. It started when during EF17 my apartment was destroyed by a fire. Me being young and without much experience, didn't have any insurance, so it left me with thousands of debts.
Since then i paid off quite a big amount. Over all the years i struggled with depression, sometimes more and sometimes less. I was in psychiatric care, getting different medication and even had to stay in a psychiatric hospital twice, when the bad thoughts in my head got out of control. But i always tried to get through it, finished a three years apprenticeship as valedictorian and paid off a big amount of the debts. Everything i achieved during this time made me quite happy, but it sure was difficult. If you ever wondered why you never see me smile, that's why..
But now i honestly give up. I just can't stand everything anymore. There was another setback recently and it's too much. I did not get much sleep for like two weeks now. Well, let's keep it short. I created a fundraiser some days ago, but didn't have the guts to share it yet, also to avoid trouble. But it explains the situation pretty well:
GoFundMe
Why did i not share it? Well, i tried to get a loan to cover the refund. But in the current situation it's basically impossible. And let's be honest, i still have my suits. And people will probably tell me to sell these. Yes, they are paid and my property. I saved up the money for them from the minimum amount of money, law allowed me to keep. And since I wasn't allowed to have a car or any "normal" valuable things like jewelry, i got them. They mean a lot to me and it breaks my heart to sell them, but i think it's time to let them go.
The buyer from the parcel which got lost (as you can read in the link) started a lawsuit against me, assuming that i took the damage compensation. And since i'm currently in further education to become a fund manager, it would destroy my chance to get accepted for my new job, if I have any convictions.
Let's keep it short, if you are interested in one of my suits, drop me an offer.
If you want to support me otherwise, feel free to share this on Twitter, or help me on the campaign.
Maybe you know a lawyer in Germany, who's experienced with things like this? Hit me up! Every kind of help is appreciated.
If you want to help me out with a small tip, there is the fundraiser or Paypal: https://paypal.me/pools/c/8rsYRofFa4
But I will most likely leave the whole community after this, if I don’t find a way to keep my suits. Still don't know how to handle this with my partner, since we use most of our free time for fandom activities, but for me it's not an option anymore after selling what means the most to me. We mostly went to furmeets and conventions for fursuiting and partying. I'm not so much into artwork and panels and all the stuff, to be honest. But it sure was a great time with lots of precious moments! Also many thanks to all team members we worked with at conventions and furmeets, you are awesome!
Thanks for reading.
But some of you, who know me for many years, know that i went through quite some shit in the last decade. It started when during EF17 my apartment was destroyed by a fire. Me being young and without much experience, didn't have any insurance, so it left me with thousands of debts.
Since then i paid off quite a big amount. Over all the years i struggled with depression, sometimes more and sometimes less. I was in psychiatric care, getting different medication and even had to stay in a psychiatric hospital twice, when the bad thoughts in my head got out of control. But i always tried to get through it, finished a three years apprenticeship as valedictorian and paid off a big amount of the debts. Everything i achieved during this time made me quite happy, but it sure was difficult. If you ever wondered why you never see me smile, that's why..
But now i honestly give up. I just can't stand everything anymore. There was another setback recently and it's too much. I did not get much sleep for like two weeks now. Well, let's keep it short. I created a fundraiser some days ago, but didn't have the guts to share it yet, also to avoid trouble. But it explains the situation pretty well:
GoFundMe
Why did i not share it? Well, i tried to get a loan to cover the refund. But in the current situation it's basically impossible. And let's be honest, i still have my suits. And people will probably tell me to sell these. Yes, they are paid and my property. I saved up the money for them from the minimum amount of money, law allowed me to keep. And since I wasn't allowed to have a car or any "normal" valuable things like jewelry, i got them. They mean a lot to me and it breaks my heart to sell them, but i think it's time to let them go.
The buyer from the parcel which got lost (as you can read in the link) started a lawsuit against me, assuming that i took the damage compensation. And since i'm currently in further education to become a fund manager, it would destroy my chance to get accepted for my new job, if I have any convictions.
Let's keep it short, if you are interested in one of my suits, drop me an offer.
If you want to support me otherwise, feel free to share this on Twitter, or help me on the campaign.
Maybe you know a lawyer in Germany, who's experienced with things like this? Hit me up! Every kind of help is appreciated.
If you want to help me out with a small tip, there is the fundraiser or Paypal: https://paypal.me/pools/c/8rsYRofFa4
But I will most likely leave the whole community after this, if I don’t find a way to keep my suits. Still don't know how to handle this with my partner, since we use most of our free time for fandom activities, but for me it's not an option anymore after selling what means the most to me. We mostly went to furmeets and conventions for fursuiting and partying. I'm not so much into artwork and panels and all the stuff, to be honest. But it sure was a great time with lots of precious moments! Also many thanks to all team members we worked with at conventions and furmeets, you are awesome!
Thanks for reading.
Whilst I don't know the full details, I am more then sure that when you complete your end of the transaction with DHL (eg letting them pick up the parcel for delivery) you get a confirmation that they have and from there you're nolonger liable for it - DHL is and that is what you're insured for.
DHL will always try and shift blame, deny and keep circling around the drain until either the package is found or they're no longer able to stall and need to have their insurance cover it.
You are absolutely not to blame, but you ARE being jerked about and I bet that in your position that is not great.
All that you can do is to continue to wait for DHL and keep pestering about the investigation, make them confirm that they're doing one and how long they expect to take etc. and save all those messages and phone conversations if ever the need arises to do something about it.
The buyer of these items can be shown and made aware that you're doing everything in your power to find the package for him and that's all he can do as much as that sucks for him.
Whilst I understand you feel the need to pay him back I wouldn't - It's DHL's problem and you've done everything and keep doing everything you need to.
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In case you feel really that you have to, or want to beleive the threaths of the shipping company to 'report' you for something that is untrue, I wish you the best of luck trying to find someone that can help you - perhaps find someone who's willing to loan some to you using your suits as collateral so that IF things come to a close and you get the money back then you can get your suits back as well.
Regardless, good luck with it all!
And yeah, a loan for my suits as pawn would be a good solution, but rather difficult to get this done. For a pawn shop they don't have value, because it's "custom fitted clothing".
However as long as you can show that you've done everything correctly and can prove that you handed off the item to the shipment company they can't demand you to pay them for the item or lost money because it's simply outside your power.
You're going after DHL and that is all you can do and the buyer should understand that.
And well I didn't specifically mean a pawn shop, moreso hopefully you can find some friends or people in the fandom that could help you forward with this.
Good luck!
So if I can help you, just let me know/ hit me up.
I'll try to do my best to help you
Ich hab leider kein Geld übrig, was ich dir beisteuern kann. Solltest du aber deine Suits verkaufen müssen für diese beschissene situation, würde ich dir Anbieten dir irgendwann, wenn es dir besser geht und sich alles gelegt hat, einen neuen Suit auf reiner Materialkostenbasis zu machen (sofern du willst und dir mein stil zusagt natürlich).
Ich drück dir auf jeden Fall die Daumen, dass das alles gut ausgeht
Ich hoffe wirklich die reißen sich zusammen und dass der jenige doch etwas Verständniss hat und dir zumindest Zeitlich etwas entgegen kommt.....
Ich arbeite ja im Versicherungswesen und das hier ist sehr fragwürdiges Verhalten ...
Man könnte dort auch anfragen wer der Versicherer ist und direkt dort Ansprüche geltend machen.
Man könnte auch mitteilen, dass man sich bei Nachfolgenden Stellen beschweren wird und den Ball DHL wieder zu übergeben (dann müssen Sie erst einmal was arbeiten). Es sollte Versichert sein und es wird wohl nur von denen versucht auf Zeit zu spielen (Kosten) aber dem kann man in gewissen maße kontern ohne zu viel Aufwand und Kosten.
https://www.dhl.de/de/toolbar/foote.....hlichtung.html (Außergerichtliche Streitschlichtung auf EU ebene)
https://www.bundesnetzagentur.de/DE.....tung-node.html (Außergerichtliche Schlichtung über die Bundesnetzagentur)
Wenn du eine Rechtsschutzversicherung hast könnte man da nachfragen, ansonsten hilfe über Kosten beantragen wäre auch noch etwas :/
Ich hoffe wirklich das nimmt bald ein Ende für dich :/ *umpfot*