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5 years ago
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Hey everyone,
I wanted to talk a little bit about the change that I have made. Most of you probably know me due to my fox character and unless you know me IRL, the fox only seemed to fit one aspect... when id get scared from loud noises and yelp out loud. I wanted to be a fox so bad because well... I also wanted to be a leather/rubber puppy... I wanted to fit being a twink so bad that it ultimately lead me into depression because I did not fit that image of a twinky rubber pup/fox.
It took me a long time to figure out that I am not that 'fox' IRL and probably never will be. Even when I was at my top fitness I still looked like I played American football or wrestling or simply just lifted weights. It ate away at me for a long time. I was ashamed of my body structure and my sex life suffered because of this.
It wouldn't be until recently I said 'screw it' and went with my new fursona 'Hank', then bear. He is a more accurate representation of what I really am and look like as far as body structure, weight, attitude, etc... 'What about being a sub' you ask? Well, accepting myself as a bear... I don't feel like a sub nor a switch anymore. Being the bear has given me my confidence back and has improved my sex life with my husband which had been suffering badly.
I am in no way trying to advocate 'fat acceptance' here. I do have a belly and I do want to stay healthy, but I will always have a small gut no matter how hard I work. It's just genetic and if you know me IRL you know what my dad looks like and yeah... there is no escaping that... However, it doesn't mean I am not giving up on staying active and being healthy as much as I can be.
From this journey, I realized this may be what leads a lot of other furs into depression. I see many people who's fursona exaggerates too much on their body structure and size leaving them hating their own body and therefore not comfortable in their own skin. I know we are all furries here but at the end of the day, for mental health sake, we are human and we have to accept ourselves. I am not saying this will work for everyone, but I do think that if more people come to the same realization that many would be less depressed or embarrassed to meet others IRL.
I do hope that this helps someone be more comfortable with themselves and can relate more to their fursona like I have been able to do here. Small exaggerations are fine, but try to keep it close to the real you as possible. For me, it helped me relate to my new fursona more and more. I hope this journey I took helps others out there.
Cheers~
I wanted to talk a little bit about the change that I have made. Most of you probably know me due to my fox character and unless you know me IRL, the fox only seemed to fit one aspect... when id get scared from loud noises and yelp out loud. I wanted to be a fox so bad because well... I also wanted to be a leather/rubber puppy... I wanted to fit being a twink so bad that it ultimately lead me into depression because I did not fit that image of a twinky rubber pup/fox.
It took me a long time to figure out that I am not that 'fox' IRL and probably never will be. Even when I was at my top fitness I still looked like I played American football or wrestling or simply just lifted weights. It ate away at me for a long time. I was ashamed of my body structure and my sex life suffered because of this.
It wouldn't be until recently I said 'screw it' and went with my new fursona 'Hank', then bear. He is a more accurate representation of what I really am and look like as far as body structure, weight, attitude, etc... 'What about being a sub' you ask? Well, accepting myself as a bear... I don't feel like a sub nor a switch anymore. Being the bear has given me my confidence back and has improved my sex life with my husband which had been suffering badly.
I am in no way trying to advocate 'fat acceptance' here. I do have a belly and I do want to stay healthy, but I will always have a small gut no matter how hard I work. It's just genetic and if you know me IRL you know what my dad looks like and yeah... there is no escaping that... However, it doesn't mean I am not giving up on staying active and being healthy as much as I can be.
From this journey, I realized this may be what leads a lot of other furs into depression. I see many people who's fursona exaggerates too much on their body structure and size leaving them hating their own body and therefore not comfortable in their own skin. I know we are all furries here but at the end of the day, for mental health sake, we are human and we have to accept ourselves. I am not saying this will work for everyone, but I do think that if more people come to the same realization that many would be less depressed or embarrassed to meet others IRL.
I do hope that this helps someone be more comfortable with themselves and can relate more to their fursona like I have been able to do here. Small exaggerations are fine, but try to keep it close to the real you as possible. For me, it helped me relate to my new fursona more and more. I hope this journey I took helps others out there.
Cheers~
Huntingdon
~huntingdon
Sounds like a healthy realisation. Thank you for sharing. There is a lot of pressure on people to conform to idealised types.
Sockstehfox
~sockstehfox
OP
This is true ^^ Id much rather be 'healthy' or 'healthier' rather than stressing my self, shaming my body type and shape, and being depressed for not fitting what I think is an ideal shape. I still like twink boys hehe but I don't have to be one. Much happier having muscular arms, chest, and a small gut hehe ;3
