So I ended up having to file a police report with my city for the internet revenge porn my ex was doing because i discovered it at my home. My parents had to file a report with their town's police department for the letter of revenge porn he delivered to them. We handed all the evidence we had over to both departments who agreed to work together on the matter.

2 days after I filed with my department, I was visited by 2 detectives. A female and male. I was told that since this is only considered a misdemeanor here, that there wasn't really anything they can. They cant go to grand jury to get a supeona for the websites. I do understand that this translates to "we don't want to because its not that big of a deal." They also asked if I really want this to be pursued. I said yes and advised that he is currently out on parole. They shrugged that off. They said that they would go talk to him with the other departments detectives.

2 weeks after that, his new girl tries to contact me via Facebook messenger. I do not respond but Spartacus does. Spartacus has been holding back his feelings and desires of what he truely wants to do to handle the situation. So this was perfect for him. He lets her know to leave me alone and that if she wants to know whats going on to talk with the police. She starts going off her mouth about how I'm not a real woman (which I'm gender fluid soo.....but whatever) for not talking to her and why didnt my friend (who did their hair) let her know what my ex was truly like. Spartacus advised her that approaching me as she had (it was no words, just a really creepy sticker thing) was going to trigger my anxiety and that I owed her nothing. She then told my husband to stop messaging her because it was escalating her domestic situation and that he was going to get her and her two kids (one is the ex's) killed. Spartacus reached out one last time with, "Go to the police."

I had called my city's detectives with the update the day she contacted me. They called me the next day stating that they had gone and talked to my ex the same day his girl contacted me. Kinda made sense why she reached out then but alas I wasn't touching that. The detective them told me that they were shutting my case because "he acted the part and probably did do it but we have no proof". So honestly, it was a waste of my time and probably escalated the issue. I don't know if my parent's case was also closed as well. It might still be open because they had more evidence (the flash drive and photos).

Needless to say, I have been fearful to be in my studio working. I can't hear the door open or close back where it is located. I purchased some alarms for the door and that has helped. It also startled our downstairs neighbors so Spartacus let them in on what is going on. Neighbor stated that if he hears that alarm go off and there is only one car in the driveway then he will come up and check to make sure I am okay. That alarm is only on when I am here. Our downstairs neighbor has always been awesome since we moved here in 2017. He brings our packages off the porch and puts them on the stairs that are inside so that they don't get grabbed. He's helped me bring groceries up. When I had my hysterectomy he brought the mail in as well and would check on me to make sure I was doing okay while Spartacus was at work. His wife and kid are really awesome too. So that helps my nerves when I'm here by myself.

Just sucks that it feels like he is getting away with it scott-free.