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Something that annoys me enough to mention it...
4 years ago
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i really, REALLY cant stand people who think that being introverted is some kind of social disease, just because they're hyper-extroverts who have never even considered life without some kind of constant human/social media contact with other people, probably a bit of "self-important, never been told no before,"-syndrome mixed in there too, DEFINETELY a heaping serving of general disrespect added in for good measure...
i honestly believe that the opposite is better, not having your entire being hinge on the opinions and approvals of other people, there is a certain serenity in not giving a fuck about what negative things other people may think of you. and i like the fact that i can do my thing, not bother anyone, and have no one bothering me. i have no real enemies that i can think of, and a few friends, thats a good ratio!
i recharge by getting away from crowds and people, other people recharge by being with crowds and people. i like a certain level of interaction, i'm comfortable with it, but a 'friend-of-a-girlfriend' of my cousin whom i barely know shouldnt be inviting me to house parties with no-one there i'll know, and then jumping on me for being antisocial when i decline. (i think this incident may lead her to not be friends with my cousin anymore too. good, that chick is kinda trash, the dead-on 'stereotypical party-girl' vibe she gave me was reason enough to decline, never mind i dont do parties without good friends or family there, which there wasnt going to be)
very interesting situation i found myself in to say the least... yeah... basically we all glared at her when she told me that "antisocial" line, and she had a pretty good "oh shit" face once she read the room, mask-slipping-off kinda moment. i walked away, cousin apologized via a long text later... but MAN that was awkward as fuck!!
i honestly believe that the opposite is better, not having your entire being hinge on the opinions and approvals of other people, there is a certain serenity in not giving a fuck about what negative things other people may think of you. and i like the fact that i can do my thing, not bother anyone, and have no one bothering me. i have no real enemies that i can think of, and a few friends, thats a good ratio!
i recharge by getting away from crowds and people, other people recharge by being with crowds and people. i like a certain level of interaction, i'm comfortable with it, but a 'friend-of-a-girlfriend' of my cousin whom i barely know shouldnt be inviting me to house parties with no-one there i'll know, and then jumping on me for being antisocial when i decline. (i think this incident may lead her to not be friends with my cousin anymore too. good, that chick is kinda trash, the dead-on 'stereotypical party-girl' vibe she gave me was reason enough to decline, never mind i dont do parties without good friends or family there, which there wasnt going to be)
very interesting situation i found myself in to say the least... yeah... basically we all glared at her when she told me that "antisocial" line, and she had a pretty good "oh shit" face once she read the room, mask-slipping-off kinda moment. i walked away, cousin apologized via a long text later... but MAN that was awkward as fuck!!
Because I know that I am socially awkward, it makes being around other people - especially people I don't know - very stressful. This is why I really dislike any kind of party or similar social event.
So I can really relate to the frustration of being invited to events where you don't know anyone, and then you are forced to risk insulting them when you decline.
though all of this took years of figuring myself out, and is a LOT easier said than done.
the upside is i can take a lot of crap that would bug other people without it even fazing me, or easily get over stuff that does bug me. the downside... well burying emotions is tricky, when i explode in anger or sadness or some other emotional extreme, i'm terrifying to be around by all accounts... theres no such thing as a perfect personality is all im sayin i guess... ^^;
I made the mistake of taking my last girlfriend to a casino that she'd talked me into; had to use the restroom and came out to find she had wandered off; I came close to having a panic attack; too many people and a mixture of dark lighting and flashing lights from the machines with the lack of an anchor person.
i had more fun going to the Las Vegas Mob Museum lol XD
same thing with conventions, i dont go without friends. with one exception tho, i will happily attend anything airsoft-related with or without friends accompanying, cause that's one of my hardcore passions.
The mob museum sounds like a lot of fun; I've been wanting to go to vegas If I ever do I'll add that too my list.