Yeah, that can suck for sure, one tip I recommend that helps me out a bit is to just give more attention to the ones that don't ghost you, value those friendships. At least for me, it helps me not think about the others, even if I do see them online.

I'm trying, but I worried I'm not doing enough or getting very far with those friendships either. I don't know where I stand and if I'm doing enough or too much, and I just wish I knew what happened and what I did or didn't do that made this happen. If I'd known... maybe I would of tried to be better or said or acted differently. I was young back then, so maybe I did something stupid without even realizing it, but I really really cared about them, I wasn't on bad terms with those that have ghosted me, and I really cherished the time they gave me. I think about it and remember it all the time. It hurts so much that I'm afraid of it happening again. I wish I knew what I did or if they simply became disinterested in me or other, why they couldn't just talk to me.

please feel welcome here, if you need someone really not ghosting anyone else then talk with me. And feel invited to hug and cuddle with a shiny or fluffyfurry pony.

I feel for you, man. It's one of the problems (sometimes advantages?) with not being able meet people face to face. There they might be more open to explaining. Or at least they'd hopefully have body language to read. Here though, people can be as selective as they want to be.

I had a friend who I thought was cool, but apparently I said 1 wrong thing and now it's like I'm cut out from his life forever. It hurts, yeah, but I try to tell myself "Don't try to read an empty inbox." We can spend hours trying to figure out what went wrong, or spend that time making new friends.

VVV Derp meant to hit reply. VVV

I can tell from RL that things happen there in the same way than online. People that you had met on places and events disappear without trace, just "poof"

Well, one of them in particular I'd met IRL. If I'd known it would be like this, I would of waited or not gone at all until I was better prepared, or something. I never imagined that I'd be feeling this way without any reason or explanation.

God, it would be awesome if people came with warning labels. We could avoid a LOT of problems that way...

When I get one of "those nights" I try to put something on in the background, some youtube video or something long. Sometimes the background noise helps.

Ghosting is shit, really shit, can really destroy people.

I know that from myself all the time when i always have weeks or months with the thoughts circling in my head.

Did they had an accident and are offline? Or did i mess up again, did i say something wrong again, did i loose a race with other people having higher social capital?

it burns you down.