it just take's Time :3 Gunner Probably is just thinking of what to say to you and how he feels about how you like guys...

I was thinking the same thing. Thank you <3

Odds are, he's still trying to come to terms with it, or he doesn't know what to say.

Yeah, I'm thinking that too

best of luck hun~

thank you <3

Things are getting better. They may not seem great, but there is definitely tangible improvement.

I feel the same way. Thank you <3

He might just need time to decide how he feels about it. Or it's possible he feels betrayed. I've had friends who didn't mind at all that I was gay but just felt hurt that I never told them.

I think he'll eventually come around though. If he didn't want to remain friends, he wouldn't have asked you about it and probably would have just distanced himself.

Than you for the advice. I appreciate it. <3

idk if he need space, maybe you should just ask whats up eh, he might just be having a problem he is confused with and needs someone elses opinion? so just ask whats up eh ^.-.^

I plan on talking to him about it tomorrow. Thank you <3

Ok good bud, howd it go??

I didn't talk to him on thursday. u__u

But he started talking to me today, so everything is okay! ^^

O THANK GOD! so hes back to normal??

yup! ^^

YAY! SO GLAD! YAYAYAY!

I wish I could help, but I haven't had someone react like this. Best of luck though, and as always *hugs* :)

Thank you *hugs back*

No problem :)

^-^

He probably does need his space... Best let him try to sort things out on his own.
Hopefully, things will turn out Ok.

Who knows? Maybe he's stuck on a completely different aspect of the scenario!?
Or, better yet, it may have nothing at all to do with you!!

Nevertheless, time will eventually bring you the answer.
How much time it will take... Well, that i have no idea about...
(God, I'm sorry for being so long winded... ^^;)

Thank you for your advice <3

He's probably still trying to figure out out to deal with the situation. Sooner or later he'll settle on something and you'll be able to talk to him. For the moment, best leave him be.

Thank you for the advice. <3

Happy to help. Even if I am basically repeating everyone else at this point

excelent choice

just give him time to think, i complicated understand a notice like this, but don't worry, all will be fine *hug*

Thank you for the advice *hug*

*hugs* I agree with what's been said above. Hang in there buddy!

Thank you *hug*

Don't worry man. You made the right decision to give him some space to think about how meaningless it should be to break up your friendship over something as stupid as sexuality.

He'll come around dude. I have high hopes

Thank you for the support <3

I imagine he's just a little confused, honey ;3 Doesn't know what to say or do.

It hardly needs to be said again, but let him have his space to think things over. Odds are, he'll come around. I seriously doubt he'd stop being you friend over something like that.

So, chin up, chest out, and don't forget to breathe ;P

Thank you for the advice and support. I appreciate it <3

Oh, and, one more thing.

Since you came out to Gunner, now might be a good time to tell the rest of your friends. Trust me, it's easier the second time around XP

I think I might wait a while. This has been too much for my heart lately u__u;

That's fine, but don't wait too long. Your friends might feel betrayed and/or left out if they hear the news from Gunner instead of you. It would be better if you told them... I might suggest when you all have lunch together next?

I suggest this because if even one of your friends is fine with it right off the bat, that might make your other friends feel better about it (including Gunner). Also, while Gunner is present, he won't feel pressured to keep it a secret (which might be part of his dilemma).

Thank you for your advice. I plan to do it soon. I just do not know when. u__u

Here's what it comes down to, hun:

I can't make you do anything. In no way, shape, or form do I have any control whatsoever over your actions.

All I can do is offer what advice I have to give, Whether or not you take it is up to you,

And who knows? My advice may not be the best for you. I've certainly been wrong before, and the odds are that I'll be wrong again. You just do what you think is rihgt, okay? That's all I ask.

It is okay, I very appreciate your advice and I consider them greatly. You are a kind person. ^^

I have to agree with Mordecai. Once you have told one friend it's probably best to let the rest know as well. Doing that will help Gunner, who does know, to not feel like he has to keep it a secret from everyone else and wait for you to tell them.
I came out to my friends almost all at once... We were talking about some random things of who we like and such. It was pretty much the perfect time to bring it up I guess. xD It won't always be that easy though, but you can still say something like, "Guys, I got something to tell ya'll. Gunner already knows, and I think the rest of you should hear it as well.". Or at least something close to that. It gets their attention. Before had though you might want to compose yourself so you don't have a panic attack. :3 -=Hugs=- Lots of love and luck If you decide to do this sooner or later (not to soon, but sooner the better) I wish you the best of luck.

Thank you a lot for the advice and support. I will consider doing that, but not too soon. Too much on my heart u__u;

Very understandable. Reason why I said "not to soon..." placing yourself under too much stress or grief in such a short amount of time can really do some damage emotionally, and mentally.

Thank you for understanding. ^^

I agree, 2 much pressure and he might say something that he shouldnt which could possibly make the worst...

Others should definately know especially since you're a group of friends, if one half knows then the otheres should, if you don't some guilt trip might occur...

Thank you for understanding, but I'll be sure to let them know soon. ^^ I just do not know when..

I hope everything's ok with him. And you, of course. :3

At least he's still hanging around you as a group, though it sounds like he's avoiding you during times where you're alone. Have your other friends noticed that he seems out of it?

I know others have said to give Gunner time, and I agree. To an extent. It may be a bad idea to let things fester, and if he continues to distance himself, it may not hurt to collect your thoughts about the situation and confront him. You know, reassure him you're still the same person, that nothing needs to change between you two, and that you still just want to be friends.

Maybe all he needs is some reassurance?

Thank you for your concern! Everything is alright now! ^w^

I don't know if my friends have noticed. They may have, but we have not talked about it.

I'm hopes and best wishes go out to you 54. I really do hope things turn out for the better...I wish things like this wouldn't happen...but anyway I'll pray for a good outcome.

Thank you for your support! You are a kind person. ^^

Thank you for the compliment ^^ I truely care for others

You say he had lunch with you right? and it doesnt seem like hes told anyone else? I think both those are good signs, he probably doesnt know exactly what to say or do right now but knows he still wants to be your friend. Also if he was asking questions on your walk that led up to you being gay then that means he suspected it and probably for some time now, yet still hung out with you. Id say things will ultimately be much better after a week or so tops. Hopefully sooner.

Hearing your story is actually making me think about telling my friend about me. I just have to wait for a good time to.

Yes, he still hang out with us during lunch. I think he was trying to tell me something, but he couldn't bring himself to. Today he came out to be bi! ^__^ I made a journal about it.

I'm glad that my experience may have inspired others. I will support you all the way! ^^

That sounds like a good idea. He was probably very surprised by the news, it's obviously not something he expected.

If he questions you about it, just tell him that you're still the same person, and that it doesn't change a single thing about your friendship together. You're a good friend, he'll come around.

Thank you for your advice and your support! ^^ <3

*looks at the post above and thinks what to say* well, emm.... best of luck on the outcome Mr. fifty4!! ^^"

hehe that's okay, thank you for your support! ^w^

Just give him time, but not too much either for it will spin out of control, just take it slow and with stride

Thank you for the advice! ^^

just think it as a storm. it might be bad now, but it will clear up soon. he'll come through.

That is a nice advice. Thank you! ^^

I think the boy just needs a bit of time to step back and realize "hey, he's been this way all this time, and I never even NOTICED." He's thinking this confession is sign of a big change or that things will shift... but hopefully he'll see that it wasn't different then, and it's no different now. Maybe a week of seeing things continue normally will show him and he'll relax.
If this stretches on for far too long, it might be good to pull him aside and tell him just that-- absolutely not a thing has changed except the fact that he's "in on it". He's concerned about interacting with you in a new way or having to alter this-or-that about himself around you, probably. Not to mention about as uncomfortable as the average straight teen is! I wish you luck, and I hope he can see that it's a tiny detail.

Thank you for your support and your advice! I appreciate it. ^^

no prob, just glad to have helped out ^_^

Sounds about right...him being reluctant to end your friendship, not to mention it from the sounds of it, like he's thinking...so the space and patience with him should help

Yes, he was probably thinking very hard. He came out to be bi, and now I am worried for him because of his family u__u

they usually do when they are working through something
wow...that is a little bit unexpected, though it makes quite a lot of sense why he was thinking so much after you came out to him.
it sounds worrisome when you put it that way ^_^;;
where does his family stand on the whole thing exactly?

He's probably just figuring out how to handle it. If he was with you guys at lunch, he probably isn't WAYYYY to freaked out about it. It's like the morning after an awkward breakup, but you keep seeing the girl everywhere...I mean, what do you SAY to them?

Gunner's probably thinking something like that. I mean, what do you do after one of your best friends COMES OUT to you?

*hugs* <3

hehe that would be a very awkward situation. ^^; *hugs*

just wait for him, like a good friend =)

thank you ^w^

let him be for a lil while , he must be thinking what to say :3 , bests of lucks ^^ *leaves cookies*

he was definitely thinking about what to say. thank you! ^^ *eats the cookies nom nom*

Yeah. I'm almost certain that Gunner most likely is confused and doesn't know what to think of say right now. He just needs his space. I'm sure everything will be fine in the end. Most of the time when someone tells a good friend in the end that they're gay, the friend just needs time to think about it and they'll end up being ok with it. I'm sure that's the case with you. ^^

Thank you for your advice and support. He was definitely confused and unsure of what to say. I'm glad he talked to me again though. He came out to be bi! ^^

See? You never know what could happen. I'm glad everything turned out for the better. You may have a crush on your friend Apple, but who knows, perhaps you'll get with Gunner instead.

I hope that does not happen. I don't want to get him in trouble, and I don't want to get involved with his parents' point of view. u__u

Well, then only time will tell what's in store. All you can do is wait

I'd have to say that he's just unsure about what to say to you about it. Most likely he doesn't want to hurt you or anything. Like everyone else is saying, just give him some time. He probably wants to be sure about what he's saying.

Also, I don't think that he has to change at all for you since from the beginning you didn't want him to change at all either. Sure, he could continue to talk to you about girls, but it's not like you can't give him an honest opinion about whatever he's talking about, even if you don't 100% agree with what he's talking about.

Plus, if anything, gay guys seem to attract more girls for some odd reason, so maybe you could help him in his mission as well. x__x

Ignore that last part. Hopefully everything will be alright with you two. Keep us updated. :3

Hehe that would be a good idea, but luckily he is also bi and comfortable with my gayness! ^w^ Maybe we'll even start talking about guys now!

I agree, I doubt he would totally break his friendship with you, just like that. I do agree though with giving him some space, Ive been in similar situations with friends, and that always seems to help the most E3

Thank you for your advice and support! ^^

Hehe... Nothing new to say that hasn't been said before ^^... Only two things: Congratulations for your good attitud to confront this problem =D; and, as you'd been said, once all calm down whit Gunner, don't let pass too much time before you tell to the others; you know when and how, but I think it would be really good to you all ^^

Well, take your time, cheer up, and good look! *super-hug*

See ya! =3

Sincerely,
Alexandre Black Phénix.

Thank you for your support and advice! I appreciate it! ^^

You're welcome ^^