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16 years ago
Hello everyone! I am sorry for the late update! I came home late from Blue's house and I am in a good mood today because I have good news! ^^
Gunner talked to me again!!! ^^
There is also bad news as well, but I will get to that. So yesterday, Gunner continued not talking to me and avoiding me. I was really worried and I wanted to talk to him, but I couldn't bring myself to. u__u So we just ended up not talking to each other again. Today, he started talking to me again! I was really surprised because he came up to me. He told me he was sorry for the past for ignoring. He told me he still wanted me to be friends with him. I was sort of curious because he didnt say anything about me being gay. But today was really happy and joyous and all of us started talking together normally again. I was happy that nothing changed. ^w^
Then afterschool, we walked to Blue's house like always and we all hung out. We played games and talked and went around outside and the usual things we do. ^^ Then when it was night, I went to Gunner's house like I usually do and we hung out again. I was really happy. Then came the bad news. As we were talking, the topic went around to his family being really strict about gay and things. He told me how his family is very into Christian and how they do not tolerate gay people. Gunner told me about how confused about his feelings he was and then he CAME OUT TO ME. O___O
I never felt so happy and very surprised, then suddenly so sad and worried for him. He told me he was bi and how he likes girls, but at times he has also liked guys. He has been staying away from me because he has been very confused about his feelings and afraid. He made it clear that he does not have a crush on me, but how me coming out to him has made him realised himself. He wanted to tell me so that we are even.
Now I feel really really worried for him. u__u He says he will most likely marry a girl mostly just to please his parents though. I am glad that we both share the same secret though, but that I am gay.
Anyway I am okay now. ^^ Agan thank you for all your support and advice that you have given me. <3
Gunner talked to me again!!! ^^
There is also bad news as well, but I will get to that. So yesterday, Gunner continued not talking to me and avoiding me. I was really worried and I wanted to talk to him, but I couldn't bring myself to. u__u So we just ended up not talking to each other again. Today, he started talking to me again! I was really surprised because he came up to me. He told me he was sorry for the past for ignoring. He told me he still wanted me to be friends with him. I was sort of curious because he didnt say anything about me being gay. But today was really happy and joyous and all of us started talking together normally again. I was happy that nothing changed. ^w^
Then afterschool, we walked to Blue's house like always and we all hung out. We played games and talked and went around outside and the usual things we do. ^^ Then when it was night, I went to Gunner's house like I usually do and we hung out again. I was really happy. Then came the bad news. As we were talking, the topic went around to his family being really strict about gay and things. He told me how his family is very into Christian and how they do not tolerate gay people. Gunner told me about how confused about his feelings he was and then he CAME OUT TO ME. O___O
I never felt so happy and very surprised, then suddenly so sad and worried for him. He told me he was bi and how he likes girls, but at times he has also liked guys. He has been staying away from me because he has been very confused about his feelings and afraid. He made it clear that he does not have a crush on me, but how me coming out to him has made him realised himself. He wanted to tell me so that we are even.
Now I feel really really worried for him. u__u He says he will most likely marry a girl mostly just to please his parents though. I am glad that we both share the same secret though, but that I am gay.
Anyway I am okay now. ^^ Agan thank you for all your support and advice that you have given me. <3
As for Gunner's problem, I'd say my best advice is that he doesn't really have to sacrifice part of himself to keep his parents happy, but I don't know if that's actually that much of a problem for him.
Either way, it's nice to see you so happy now.
Also, I apologize for all of the people who turn you and gunner into a crack pairing, but do keep in mind that people tend to have a perverted nature here.
I'm sorry about the whole Christian thing though. Please send him my best and tell him I am very proud of you both
it's beautiful to have friends to share painful things like these with! :)
I'm glad that he came back and talk to you! But that DOES make me wonder about the other two's orientiation.
I'm glad you all get to be buddies again. ^^
Where are you guys living, already?
It's good because you will feel close to each other, and also your friend thought about himself, and became aware of some things. In any case, he knows that you'll be helping him.
As for your friend, tell him that he shouldn't worry too much, now.
Why? Because if he's bi, and if it's love, he might just marry a girl he really loves and be perfectly happy. He might just bump someday into a girl he loves. It can take a long time. Don't worry.
If he falls for a guy, well, it might be more complicated.
But parents, family, love you. Most of the time, after a while, they'll accept it and realize Gunner is still their son, that apart from having a boyfriend, nothing has changed.
A lot of people know gays through clichés and what they see on TV. But they forget that "normal" people can turn out to be gay/bi, like their own son. If they manage to think that "my son has a boyfriend, yet, he still looks normal to me, his life is going well", then everything will be fine.
So chances are high he'll just be happy in life, ending with somebody he loves, and still keeping a good bond with his family.
As for now, just have fun guys, like you always did =)
That's good to hear though! You have each other now at least, and this will make you closer as friends, I would imagine. That's awesome,
No matter what Gunner's family is like, at least he'll have a friend like you right? :)
Also, I'm quite worried for Gunner. :( I hope things turn out okay for him, but I'm glad that GUNNER doesn't hate you.
As for Gunner's situation, don't worry; things always work out for the good in these situation. But I'm glad that your bravery helped your friend overcome his fear.^^
*hugs*
At least the 2 of you found something that you kind of have in common.
Man this is just so very shocking. Makes me wonder if I will get the same reaction. But anyways I had to pull this quote out of one of your pictures you said about Gunner cause I find it amusing "Anyways, he's a real straighty and talks nothing but girls." Some people can be really hard to tell ^^;;
In any case, that's quite interesting that another one of your friends is also attracted to males, but at the same time not all that surprising. I've noticed that people who share a similar orientation, even when not knowing each other have it, often end up being friends.
...story of my life.
The fact is, you may have helped him out in the long run. I had his similar problem not too long ago (and still do, somewhat).
If he's so worried about it all then he can always move when he's old enough and live his own life away from his parents and christian influence
i personally think it's stupid. all this fighting over what sex you like. it's disgusting. and the whole religion topic doesn't make it any better. the way i see it, god wants us to be happy. so if we like guys, then we like guys. and there is nothing anyone can change about that.
I'm pleased to hear that it all worked out.
I think we tend to unconsciously pick out "straight" friends who are likely to be bi. I have 4 lovely bi friends, one of whom, like Gunner, grew up very Christian (Catholic) and feels immense self-loathing about it. I've known him since first year of college. It's good to let them talk that through. I still haven't told him about myself though-
I think you should let your friend know. I'm pretty sure he would understand you since he is bi. ^^
Just continue being a good friend...like there was any doubt in that. :3
that story just made me a bit happy as well X3
as i said before, i wish i could watch your life as a furry anime XD
Most of all, I'm really glad that you two are still good friends, it would've been very unfortunate if the relationship had been ruined by something as little as that.
But in all seriousness, I'm really happy for you, Fifty. I'm pretty much caught in the same situation as Gunner, same with being bi, except I'm Catholic. The last thing I want to do is upset my parents and tell them that their other son is dating a guy, but if there's anything I have to realize myself... It's my future, my parents aren't always going to be there. A couple years from now, will I be married to a girl just because I wanted to please my parents or my family? I can't be to sure.
I have a boyfriend right now, and I couldn't be happier in life right now. For the two of us, about three weeks ago, we never would've thought we would be dating each other. Because of our situations, we need each other more than ever, not just because we're dating, but because he's gay and I'm bi, we're each other's support pillars. I'm always there for him, dating or not. He's always there for me, dating or not.
Fifty, don't ever let your friendship with Gunner dwindle away. You two need each other more than ever.
weirdly enough i came out for my family before my friends... well i didnt come out for my friends... well some of them... maybe it was weird that i was hanging around girls all the time and yea they were yaoi fans... man, i wish i told my friends but im always afraid of the reaction and that i will lose one of them... but than i also think how great it would feel to get it off my shoulders T^T @_@
and again great to hear gunner is talking to you <3 and to turn out he is bi, i would never see it coming :O.
I very dislike that a lot of people are pairing me and Gunner together. u__u;
Bad joke aside, Im really happy that everything worked out well, and you can tell him that just because his parents dont really like gays, doesnt mean its wrong for him to be one :3 I myself am gay and I live in a very strictly christian household... not to mention that I came out to my parents in the worst possible way imaginable... but things still worked out well for me.
Also, (Im totally gonna quote a Jay Naylor webcomic but who cares) right now he may be living with his parents, but he wont live with them forever, but he will have to live with his decissions for the rest of his life, there is nothing wrong with liking guys and girls (my mate does for instance), and he shouldnt let his parents views get in the way of that. :3
Thank you for the advice, I'll let him know ^^
This is making it self out to be a bit of a story but you know what it makes total sense.
I'm glad that you two are still friends.
WOAH!! WHAT A FUCKING TWIST!!
X_________x *Dies of shock*
Seriously though, that's oddly similar to events in my life, except I'd be from Gunner's PoV ...
Well, glad it turned out well for you, I don't think you could have hoped for a better turnout than that, hahaha.
I'm honestly interested to see how this turns out, I can draw a lot of parallels between what's going on here and my gay friend :3
You should tell Gunner about Apple... xP
...you both should approach Apple!
xD
Wonderful news!!! glad to hear he is talking to ye again and you have a sort of similar secret in common, not to mention your action in turn helped him realize something about himself :D
Though his family situation bites something fierce as it is worrisome :(
If that isn't a funy unforseen twist, I don't know what is. X3 I'm happy that you two are on good terms again. ^^
Its great that you and gunner are talking again, but if you ask me, gunners parents should be more worried about his happiness than the gender hes with. parents *rolls eyes*
at least things are better between you and gunner
ANYWHO! I told you not to worry, hun XD Worrying doesn't help anything, and see how it turned out? The universe does have a sense of humor. Sometimes it tortures us for its own sick amusement, but it always has a way of making it up ;3
I'm glad things are going well *hugs tight*
But well, at least everything is fine between you 2 again, and that is the important stuff (and now more, with this revelation ^^; )
Good luck to you 2 (specially with Gunner, I can understand him), and a lot of hugs! =3
See ya!
I guess I would be more surprised if I hadn't herd directly from you first.
But then again when you told me I was still pretty shocked.
I know your position well. I have a friend who is gay and he has to hide it from his parents because they're mormon.
I wish the best for Gunner, and whatever he choses, guy or girl, I hope he's happy.