Some unsolicited advice
a year ago
If you struggle with identity, love, self love... consider this
What are you doing? Why? For whom?Don't burn bridges as you figure yourself, life, and time out. Don't ignore *your* actual needs for real love and real acceptance. You won't get those things unless you accept the real version of yourself, that wounded child version of yourself inside which those it hurts to feel, tells you your real needs. Don't confuse your wants(like approval and conditional love) that involve others, as absolute needs, those are wants. You don't need your parents approval, or anyone else's. You need *your* seal of approval. You need *your* love of self. You need only to value and respect the real you. Wearing a mask and burning bridges trying to love yourself only when in that mask, will bring nothing but emptiness and shallow bonds, because the real needs of the real you, are not being touched. Running from yourself and those needs will only cause you pain and trouble. You'll lose alot more than you gain
What are you doing? Why? For whom?Don't burn bridges as you figure yourself, life, and time out. Don't ignore *your* actual needs for real love and real acceptance. You won't get those things unless you accept the real version of yourself, that wounded child version of yourself inside which those it hurts to feel, tells you your real needs. Don't confuse your wants(like approval and conditional love) that involve others, as absolute needs, those are wants. You don't need your parents approval, or anyone else's. You need *your* seal of approval. You need *your* love of self. You need only to value and respect the real you. Wearing a mask and burning bridges trying to love yourself only when in that mask, will bring nothing but emptiness and shallow bonds, because the real needs of the real you, are not being touched. Running from yourself and those needs will only cause you pain and trouble. You'll lose alot more than you gain
Thats a big a step, but it's worth it.
I'm proud on you