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I don't quite get it may someone explain it ?
6 months ago
Life has gotten quite different since I've been looking around,
I've everything figured out in my spot currently, I might soon have my own apartment as well! So quite a exciting time!
I'm well placed with things to succeed and pushing me into further higher levels. I've a decent job, I've a decent car. I get along with friends, family, colleagues.
I figured out and socialized, I've my adhd under control, I'm not quirky. I'm dominant, yet gentle and offering.
I've made mutuals around the globe.
I've made friends in other countries.
I'm one wolf that is fairly getting along sparking with joy and a open mind.
So here I am "searching" for a mate. Specifically ... for a female. Yet a simple thing that when I was younger seemed so easy has become now so different and .... difficult that often even a simple date seems impossible.
I've texted with a girl over several months by now. Living about 3 hours away she invited me to a public event that goes for a weekend. Sure I though, booked a hotel registered for the event and paid a full on weekend ticket.
It's been a blast until today afternoon.
She told me yesterday, she's not feeling all too well and had a sick moment in the morning. Everything was alright so far until today on the event I was approached by security to leave a spot with a new made friend saying we're far too long sitting, where we had people talking to having company and everything else seemed alright.
She then later on said it might've been a misunderstand blah blah from the security as someone called us out but they don't know and so on.
I told her basically then on that she invited me over to this place and basically also called it a date to get to know each other.
Since two days she's pushing me around like a overdue appointment. And I am sick of it.
What did I do wrong to deserve this kind of people?
I've everything figured out in my spot currently, I might soon have my own apartment as well! So quite a exciting time!
I'm well placed with things to succeed and pushing me into further higher levels. I've a decent job, I've a decent car. I get along with friends, family, colleagues.
I figured out and socialized, I've my adhd under control, I'm not quirky. I'm dominant, yet gentle and offering.
I've made mutuals around the globe.
I've made friends in other countries.
I'm one wolf that is fairly getting along sparking with joy and a open mind.
So here I am "searching" for a mate. Specifically ... for a female. Yet a simple thing that when I was younger seemed so easy has become now so different and .... difficult that often even a simple date seems impossible.
I've texted with a girl over several months by now. Living about 3 hours away she invited me to a public event that goes for a weekend. Sure I though, booked a hotel registered for the event and paid a full on weekend ticket.
It's been a blast until today afternoon.
She told me yesterday, she's not feeling all too well and had a sick moment in the morning. Everything was alright so far until today on the event I was approached by security to leave a spot with a new made friend saying we're far too long sitting, where we had people talking to having company and everything else seemed alright.
She then later on said it might've been a misunderstand blah blah from the security as someone called us out but they don't know and so on.
I told her basically then on that she invited me over to this place and basically also called it a date to get to know each other.
Since two days she's pushing me around like a overdue appointment. And I am sick of it.
What did I do wrong to deserve this kind of people?
Second, it seems that this "Girlfriend" of yours is the one who's inexperienced.
It seems like she was into it, but doesn't know what to do when something actually happens.
High chance you're her first, so it might be for the best to take it slow.
And hey, don't worry about it too much, everything has a reason.
Even if it is dating a newbie, who knows? It might be fun later!
Although I do suggest you two keep your "Distant relationship" a little more under control, lacking a neutral ground could end badly in these situations.
If she didn't have to drive 3 hours to get to you, it's not really as neutral as it is you going to her place.
Neutral as in a place where both of you could focus on the other instead of some big event where you'll be too busy attending it.
This is why most people prefer going on dates in restaurants or parks and not places like conventions or parties, the focus is very important.
And not only that, it seems like you two didn't quite go through what you will do once you get close, or so it seems SHE didn't.
Nothing seems BAD here, but it does look like a downhill road if you're not careful.
If you two plan on keeping this going, I suggest taking it easy.
For your dates, it's best to be in a place that neither are you are TOO familiar with, but can be at ease knowing the other person is there.
Long distance relationships are difficult as it is, even if it's just three hours of distance, keeping it stable is gonna be hard. The best case scenario is if one of you moves in with the other.
Of course, everything I say is a suggestion. It's up to you and your lover if you wish to follow my words.
Although it's still best to be prepared for a negative answer, who knows, maybe she's there because of her family or some other reason.
But it does seem like it would go uphill if you both went with this plan.