Reality and with some psychological education, shit in the world and relationships these days needs to stop. It needs to stop being taught that everyone needs to be healthy, wealthy, perfect and normal to deserve loving relationships, to deserve care, and to deserve patience through healing. That mentality is an unreasonable and unrealistic expectation. Everyone has baggage, and everyone deserves love and healing, and acceptance for that baggage, be it alot, or a little. The unrealistic expectation of perfection, and rejection for healing or those in healing, or wanting it, can and does actually make it worse. That's what education is teaching me. If you want care and love for the rest of your life, then you also have to give it. Stop teaching and accepting its okay to reject people just cause they have any amount of baggage, little wealth, especially if they want to change and grow as people, and extra especially if they prove that they want it. Bring those expectations back down to earth which isn't perfect, and don't make it messier by being part of the problem fanning the flames, ignoring/rejecting others healing, need for healing, or your very own