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Facts of life
16 years ago
I deleted the previous journal, wrote it in a melancholic moment and found out later that it was maybe too honest. FA is a place for joy and fun, and throwing out depressing svada in people's faces sorta kills the mood. But that won't prevent me to tell you some facts of life I learned last year.
Do you think work is everything? Having a nice job and fancy gadgets, earning as much money as possible by working late hours and weekends? Do you make plans for the future? Systematic plans, detailed plans, thinking how cool and great it will be when you finally can put the plans out in life? Do you treat your family bad? Well, think again.
What's the point in having a great job when it absorbs your life? You miss birthdays, parties, fun times, all because of a job that you one day will be retired from. You don't get second chances, chances of having good times with friends are here and now, if your were too busy working then they went by and you missed them. Possible great happenings and memorable days replaced with work. Instead of having a great time you were working your ass off, in the end it doesn't mean shit. Take time to live too. When you are old memories are all you have left. What will you remember? Your office/workplace or your friends and familiy having good times, laughing, telling stories, going on adventures? What will warm you the most?
Life is what happens when you plan it. All the time you use on planning are also your life. Imagine all the hours and days you have used on planning things that didn't happen. Live now, because you may be dead tomorrow. What are plans good for then?
The only way to follow your dreams is to wake up and live them, dreaming about stuff you want to do is just dreams. Isn't it better to experience them? Sometimes it's better to regret having done stuff than regret you didn't even try.
Some have great families, other have familes that makes the Addams Family looks like your average american dream. You can't choose family, family choose you. If you don't have a good relationship with your family then ok, you don't have to force yourself to hug them and smile and visit them every day. But show them that you care and exist, that you know they exist, fights and arguing will always happen, no matter how good/bad relationship you have with your family. It's up to you how long you will be angry at them. One day they will be gone, and you will never get the chance to tell them what you really meant and felt. Life happens now, when you read this, when you eat breakfast tomorrow. It's short, delicate, too precious to waste on just work, planning and grudges.
Nothing lasts forever, but it's what you have done that really matters in the end. To find peace with yourself and think "I did it great, my life was rich and I would have done it all again if I got the chance".
So, if life is unfair then change it. We are now in a new decade and I am going to change mine. Are you going to change yours, or are you happy where you are?
Instead of shaking my fist angrily and tell you all to get up and do something, just sit still and check out this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eK0Hz5flVLg
Have a nice day and do something that pleases you, because you have deserved it.
Draug
Do you think work is everything? Having a nice job and fancy gadgets, earning as much money as possible by working late hours and weekends? Do you make plans for the future? Systematic plans, detailed plans, thinking how cool and great it will be when you finally can put the plans out in life? Do you treat your family bad? Well, think again.
What's the point in having a great job when it absorbs your life? You miss birthdays, parties, fun times, all because of a job that you one day will be retired from. You don't get second chances, chances of having good times with friends are here and now, if your were too busy working then they went by and you missed them. Possible great happenings and memorable days replaced with work. Instead of having a great time you were working your ass off, in the end it doesn't mean shit. Take time to live too. When you are old memories are all you have left. What will you remember? Your office/workplace or your friends and familiy having good times, laughing, telling stories, going on adventures? What will warm you the most?
Life is what happens when you plan it. All the time you use on planning are also your life. Imagine all the hours and days you have used on planning things that didn't happen. Live now, because you may be dead tomorrow. What are plans good for then?
The only way to follow your dreams is to wake up and live them, dreaming about stuff you want to do is just dreams. Isn't it better to experience them? Sometimes it's better to regret having done stuff than regret you didn't even try.
Some have great families, other have familes that makes the Addams Family looks like your average american dream. You can't choose family, family choose you. If you don't have a good relationship with your family then ok, you don't have to force yourself to hug them and smile and visit them every day. But show them that you care and exist, that you know they exist, fights and arguing will always happen, no matter how good/bad relationship you have with your family. It's up to you how long you will be angry at them. One day they will be gone, and you will never get the chance to tell them what you really meant and felt. Life happens now, when you read this, when you eat breakfast tomorrow. It's short, delicate, too precious to waste on just work, planning and grudges.
Nothing lasts forever, but it's what you have done that really matters in the end. To find peace with yourself and think "I did it great, my life was rich and I would have done it all again if I got the chance".
So, if life is unfair then change it. We are now in a new decade and I am going to change mine. Are you going to change yours, or are you happy where you are?
Instead of shaking my fist angrily and tell you all to get up and do something, just sit still and check out this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eK0Hz5flVLg
Have a nice day and do something that pleases you, because you have deserved it.
Draug
well said, Sir. Hugs from NZ.
FA is a place of fun, but it's also a locale of communion and support, as I've seen many times over the few years I've been here, haha. I've experienced plenty myself.
There's nothing wrong with seeking at least some of that camaraderie, especially in times of emotional hardship.
All your points here are valid, make no mistake. But personally, as long as it doesn't get too personal where it threatens your livelihood, I don't mind you coming around to speak of your issues, especially to a slew of individuals who have nothing to judge you from but the words you speak.
I can only hope everything on your end is better.
Just to mention some of it; three deaths in the family, a long hospital visit, almost dying from the H1N1 and loosing my job. Most of the things have been sorted out and I feel I can meet the world again like I did before.
FA is a community, and individuals in a community takes care of each other (except the loonies, but there's no rule without exceptions). But some things are better discussed in closed space than in an open journal. I had my share of problems, and luckily they are now slowly melting away like an ice cube.
Thanks for showing that you care.