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Gwen returns, -AND- fake apathy
14 years ago
Well, this weekend was spent helping a friend move, and I have to say... I am sore as all hell. My arms feel like jell-o, if jell-o had a 'pain' flavor. With only him, myself and one additional friend- as well as the rap stylings of Captain Dan and his Scurvy Crew, we had to move two stories' worth of furniture made alternatingly of oak and steel plates. For this exercise in friendship and utter exhaustion, I was rewarded a pizza, two doughnuts, two raspberry iced teas and a couple of unwanted flatpanel monitors. Score!
Looking at these two screens, I brought up my other firefox profile... Gwen. And it was while full of sweaty testosterone that I realized... there's no good damned reason I should have stopped doing Ask Dr. Gwen. So people can't have total privacy- it's a decision I should let them make. So, ADG is now back open for business, the way it always should have been.
Also, thinking on when I left for InkBunny, it wasn't truly because I couldn't submit things here anymore. It was because I felt like this place was becoming too hostile toward me. Which brings me to my next point: People who claim that they "don't care what everyone thinks." This is a really horseshit claim. Everybody cares what others think- everyone. It's hard wired into us. Even if you don't actively think to yourself, "I hope they like me" or "How do I look, really?", you still care. It's that feeling of dread when you say something akward. It's that tightness you feel when you get angry at someone. It's the reason you feel the need to say that you don't care what everyone thinks.
That doesn't mean we're beholden to others' whim. We still have control and choice. You could say that you don't let others control your decisions. You could say that you're sensible enough to make your own choices. But don't say you don't care... it's just... the road to denial.
But anyway! Go listen to some pirate rap, you'll love it.
Looking at these two screens, I brought up my other firefox profile... Gwen. And it was while full of sweaty testosterone that I realized... there's no good damned reason I should have stopped doing Ask Dr. Gwen. So people can't have total privacy- it's a decision I should let them make. So, ADG is now back open for business, the way it always should have been.
Also, thinking on when I left for InkBunny, it wasn't truly because I couldn't submit things here anymore. It was because I felt like this place was becoming too hostile toward me. Which brings me to my next point: People who claim that they "don't care what everyone thinks." This is a really horseshit claim. Everybody cares what others think- everyone. It's hard wired into us. Even if you don't actively think to yourself, "I hope they like me" or "How do I look, really?", you still care. It's that feeling of dread when you say something akward. It's that tightness you feel when you get angry at someone. It's the reason you feel the need to say that you don't care what everyone thinks.
That doesn't mean we're beholden to others' whim. We still have control and choice. You could say that you don't let others control your decisions. You could say that you're sensible enough to make your own choices. But don't say you don't care... it's just... the road to denial.
But anyway! Go listen to some pirate rap, you'll love it.
Glad to have her back.
And yaaaaay =D Dr. Gwen should have never exited the building in the first place X3 Glad to have her back, it's always great bringing more attention to her ^^
Yeah, you're kinda right about the "don't care what everyone thinks." What should be enforced, though, is "pay attention to what those that care thinks". Too often I see artists get put down by a few hecklers, while they have dozens of fans trying to support and cheer them on. It's like they don't hear all their fans and only focus on the bad that is minute in comparison. So it's not that so much that artists shouldn't care what people think, they should care more about what the people who matter think rather than those who you wouldn't give a damn about otherwise ^^;
And when it comes to damns, I gave at the office.
Speaking of: What prescription medication does she recommend for depression?
Can I get a link to this Ask Dr. Gwen? ^^' I'm not familiar with the site and I didn't turn up anything with my quick searching.
I'm a little surprised ya didn't just go formspring with it since it's an 'ask' thing.
S'pose you're right about 'I don't care what people think' in the literal sense. Though it's often used as a consequences be damned sort of thing too. I wonder if there's a legitimate condition that makes you not care what people think though... seems likely.
Well that's the plan anyways. Obviously I still get bothered by people on occasion but it has helped to think that that claim is true about myself. Remembering it will often calm me down and in the cases when it doesn't it will at least prevent me from acting on those feelings. And I've noticed that as time has passed since I started believing that I don't get the initial unhappiness as often. Might just be because of getting older rather than positive thinking though.
Generally people put up an identity they want people to see them as. At some point in the past, apathy became seen as the cool shit.
>This is a really horseshit claim. Everybody cares what others think- everyone. It's hard wired into us.
Not so for everyone. There's a class of people who truly don't care what anyone else thinks, and they are called sociopaths. These people are completely amoral and completely narcissistic. To them, other people exist only in terms of how they can be used. For some reason, this is the ideal that some internet people strive for. They think it's cool to be so aloof and above the concerns of petty humanity. Like most people who don't understand what they want, they don't comprehend that anti-social personality disorder is a mental illness. They want the Hollywood version. Thus, I think Patrick Bateman from American Psycho is the perfect representation of them. They want desperately to be a badass, but they're not and never will be, so they just come off as arrogant, irritating geeks.
Or to put it another way; If you have to say aloud that you don't care what other people think, you do.
Good to know Gwen's back and helping the mentally troubled. Cthulu knows the Fandom needs more like her.
Gwen was a delight as well, it was always nice to hear from her and as silly as it sounds just to be able to ask a question anonymously and have someone give a thoughtful answer, that's hard to come by at times...
Remember all the good things about you people have said, and forget the rest. If you are able to do it, tell me how you did...
About caring what others think... looking back I seem to have given up on trying to get people to like me, either there is sympathy or there isn't. However what I still care about is whether others like my ideas.