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Oh... My... God....
18 years ago
How many times have you heard, "people are stupid"? That doesn't even begin to cover it, really.
What's funny, is that 99.9% of people are NOT malicious, or idiots, or even a little mean. But that 0.01% is all it takes to destroy my faith.
Some people make it their business to look about for someone to offend. I am the proverbial flame to the mean-spirited, moth. Why? Because I take offense!
I don't know why I feel that people should give me the same respect online that I receive in real life. That's not going to happen, and it's very unrealistic of me to set those standards, but I'll be damned if I ever change them! >_<
I'm a sensitive person. In part, it's because I'm female (I recognize the many short-comings of my gender), and in part it's just me. Now, I'm not saying that this makes it right. I wish I were a little more callous and less likely to take offense at the slightest little thing. But hey, you know what? That's me!
Because I am this way-- because I RECOGNIZE that I am this way, I see fit to post warnings. "HEY! Don't say mean things! Don't give advise! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE be considerate!"
...I wonder why more people aren't killed because they saw a sign that warned them not to do something, and they decided to do it anyway. "WRONG WAY!" Hey, that looks like a great place to drive!
What's funny, is that 99.9% of people are NOT malicious, or idiots, or even a little mean. But that 0.01% is all it takes to destroy my faith.
Some people make it their business to look about for someone to offend. I am the proverbial flame to the mean-spirited, moth. Why? Because I take offense!
I don't know why I feel that people should give me the same respect online that I receive in real life. That's not going to happen, and it's very unrealistic of me to set those standards, but I'll be damned if I ever change them! >_<
I'm a sensitive person. In part, it's because I'm female (I recognize the many short-comings of my gender), and in part it's just me. Now, I'm not saying that this makes it right. I wish I were a little more callous and less likely to take offense at the slightest little thing. But hey, you know what? That's me!
Because I am this way-- because I RECOGNIZE that I am this way, I see fit to post warnings. "HEY! Don't say mean things! Don't give advise! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE be considerate!"
...I wonder why more people aren't killed because they saw a sign that warned them not to do something, and they decided to do it anyway. "WRONG WAY!" Hey, that looks like a great place to drive!
God, you just lit up my whole night! You must belong to the type of people who aren't mean. *hug!*
Thank you for that.
*melts in the hug*
I guess what I mean is that I don't want to be treated like someone else wants to be treated. (Although I do treat others the way I want to be treated, which is why you don't see me posting on people's FA page telling them how they need to draw.)
Regardless, you're absolutely right. If people would be more considerate, the world would be better for it.
Thank you. <3
I on the other hand respect the netiquette and treat everyone fairly, and kindly. :3
And yeah, you do good art, so anyone bashing on it can just... be stupid. XD
It actually takes a lot to anger you.. but once angered in the real world.. face to face... well.. Ow.
But online, they are safe behind millions of miles of Internet safety, they are in their little box somewhere in the vast world where you can reach over and smack them upside the head. :)
Such safety makes people feel they can be asshats.
I guess that's what's frustrating for me. I can't give people online the DEATH glare. =_=
But you're right. God, I hate drama. I wish the internet were as easy to deal with as real life. But it isn't! I can't grab someone around the neck and squeeze! You have no idea how frustrating that is for me. ^^
Me, I like the occasional drama, particularly if it involves myself lacing into somebody that caused it for no particular reason.
And trust me, I DO have an idea how frustrating it is for you. In real life nobody has the balls to say anything most of the time, and if they do you can just deal with them. On the internet, dealing with people is next to impossible.
LOL
Maybe I'm not eloquent enough. I tend to just blurt out something mean when I feel someone's been mean to me, and it snowballs from there. >_> But... but.. THEY STARTED IT! >_<
*hug* I feel clingy.
Ya don't really need to be eloquent when you're arguin', but you need to be sure what you say at least makes sense. Eloquent helps, but only so much, ya know? Sometimes a good, "Hey, fuck you", will do the trick.
You can be clingy if you want, but don't start hittin' on me. I'm not that kind of man. x3 *liiiiieees*
I lost it... beat the ever loving tar out of him, broke his nose, snapped his bicep muscle in half, and put exactly 37 and a half stiches on his left cheek where I broke his glasses from my first punch.
He never ONCE said a bad thing to me again... so I guess sometimes Drama/Violence can solve problems... other times it causes more problems... so it's a crap shot at best... personally I've found that beating your problems with a big giant stick helps solve them a lot. =^^=
~ Allester E. Darkflame
~ Allester E. Darkflame
Just drag and drop me Duo into your weapon slot, and you can use me as your personal battering ram.. I spill foul language per second and offensive gesutres along with flailing arms.
im perfect for christmas presents or thanksgiving to get those pesky realives away.
Gotta get me one!
;)
FWIW, I think you're a swell artist and a lovely person.
That aside...yeh, it's easy being an a**h*le over the internet...nobody sees you, nobody can get you...you feel powerful, untouchable...and suddenly i tell you exactly where you live, and you go all scared and hide in your house for days =o
I'm pretty silent myself...but if something really pisses me off, i can hold it back in Real Life, but not over the internet, i type what i think...but saying it out loud infront of the people...nawww >.<;
"Hey! I read the part where you asked me not to criticize... HERE, HAVE SOME CRITICISM!"
>_> I replied in anger- which is what I expected to happen, which is the reason WHY I ask people not to criticize me. (Then, when I replied angrily, this individual got upset! OMG! Imagine that! I got upset that you disregarded my request!)
LOL. Anyway. Now I'm laughing about it.
But no, it wasn't you. You're nothing but awesome, and I'm so glad you came to visit me.
BTW, are we still on for that commission or no, because I've got to know if you need the money now or when it's done. I'm trying to get things organized because I've got a ton of commissions in the works. If you want to be paid immediatly, I'll be online for another hour, and I can send a PayPal payment tonight if you give me your info. I'd like to pay tonight if possible, so I have all of my commissions paid for across the board. Let me know one way or the other.
Johnny
Oh, and I lol'd at Duo's comment XD
I think there are far more ignorant and stupid people in the world than there are malicious ones. I don't know enough about your position to judge you (nor would it be courteous), but I try not to let people who I KNOW are ignorant or stupid have any impact on my life beyond working around them.
I tell this to friends and sometimes it angers them, sometimes they don't care, sometimes it helps them, and sometimes they just laugh. Hope you fall into one of the last two categories, even laughter is better than nothing. :)
I guess I took it as malice because:
1) the individual acknowledged I asked him not to do something
2) and did it anyway after pointing out that I asked him not to.
I dunno.. it kinda hit me as malice. Regardless of what it was, I reacted badly, cause, well... uh, that's what I do. ^^;
Actually your reaction reminds me of how my brother behaves. :D
Don't take anything anyone says on the Internet seriously. Not even this statement.
Some things people say, whether it be on the Internet or to my face in person, DO piss me off, but once I realize where/who it's coming from, I just roll my eyes and shake my head and tell myself (or them), "you don't know me."
But yeah, I agree with
I wish I had the power not to take offense. I really wish I could turn it off somehow. I can't. Something pisses me off and I see red. Ask Cheska! LOL!
And, thank you for the sweet comment. *blush*
Well, as for AIM, I couldn't keep up.. I turn on the thing and I get so many messages I can't do anything but reply.. all night.. on and on.. and, well, it turned out I couldn't do that. So I don't turn it on. But I like FA. I think I'll stick around for awhile.
It seems like 99.9% of the people here are outstandingly cool. <3
...which sucks, because I never have anyone to talk to. :P
You're welcome, though despite your sexiness you don't quite compare to my
*giggles* I'm joking. I'm sure your GF is very very sexy! Grats!
You're a close second though.
Just keep in mind you have people who support you (like me... I hope ^^ ) and we want to see you be happy. Duo up there is a good example XD
anyway, just live life. Smile and wave at the idiots and just keep in mind that they will probably say the wrong thing to the wrong person and end up with a few broken ribs.
But what don't they have? The things/skills that reside in their targets. Be it a life or artistic ability ...
No. The offending party was informed they were offensive. :P
No worries.
"People are stupid. How you deal with your personal level of stupidity determines your I.Q." :)
Realistically though, people aren't stupid on the whole, they just do stupid things!
It's YOU!
*pounce!* ^^
Love the work and you yourself.
second if i ever say anything is wrong with it im NOT anything more than an educated hack ignore me im more of a writer with a hobby of playing with photoshop
im sorry someone has clearly offended ya i cant think it was me if i dont have anything good to say i usualy say nothing
Ohh! Good Advise for one. Two, Nice art work... Uhm Three, who do we look up that caused this, so we can go out... strip them, tar them and then feather them before making them come kiss your feet and beg your forgiveness?
We're not all bad people, in fact without the Good and the Bad... we'd all be square... or triangular... or some such odd shape like we aren't... wait I am curvy... so maybe I am bad... or is that naughty... *confuses himself and walks into several walls... or rather, through those walls* =^^=
~ Allester E. Darkflame
Which.. I usually don't.
But hey, good to meet someone like-minded.
Sensitive.. yeah, I cry at the Kay Jewler's commercial where Santa buys Mrs Claus a pair of diamond earrings. I cry at the credit card commercial that uses that song with the lyrics, "I'm thirty-two for a moment.." (Cause that song makes me cry).
So yeah, sensitive.. maybe it's an under-statement.
In any case, there's nothing wrong with expecting at least marginal respect from everyone, but I do admit that there are a lot of people out there that think that a computer screen is an invulnerable shield that protects them from everything...including reprisals from those they offend.
My suggestion: Ignore the idiots...they come and they go. When they get tired of you, they'll move on to someone else and leave you in peace ;)!
Want to see something funny. Watch people in restaurants. They are funny. The most intelligent of person standing in line makes a 3 minute wait into a 15 minute wait (the mind games of boredom and impatience). An ice machine with no ice, which they've been informed has no ice, still has three people standing at it, still trying. A roped off bathroom door, blocked by four chairs and three out of order signs, yet someone still enters and walks up to the front to inform the manager that there is flooding in the bathroom. The worst part? They get mad when you point out this. Mad to the point of threatening (physical violence or lawsuit, Take your pick).
also i respect the fact that you can admit your faults no matter how big or small they are, because it takes a greater person to admit to them.. i really do hope you start feeling better! :D
"Becky, look at her butt, its like SO BIG"
lol just finishing your "Oh my God" line lol
However, it doesn't mean that you have to conform to the rather-infantile rules of a faceless majority. You just need to adjust your behavior a little bit online. o_o When you take offense to something online, either turn away immediately, or hold back some of those feelings. It's not your shame for being who you are, but sometimes it helps to give in a little bit.
Probably not very helpful advice to you at all. :x
In the building with all the transformers in it as usual they have warning signs for the electrcity in there.
The first says DANGER HIGH VOLTAGE. The second says DANGER HIGH VOLTAGE and the third reads Danger Medium Voltage.
Medium Voltage? What's that going to do, make me uncomfortably warm?
But I do dislike it when people tell me HOW to draw. "That looks bad!" "You should never do this!"
I get all of this great advise- which IS great advise- I should just ignore it. I can't, though.
Which pissed me off, because obviously, they already knew I didn't want a critic and he did it anyway.
So no, it's not you.
And as someone said earlier--you're damned sexy for 31. Hell, I'd certainly date you had you been available.
If you put a sign up on the top of the second highest mountain in the world reading 'END OF WORLD SWITCH! DO NOT TOUCH!" the paint wouldn't even have time to dry before some dimwit went 'I wonder what this does..."
I love your work... and you're gorgeous for whatever age. Nil illegitimati carborundum (Don't let the bastards grind you down.)
I'm somewhat of the same way at times myself when it comes to certain criticism, but I do what I can to just take it with a grain of salt and move on.
Hope you're doing better now and just know that you do have friends on here, more than willing to lend you a helping hand.
Hope you take care now!
*waves and hops off for a late morning breakfast*
it's things like this that make a lot of incredible artists never show their work. keep drawing in your own positively stunning way and please keep sharing with those of us who appreciate it.
Plus this is the internet, where asshattery is common place and no one has to risk getting punched in the face because of their actions.
Sorry, but a thick skin is required. I'm not trying to be mean about it, but it is a fact. The alternatives aren't very nice either. With individual freedom comes individual burdens.
I hear what you're saying. But I may as well not post art if I will receive criticism for it regardless of how nicely I ask people not to offer it.
Good point. Maybe I should just not post anymore.
And thanks for commenting.
I never said I had the right not to be offended.
That's just stupid to assume.
I am replying to someone offended me, which I do have the right to do.
If find what you said irrelevant and not really helpful at all.
I will continue to post, and since I have obviously offended YOU by being sensitive and taking offense, you're welcome not to visit any more.
Have a great day.
What I gather is that you like your first amendment right to free speech to the point of frothing at the mouth. So put down the juicebox, darling, and look up here at the blackboard:
Individual freedoms do come with individual burdens, but suffering idiots in silence isn't one of them.
"Suffering idiots" is only really encountered when said idiot gets to the point of harassment, including attempting to circumvent ignore filters, which is something different entirely.
I wouldn't be ashamed though; from your journals and submissions I gather you're an awfully nice person with a great sense of kindness and calmness, the combination of which is super rare, but very cute. :3 Keep that up, plus the amazing art, and you're going somewhere!
CUMÉ CUMÉ CUMÉ
OS DINDINS DE YAYA
CUMÉ CUMÉ CUMÉ CUMÉ
But you've made another good point, if I'm in a chat and I do or say something that offends someone, just tell me to stop, I'll understand. Don't go around telling your buddies how much of a freak I am though just because YOU couldn't say anything! Trust me...it REALLY sucks and is irritating when that happens.
You seem pretty cool, despite what you said about being overly sensitive. I find that over-sensitivity in an individual usually indicates a whiner with a double standard about who can offend people. In you, I just sense someone who shoots straight and expects the same from others. As long as you don't expect other people to be nice and polite while you are allowed to run rough-shod over what and whoever you choose, I believe in treating everyone as they treat me.
You're cool enough, and anyone who says different is an asshat.
By the way, I agree with the above sentiments. You're totally hot and a skilled artist.
Sòlo toma con calma los cometarios de los demàs y no dejes que te afecten emocionalmente. Una regla universal es que siempre habrà gente que te apoye y comprenda tus intenciones y otros no.
Es algo interesante si lo llamamos opiniòn.
Golden Rule! Applies to the internet too!