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It's The Christian Thing...
14 years ago
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But, it's something I cannot, WILL NOT ever forgive.
What am I talking about?
In the words of Inigo Montoya, "Let me sum up!"
Back in 2000, the relationship I had worked for nearly 2 years to hold on to ended between me and my first ex-girlfriend, Andrea. The end result had me returning to Florida, back home to my family. I had a major bout of depression and was doing little to pick myself up again.
A fellow who was part of the group of "friends" whom I had made during attending NecronomiCon, decided to help me by getting me out and taking part in activities. Going to a local anime group, coming over to watch TV and such. During which, I met a new girl, and after a while the two of us became a couple (me and the girl that is).
We were dating for over a year, when the following February, out of nowhere she dumps me. She didn't say I did anything wrong, just said "we weren't working out together.".
Shortly after, the "group" stopped talking to me, stopped inviting me to the anime club meetings... just, stopped all-together. In fact, when I tried to attend a christmas get-together the group and thrown open, I soon found out my presence wasn't welcome there. Little did I know, my "girlfriend" had been seeing the "Fellow" behind my back, and the two of them were fast becoming a couple. To the extent I found out a couple of years later they married each other.
So, with little else to do, I tried to put this behind me and move forward with my life. And for the most part, I did. I forgot about the 2nd-Ex and the now-former Friend, and did my best to live on.
Only now, I just found out recently the Former Friend and his wife have had tragedy strike them; their son, who would have been two this past week, had drowned in a lake behind the home of one of their family members in Tampa/St. Pete.
I found out through another friend's FB post about this, and I left a comment saying I was shocked to hear the child had died.
Tonight, the Former Friend contacted me, wanting to be "friends" on FB.
...
I know the Christian thing to do is to "Forgive and Forget". To let the past be the past and move ahead.
However, I just feel that the Former-Friend's deception with my 2nd Ex is something I cannot, WILL NOT forget or forgive. I can overlook a lot of things about people. But liars as a whole are something I will never overlook. You can malign my character, you can slam my talents, you can bully me, hassle me, belittle me... hell, if someone were to shoot me or stab me, I'd probably let it pass.
BUT, I never will forgive lies, deceptions, backstabbing or anything related thereof.
Needless to say, I left him a note, explaining bluntly my feelings, though telling him I was sorry for his loss. Yet, in closing I told him we could never be friends.
Am I wrong to feel this way? Personally, I may lose some karma somewhere, but I have to stand by my principals.
I will NEVER suffer a liar. Period.
-- Stephen
What am I talking about?
In the words of Inigo Montoya, "Let me sum up!"
Back in 2000, the relationship I had worked for nearly 2 years to hold on to ended between me and my first ex-girlfriend, Andrea. The end result had me returning to Florida, back home to my family. I had a major bout of depression and was doing little to pick myself up again.
A fellow who was part of the group of "friends" whom I had made during attending NecronomiCon, decided to help me by getting me out and taking part in activities. Going to a local anime group, coming over to watch TV and such. During which, I met a new girl, and after a while the two of us became a couple (me and the girl that is).
We were dating for over a year, when the following February, out of nowhere she dumps me. She didn't say I did anything wrong, just said "we weren't working out together.".
Shortly after, the "group" stopped talking to me, stopped inviting me to the anime club meetings... just, stopped all-together. In fact, when I tried to attend a christmas get-together the group and thrown open, I soon found out my presence wasn't welcome there. Little did I know, my "girlfriend" had been seeing the "Fellow" behind my back, and the two of them were fast becoming a couple. To the extent I found out a couple of years later they married each other.
So, with little else to do, I tried to put this behind me and move forward with my life. And for the most part, I did. I forgot about the 2nd-Ex and the now-former Friend, and did my best to live on.
Only now, I just found out recently the Former Friend and his wife have had tragedy strike them; their son, who would have been two this past week, had drowned in a lake behind the home of one of their family members in Tampa/St. Pete.
I found out through another friend's FB post about this, and I left a comment saying I was shocked to hear the child had died.
Tonight, the Former Friend contacted me, wanting to be "friends" on FB.
...
I know the Christian thing to do is to "Forgive and Forget". To let the past be the past and move ahead.
However, I just feel that the Former-Friend's deception with my 2nd Ex is something I cannot, WILL NOT forget or forgive. I can overlook a lot of things about people. But liars as a whole are something I will never overlook. You can malign my character, you can slam my talents, you can bully me, hassle me, belittle me... hell, if someone were to shoot me or stab me, I'd probably let it pass.
BUT, I never will forgive lies, deceptions, backstabbing or anything related thereof.
Needless to say, I left him a note, explaining bluntly my feelings, though telling him I was sorry for his loss. Yet, in closing I told him we could never be friends.
Am I wrong to feel this way? Personally, I may lose some karma somewhere, but I have to stand by my principals.
I will NEVER suffer a liar. Period.
-- Stephen
I'd be the same, the issue wasn't that she moved on, it was that they lied to you and treated you poorly. Any decent friend wouldn't do that. Shame about their kid though.