Depends really, more often than not it's bad news having more than 2 in a loving relationship/partnership. There is so many things that can go wrong, one of you has an argument with the other so goes with the other more often, sides get taken...etc etc.

I think it can work for a bit of fun if your not in a serious relationship, but if you are I'd say it's not wise, too much risk. And a big regret if you lose the one you love over a bit of experimenting or fun. But like I said, not in a "serious" relationship then, maybe it'll work. Or at least not be so bad if things go wrong. But that's my view, now to be less blarg I shall finish on a high note...."IN YOUR FACE DINKLEBERG!"

That is precisely what I fear from a polyamorous relationship, the inevitable 'pairing off'; well perhaps inevitable isn't fair, considering there do appear to be groups who make it work. The thought of sharing a lovers' bond is at once both intriguing and repugnant to me... though I try to keep in mind there's nothing truly 'wrong' or 'immoral' in this world. This is certainly a complicated question lol

I believe it's possible to love more than one person and have a poly relationship work. It takes a lot of commitment and communication just like any 2person relationship.

I was in one for 5 years and it didn't end because it was a 3 way relationship, it ended because of abuse. I won't go into the story.

That's truly remarkable; It's a herculean effort making any relationship work for five years let alone a three way relationship. Did you experience any sort of trepidation entering the relationship or were you able to leap that mental hurdle with relative ease? Were there moments were two would 'gang up' on the other? This thoroughly interests me lol

It was easy to jump that hurdle at first. Sadly when I got struck with depression they'd gang up on me and eventually it got abusive and they kind of left me in a suicidal state alone.
Which could have happened in a normal 2-way relationship too when the dude is a heartless douche.

A tough call to make. Obviously it is easier to keep one "special" person happy then multiple folks. Even when people are in a monogomous relationship, people still have wandering eyes, "window shopping" or peering over at someone other than their partner, appreciating a sesual form that isn't their significant other. So it wouldn't be out of the realm of possiblity to being "open" to more than just looks, so long as other folks involved are just as open.

The problems that could arise would be due to jealousy, even if mild amounts of it. I believe we as humans enjoy close intimate relationships with others, and possibly in that selfish way, even if subconscieniously, want to keep that to ourselves and not share that with anyone else. Things that are most valuable to us, often, we went to keep near and dear to us, there at a moments notice, for oneself. When you are sharing that with someone else, you are giving part of it.

In the end, some people can make it work swimmingly, but for the majority, monogomy is where it's at.

Jealousy seems to me a HUGE problem, given the tendency of most humans to project a thousand incriminating details upon the most innocuous of actions; it would also seem like an emotionally draining experience, tending to the needs of multiple lovers, trying to balance attention, remembering everyone's birthdays/special days (when do you celebrate anniversaries for that matter? Do you celebrate them at all?), making sure to never 'outdo' it for one person, sounds like a nightmare

I'm guessing, if someone is still adventurous, that person could give it a try! Heh, who knows, but that whole trying to sort out all those things you mentioned could get difficult. Some people are good at that though, so more power to them!