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The value of family.
12 years ago
If only I could be... Hey everyone, sorry no update today, and for all you who don't live in the states, it was Thanksgiving yesterday (a terrible holiday imho but I was forced to participate...)
Recently I have been pretty down and depressed and have been struggling to motivate myself to do anything more than draw and play some games. I haven't really drawn anything worth uploading though, a sketch of a DnD character who is now dead, and a few doodles on paper. It took a lot of effort of friends close enough to me to be considered family and my father to pull me up and out of the weird slump I've been in.
I've been thinking a lot too about what the term "family values," means. I feel it was originally coined by christian groups and followers (like Chick-fill-a) to describe a soft anti-gay sentiment; That marriage should only be between a man and a woman in fear of destroying the social values of a family. However, how does one truly measure the value of kinship? I can't answer that question either, but I think I have an idea of people who could. Most people, grow up with a family, either their an only child or have siblings, one dad or two (or even two moms), that live and love fulfilling lives. There are a lot of situation where this is not true (and my heart goes out to you if you are one of these people); That are either rejected for their ideals, or sexuality, or some other reason. They grew up with a family and that value was stripped away, "having loved then lost, then to have never loved at all," sort of deal. Then there are also people who were born into poverty (I don't mean the economic definition), maybe their parents orphaned them, or were terrible people; These people never really were born into the value of family, and thus developed it with other people, places, or things, over a period of time.
I know it's awfully generalized but it's in my mind now that these two kinds of people -those who have had and lost, and those who have had none but found- are the people who can really enlighten us on the value of a family!
I bring this up because being gay in New York is (relatively) easy. When going to a job interview or something, being gay can sometimes be a plus (companies trying to diversify their employees) even though I never brought it up in the interviewing process. It always seemed to get out later though, when I was hit on or just came up in general discussion. Now that i'm in North Carolina I feel a little concerned. Again, I'm not going to flaunt my sexuality, but what if instead of being something that in generally accepted it's looked upon as not fitting the mold of "family values," to have an employee you know is gay?
I guess there is nothing I can do about it, I guess the worst that can happen is I get fired right? After all I have fought tooth and claw against bullies before, and I'm not afraid to do it again. However, now when ever I hear that term get thrown around I can smile to myself, because by the weird twisted fairy logic "family values," are only known by the people they mean to ostracize.
Recently I have been pretty down and depressed and have been struggling to motivate myself to do anything more than draw and play some games. I haven't really drawn anything worth uploading though, a sketch of a DnD character who is now dead, and a few doodles on paper. It took a lot of effort of friends close enough to me to be considered family and my father to pull me up and out of the weird slump I've been in.
I've been thinking a lot too about what the term "family values," means. I feel it was originally coined by christian groups and followers (like Chick-fill-a) to describe a soft anti-gay sentiment; That marriage should only be between a man and a woman in fear of destroying the social values of a family. However, how does one truly measure the value of kinship? I can't answer that question either, but I think I have an idea of people who could. Most people, grow up with a family, either their an only child or have siblings, one dad or two (or even two moms), that live and love fulfilling lives. There are a lot of situation where this is not true (and my heart goes out to you if you are one of these people); That are either rejected for their ideals, or sexuality, or some other reason. They grew up with a family and that value was stripped away, "having loved then lost, then to have never loved at all," sort of deal. Then there are also people who were born into poverty (I don't mean the economic definition), maybe their parents orphaned them, or were terrible people; These people never really were born into the value of family, and thus developed it with other people, places, or things, over a period of time.
I know it's awfully generalized but it's in my mind now that these two kinds of people -those who have had and lost, and those who have had none but found- are the people who can really enlighten us on the value of a family!
I bring this up because being gay in New York is (relatively) easy. When going to a job interview or something, being gay can sometimes be a plus (companies trying to diversify their employees) even though I never brought it up in the interviewing process. It always seemed to get out later though, when I was hit on or just came up in general discussion. Now that i'm in North Carolina I feel a little concerned. Again, I'm not going to flaunt my sexuality, but what if instead of being something that in generally accepted it's looked upon as not fitting the mold of "family values," to have an employee you know is gay?
I guess there is nothing I can do about it, I guess the worst that can happen is I get fired right? After all I have fought tooth and claw against bullies before, and I'm not afraid to do it again. However, now when ever I hear that term get thrown around I can smile to myself, because by the weird twisted fairy logic "family values," are only known by the people they mean to ostracize.
