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Something To Think About.....
11 years ago
Hey all. So, I just finished reading a new Kadath comic. It was part 2 of what I believe is a 3-part series. Part one was a shy college student, and one day while he was talking with his good friend on the football team, he meets a transfer student and immediately falls in love. The boy's a part of a rich family, and he had the house to himself for the weekend, so his friend decides that's the best time to throw a party. However, while it seemed like a harmless get-together at first, he found out the real reason for the party. The new foreign girl...got around, and it turned into her getting fucked by about 10 or so guys that night. Part two was shorter, but more meaningful and the beginning of this journal. His friend went with him and her up to his room, where he proceeded to take her. The football jock tried to get his friend to have his turn after all of them had filled her up....but he refused. Despite his massive crush on her and how much he wanted to, he couldn't....because he was a virgin. After this, I looked at the comments, and one of them put this idea in my mind. It was saying that perhaps part 3 would have him saying that he wanted his first time to mean more than just fucking a random girl. He wanted it to MEAN something.
Which leads me to my main point. Now, I'm going to be honest here, I am still a virgin. And looking at my sociability, I'll probably be one for a few more years at least. But I do want some experience eventually. While it is nice and meaningful to have your first be on your wedding night, it's kind of a contradiction to what the human body really wants. So, that put the thought in my head to ask you guys, just out of curiosity. If you are a virgin, would you want your first time to realistically be something meaningful, or would you be willing to sacrifice that first time to being with someone to just get the experience of it? When I'm talking about the earlier, it doesn't necessarily mean the wedding cherry popping. I mean that you save it for someone important, not some random girl you decide to do it with. I know this is a bit deep, but it's nearly midnight, and I'm writing a fucking lab report because some of our group is too fucking lazy to help us with it. I hope this is just an interesting journal to you all, and I'd like to know your thoughts, as long as you're comfortable with answering it. I hope to hear from a few of you soon.
Which leads me to my main point. Now, I'm going to be honest here, I am still a virgin. And looking at my sociability, I'll probably be one for a few more years at least. But I do want some experience eventually. While it is nice and meaningful to have your first be on your wedding night, it's kind of a contradiction to what the human body really wants. So, that put the thought in my head to ask you guys, just out of curiosity. If you are a virgin, would you want your first time to realistically be something meaningful, or would you be willing to sacrifice that first time to being with someone to just get the experience of it? When I'm talking about the earlier, it doesn't necessarily mean the wedding cherry popping. I mean that you save it for someone important, not some random girl you decide to do it with. I know this is a bit deep, but it's nearly midnight, and I'm writing a fucking lab report because some of our group is too fucking lazy to help us with it. I hope this is just an interesting journal to you all, and I'd like to know your thoughts, as long as you're comfortable with answering it. I hope to hear from a few of you soon.
It's interesting how you interpreted the first two chapters, particularly Ben's feelings toward Olivia. Some details are a little off (Kevin plays hockey, not football...the two chapters are the same length, but you might be considering the prologue as part of chapter 1, etc.), but yeah, Ben finds Olivia attractive. However, I don't want to spoil the ending by explaining his motivations... I'll just say, yes, he's indeed conflicted, about his virginity, and about the situation and how he should feel. Does he give in to peer pressure, or does he do what he feels is right?
I think, personally, that if you lose your virginity to someone, it should be someone you trust and it should be something you are comfortable with. Personally, I think it's good to have experiences before marriage, but that's just my opinion. It honestly comes down to what you are personally comfortable with.
I'm pleased that my comic has brought up discussions like this. I'd be curious to see your reaction to Part Three when that comes out in May. :3
I'm just as humbled to see my work have this kind of impact! Really happy it starts discussions about issues or concerns that people can relate to. :D
now, mind you, I am preety certain at this point that it wasn't a matter of 'rebound' or such because my feelings where calm at the time, however, I met this one cute gamer guy and we got along just nice, ended up inviting him to my place several times over to sleep, at first I had my reservations but then just, fuck it, ended up having plenty of oral sex, groping and the like <.<
time went by and I lost touch with him but ran across an old friend and she was preety much feeling lonely, we get drunk and one thing lead to the other, preety much same deal
this went on and on with other three persons in the lapse of six months, never had actual intercourse with them but there was a lot of foreplay, oral and the like
one year later I found the right one, in the technical sense, I still hadn't had vaginal intercourse, so, virgin! and it was a very nice 'spiritual' sensation, however, physically, I was more than well adjusted, managed to keep my cool without freaking out and had a preety enjoyable session, most guys in their first time end up having nervousness issues or the like for the novelty of the situation, I was just too used to dealing wit hthat kind of situation and that ended up paying off
so, conclusion? I say, life is short, why not make the best out of it and -have fun- but that doesn't means you can't hold up a moral code of conduct, it wasn't hard to stay true to what I wanted, I mean, if any, having experienced so many good things, I wasn't feeling pent up at all and it was easy to hold on to my promise of keeping virginity intact, and at the same time, provide my body the releif it longed for~
bottom line is, made it to age 30 to have my first time with a 20 year old lass <.< and it was so fucking well worth it
however, what IS virginity? some consider that you lose it the moment you lust for someone, some consider you lose it the moment you have oral or anal sex (and Arceus knows I've had more than plenty of that) it's such subjective BS in the end, the best way to look at it is to separate love from lust and the diference between 'having sex' and 'making love' becomes the true definition
you can have sex with someone and just call it a night, part ways and everyone is happy, but it takes a lot of self-esteem to do so! it's all in how you aproach it. Even if I had sex before with one of the girls I used to hang with, I don't think I would regret it, because it would have been an act of pure lust, not one driven by feelings, and it was not an abuse or a trickery, but a mutual arrangement in wich we got pleasure and nothing else
and yet, standing here two years later, about to get married to that same girl in a year or so, I can placidly and confidently say 'I regret nothing' I experienced the touch of many and I've been on both sides of the fence, and not a single regret, on the contrary, there's a sense of fullfillment
if any, I feel kinda sorry that -she- didn't had the chance to experience any of that, but if she where to ask me for a chance to experiment a little, know what? I would not say no, because it's only fair, and I trust her
me? I doubt I'll ever have any desire to do so, because I did it back in my days and there's now no appeal in that
kinda reminds me of the bunny song (how fitting)
"Resist and later you find out there's more Regret in not doing the Sin."
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ENnAa7rqtBM
heard that song the first time when I was like 19-ish, it seemed a bit depressing or even sad, but now that I look at it, it's a preety much true song!