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TMI Surgery, Take 2~!
11 years ago
This post has to do with my sexual health. If this makes you uncomfortable, I understand. Just stop reading here and enjoy some art! c:
I've been putting this off for a while, and as spring became summer, and summer went down in a flame of glorious autumnal leaves, and now winter has set in with a blanket of snow, extinguishing the riot of colors from the previous season, life keeps happening. I fail to update much about it, although I am more active on my Facebook, Twitter, and Tumblr.
The touchiest subject, for me, is discussing the follow up on the surgery (What surgery? See here: http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/5654109/). Sadly, it didn't work. Attempting to consummate our marriage just ended in tears. Several times. My situation has fallen into the 10% of cases that need a second surgery.
I'm very sad about this but I remain hopeful! Round 2 is not supposed to be as bad as the first, especially the stitches. Having the stitches pulled was the most painful experience of my life. Ugh. I still have bad dreams about it. On the upside, Percocet sure is nice!
Once again, this is very difficult for me to share, but I started it and I feel I should finish it. I have received a few messages regarding my first journal about the subject, and I hope so hard to help other women suffering through any sort of pelvic pain. Ladies, it's not normal, it's not your fault, and it's NOT in your head. God knows I didn't become sexually active thinking "LoL this is gonna be so painful that it's going to ruin most all my relationships YOLO." It sounds utterly ridiculous, but there are many doctors out there that dismiss women's pain. I won't go into it more, I get mad and ranty.
SO! Anyway. Tomorrow morning we're off to the hospital so I can get sliced and stitched, again. Between the recovery and the Holidays, the rest of my year is pretty shot.
As before, feel free to ask me questions and I will answer as best I can. Email me if you like. However, please don't speculate about my private life, or suggest I try this or that.
I've been putting this off for a while, and as spring became summer, and summer went down in a flame of glorious autumnal leaves, and now winter has set in with a blanket of snow, extinguishing the riot of colors from the previous season, life keeps happening. I fail to update much about it, although I am more active on my Facebook, Twitter, and Tumblr.
The touchiest subject, for me, is discussing the follow up on the surgery (What surgery? See here: http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/5654109/). Sadly, it didn't work. Attempting to consummate our marriage just ended in tears. Several times. My situation has fallen into the 10% of cases that need a second surgery.
I'm very sad about this but I remain hopeful! Round 2 is not supposed to be as bad as the first, especially the stitches. Having the stitches pulled was the most painful experience of my life. Ugh. I still have bad dreams about it. On the upside, Percocet sure is nice!
Once again, this is very difficult for me to share, but I started it and I feel I should finish it. I have received a few messages regarding my first journal about the subject, and I hope so hard to help other women suffering through any sort of pelvic pain. Ladies, it's not normal, it's not your fault, and it's NOT in your head. God knows I didn't become sexually active thinking "LoL this is gonna be so painful that it's going to ruin most all my relationships YOLO." It sounds utterly ridiculous, but there are many doctors out there that dismiss women's pain. I won't go into it more, I get mad and ranty.
SO! Anyway. Tomorrow morning we're off to the hospital so I can get sliced and stitched, again. Between the recovery and the Holidays, the rest of my year is pretty shot.
As before, feel free to ask me questions and I will answer as best I can. Email me if you like. However, please don't speculate about my private life, or suggest I try this or that.
So, kudos to you for that- Sex has always been a tricky thing with me. While it's certainly something that is desirable, it has always been something by my standards that just get in the way of things. Be it by changing your thought patterns, by making you grumpy for not having it, or by instilling jealousy over seeing someone you like and can't have, It has striven to perform as one of those "Once in a while, but as a last resort" sort of things I've adapted to.
I am sorry that you have to have this kind of trouble. But here's to you and moving forward like a true warrior!
However. That's you and me, and I guess we're relatively rare cases. :) But I'm sure we can both totally understand the longing to share the deepest of intimacies with your life-partner. I wish V. all the very best.
Closest thing I get are slaves, since that leaves the control in my hands, and the freedom to treat them how I wish.
But here's hoping we all find fulfilment in our different ways. :)
You literally just said she's doing it just for sex and I'm just correcting you, jesus christ.
I don't need your corrections, I didn't ask for your corrections, so don't feel like you're doing some good samaritan act. Especially not with such egotistical disdain as to assume that I need you to come in and do as such in the first place.
My petsitter LOVED the big sushicat print I got from you at RF, by the way! ♥ She totally freaked out, haha! You bring joy to peoples' lives and you deserve to be happy, too! ♥
My wife developed a chronic pain issue where orgasm caused intense, painful cramping in her right pelvic-abdominal area, one that appears to be more or less untreatable. (Evidently it's some sort of deep muscular cramping effect.) In her case she went from being extremely sexually active with me to having to face down the reality of intense pain being the likely outcome. :(
On the upside, with any luck, after your round 2, and healing, you and your husband can hopefully delight in mutual exploration and enjoyment, and pay back with interest every joy owed yourselves.
Wish you well ^u^
*crosses fingers*
Many good thoughts and well wishes on your recovery and a successful second surgery.
Wow... that does sound kinda creepy, but I do mean it in the most platonic way. XD
I wish you great success with the second surgery. May you enjoy a speedy recovery!
Anyway, I dearly hope this solves it for you, I'll be thinkin' about yuh!
<3
but there's a second chance! Let's go second chances, you can do it! Good luck, I hope it's a success!
(also I never knew stitch removal could hurt so much, whoa.)
It's incredibly brave to share something to very personal and I hope I can be that brave one day.
I hope more then anything that the surgery works this time and you and your spouse will have an even more fulfilling relationship. You've obviously got a real good one who sees your worth past the bedroom.
My heart and wishes/prayers go out to you two and I truely wish you the best.
Also, thank you so much for sharing this, I know how difficult/awkward it is to share personal things... But getting support and raising awareness is so important. Hang in there hon.
So much empathy from me and hoping you recover well from your second surgery!
*hugs*