A quick question... are you putting these out to vent, or are you seeking advice? I don't want to put too much out there unless you're actively seeking advice. It's in my nature to help others; I had to do some sort of extended personality overview test at work about a year ago and it pegged me as someone who wants to make sure everyone's doing okay and that any strife is resolved. Doesn't always work out that way.

Firstly, 'friends' who would cut you out for a year(since that's a common theme you've written about) don't sound like good friends at all. I know I wouldn't tolerate being around any group that would kick me out for something minor like that. I'd understand something like this if it were hardcore roleplaying, but the way you describe it tends to make me think that your beau's supposed to act like he's Commander Riker 24/7, even when interacting with people outside of that group. Definitely correct me if I'm wrong on that front. I just released a voice journal(I do sporadic voice logs from time to time that I post here) talking about how words can be used as weapons. We don't use metaphors such as 'personal attack' and 'your words cut like a knife' for no reason, and studies are beginning to show that being ignored and hurtful comments are actually neurologically presented in the same way physical pain is. Definitely food for thought.

Additionally, I can definitely see how the reaction of your friendship with your neighbors is frustrating. Frankly, if they're your friends they're your friends, regardless if they live ten feet away or a thousand miles away. Having them around makes you happy, and that should be the end of it. Being semi-public about your misgivings strikes me as a little rude, and the insinuation he's basically running an experiment with that strikes me as disrespectful. The last bit about your family also falls under the disrespectful bit. However, on future outings if he comes along perhaps worrying less about what he thinks of your family and spending more time interacting with your relatives may be in order. Never be afraid to be yourself, even if it's in front of someone who may disapprove. Why? Because being untrue to yourself is the absolute worst thing you can do for yourself.

I definitely am not writing this to color or influence your view of your relationship, however your writing is definitely touching on aspects that need improvement. Once again; communication, trust, respect, and working together are the things that seem to be hallmarks in the most successful relationships I know. I'm getting rambly again so I'll cut it short. I hope you have a good one!

I'm with the person above you, but I'm going to be a little more succinct:

Find your happiness. Figure out if the people you're around are giving you happiness, or taking more than they give. *hugs*

Ho dang. Wow, life is not easy for you friend. I really hope you can make sure to let 'em know what's up. Especially if he's toying with emotions and friendships like that, that's just not right. Especially if you don't do that to him / his friends. I don't know how you'd do so, that's up to you, but that's testing the wrong waters. x.x

I'm here for ya always though, no matter what. :) Lemme know if there's anything I can do to help!