Where in NY?

You can shoot me an email or message me on TG and I can throw out some ideas for you?

I'm in Wallkill, Ulster County. She is currently in New Windsor, Orange County. Do you have a Discord? I tried to send you a PM on FA and I got a message saying that you've declined to participate in the notes system. Didn't know that was an option. O_O ;

Yeah I hate notes haha.

Well, I can speak for Buffalo/Western New York area , my email is CrimesHazard[at]Gmail.com !

I will also agree with the poster below...don't rule out NJ, NY is very high in taxes, though there are some low income options availible.

Oh yeah? How do you like it out there?

Winters suck haha, but there is a lot of scenery and outdoors stuff outside the city, and in the city theres a plethora of museums, the zoo, and the aquarium isn't too far either!

Heh. Sounds lovely.

I would heavily consider options in Connecticut and New Jersey because that's what some New Yorkers will do, get something cheaper next door and commute. I live in CT, and while I don't have any specific recommendations, those two states open up more options. New York is incredibly expensive to live in.

All true but if we commute, we don't get the benefit of free medical care and Jordan really needs it. Her health has gone downhill so fast, we're afraid it might be cancer and because she had been living in FL, she couldn't afford to have a proper workup due to being constantly sidelined with ER expenses related to lupus and treatment-resisting pernicious anemia.

We would love to go to Minnesota but we don't have any support network out there at all and if we fall flat on our faces, we're both fucked. In NY, at least I have family.

Isee you going a solution, but for the future Vermont's Medicaid is incredible. It's taking easy to get approved as long as you are below the monthly income limit and has great coverage. Just saying southern or Western Vermont might be an option for you guys if you need to find alternatives

Good luck!

Hm. There's a thought. I'll keep that in mind.

Massachusetts might also be worth considering (just obviously not in or around Boston, ffff). Same deal here as what Stray said for Medicaid (although it's called MassHealth here)--not difficult to get and has great coverage.
And the actual healthcare here is almost the best in the entire country, second only to Hawaii.

Oh wow. Huh. Duly noted. I'll definitely keep that in mind.

ah yes, sleepy chow + autocorrect = what

*I see you found a solution
*It's very easy to get approved

I was going to suggest going to the local police / sheriff's departments. There's times they have properties they're looking to offload, usually places seized from unsavory sorts. While not always in good neighborhoods, the prices are also usually far below market. Now that you have a temporary place, I recommend going to them and seeing what you can find.

Interesting. I'd never heard of this before. Might be worth a shot.

I know you found your place but i do know amazon sells some huge ass super comfy memory foam mattresses for less then 100. I have a queen with my fiance and its pasted us almost 3 full years now and its super comfy.

It was great when i was recovering from getting hit by a car and it helps my fiance who has a horrible back.

Unfortunately, the trailer is a little small for a queen-size mattress so we're going with beanbags. You can get those for around the same price. Still, if we're ever able to upgrade, that's something to keep in mind.

I'm glad you got a trailer sorted out! A fixer-upper is better than nothing. Hopefully things start looking up for you soon! I'm rootin' for ya!

Yeah. Here's hoping. Thanks. :}

When it rains it pours. :/
Glad you got a temporary solution. I hope you can make it work.

Aye. Thanks. I have a feeling there's more rain around the corner. He lied to us about the heater being broken which is a value of 4K. Thankfully, that shit's illegal and he has to fix it at his own expense. But he's a total douchebag and my wife got a little snippy with him over that so I can't help wonder if he might do something to be vindictive or if he's lying about anything else. FNL but at least we have a roof over our heads.

Oh joy.. a slumlord..

Well if anyone tries to push you off the land or charge a huge amount..I got 2 acres I can let you park on for free.

meh. I want a structure I can put a doublewide on or something. Everything boils down to having cash. x.x

Hopefully, it'll just be temporary and JD will be finally getting the medical attention she needs so there's that. And my mom is around the corner. She made it clear she would not be giving us any money or financial aid of any kind (she has some pretty hilariously ironic concerns of her own so I can't entirely blame her) but she's a sap. If she sees us struggling, she'll help.... and by "help" I mean vigorously redecorate the whole place against our will lol. But hey, maybe I'll get some free furniture out of it. ;p

Glad you made it to New York! Good luck with everything!

Thanks. :)

She really loves the mountains and won't shut up about them. ;p FL is very flat and I don't think Illinois has much in the way of mountains either (those are the only places she's ever lived) so every time she sees a mountain it's like a kid in a candy shop. I grew up in NY so I know what to expect here.

Well.... sort of. I wasn't expecting it to be this warm this time of year. O__O

One of the best artist i ever knew having a bad luck, that sucks. Hoping for your better future

Aw. Thanks. :) Don't worry. We're hanging in there.

I'm in upstate NY, not so far away as Buffalo, however.

Glad you have things sorted out, but if you need help, I will see what I can do.

Thanks. I appreciate the offer. We're hoping that this situation is temporary so maybe someday, we'll head out there. A few people have suggested living outside Buffalo.

Just because of the winters, I would advise against this part of Upstate NY. But at the very least, avoid the Tug Hill.

I've heard tales. I had a friend who lived up in Buffalo. I've heard stories of 5 feet of snow and more even. There was only one time in my childhood (I grew up in NY) that I recall getting that much snow. It was the freak blizzard of 96. we got over 4ft in our area. Straight week of school off.

That was the best time of my life. Parents were both in the medical field and obligated to work. My older sister was away at college. My younger sister was living elsewhere at the time. I had the house all to myself. Did nothing but watch The Lion King on endless repeat, read, nap, and play videogames all week.

Ah, the good days.

I was alive for the blizzard of 77. 10 feet fell in the first day.

No home video options, though.

10ft? For real? O__O;

yeah.

Golly gee willickers.

I recently found out they made a board game of it. Trying to obtain a copy.

Haha. That's kinda bonkers. :P

Yeah if u ever get the opportunity to move to florida, its low in taxes and some areas have great cost of living, plus its warm. Hope u do alright im rooting for ya

Thanks. :) You're not wrong but unfortunately, my wife has really, really bad health concerns and FL opted out of a lot of the ACA's protections so her insurance premiums were over 550$ a month thanks to lupus, pernicious anemia, and a bunch of other issues. NY might be a lot more expensive but they've got better support programs for someone like her.

I did not like FL but TBH, there are days when I regret leaving. It was a lot easier down there. Except for the healthcare issue.

sending you most sincere support; good luck to you and your SO, here's hoping that despite material hardships, your closeness will at least make them more tolerable.)

Thanks.

I'm in NY and pretty familiar with navigating our health care system. Let me know if you have any questions, I'd love to help ya'll get coverage. <3

Thanks. :) I've got coverage but she doesn't. She does need to have been a resident here for at least a month, right? With a legit address and all? The sooner we can get her care the better. She's had flu-like symptoms for over 3-weeks and even her crap-ass, lupus-riddled immune system can usually kick something like that inside two weeks.

I'll PM you. :)

Hey, I told you that you guys would make it.
Situation might be kinda ass, but you're together, you're in one piece, and you have a place.

You guys doing okay for food and winter clothes?

Yup! Thanks. We're stocked up on ramen, veggies, fruit, beans, lots of stuff we can cook ourselves and we're not really fashionable types so we only need a few good winter items. She's not diggin the cold so much but I sure am. Oooooooh, it was so nice yesterday. :D

That's a relief.
I had a bit of a furnace scare going on since Thursday and it had gotten down to 15 degrees. Fortunately I was able to get it resolved by rebuilding a few worn-out components and installing a fresh pressure sensor, but it just had me thinking the whole time about how awful of a time of year it is for someone to run into economic hardship, and how grotesque and morally vacant someone would have to be to intentionally *put* someone else into that sort of situation around this time of year. Exponentially more so without an actual case of personal need driving their motive, as would be the case with a multi-millionaire.

It's a travesty that the system protects people like that better than it protects people like us.

Yeah, amen to that.

Glad to see you got it figured out. Disability applications are rough and almost always come down to attorneys' offices and the like.

Once she's got a treatment team assembled in NY it might be worth trying again.

Aye. Indeed.

Hmmm if it wasn't winter id say come to Virginia and get away from that crime state.

I think I'm probably a wee bit too liberal for Virginia. ;} Also, I like having affordable healthcare and my GF literally needs that to survive. So alas, no can do.