Sadly it seems to be happening to many and a lot of people far as political stuff and will continue to do so through the years. Which if people are like that I don't bother with them and move on. Even though yeah to you they were friends, but in the end to me. Is it worth getting upset or being with friends whom do that or act that way. That's why yeah I don't talk about political stuff unless its someone I know wont act like that. As everyone has a right to an opinion and their own personal thoughts. And no one should sit there to try and shove their thoughts or opinions down your throat.

Sadly loosing a friend to me is loosing a chunk of my life, since I have so few friends, even to just generally talk with. So it can hurt me far worse than others realize.

It's not right for someone to press you on something when you asked them not too. But to be honest I'd need more context to make a judgement one way or another otherwise. I know there are certain extreme beliefs someone might hold that definitely would make me reevaluate them as a person.

I defiantly won’t be speaking with them again, not because of their political beliefs but because I warned them, knowing full well it wouldn’t be pretty. If a person baits your opinions out to see where you stand in a matter, that person is just a plain asshole.

I feel this - I don't even like getting into talking about "social issues" but even more when I know friends have different views. Most of them, we just respect that we are different so we don't try to argue or debate it. . but a few of them just want to push the issue, and THAT is what makes me not want to be around them.

Sadly I believe my entire friend list is a firework waiting to but lit. I give warnings to people to not go down the direction to speak with me politically and yet they still do it. Guess I hardly have the luxury of having friends that care more about a good relationship then someone who just used me for RP. Sadly that’s all he really cared about. -_-

One of my co workers stopped talking to me. . .he was ranting about political stuff, going on about how he's pro-life in all situations. I casually mentioned that I am pro-choice in all situations. He said "if you don't want a baby, you can give it up for adoption after it's born." I replied, "ask the 400,000 kids in the foster care system how that worked out for them."
He doesn't talk to me anymore. I didn't even WANT to talk about that stuff. . .I don't like it when friends or co workers bring that stuff up, especially when they assume we all have the same political or religious beliefs.

Oh yuck, yeah, people really have to be careful around work, can really ruin relationships.

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My life summed up in three letters.

Find better friends.

People who will discard you at the drop of a hat are not real friends.

Also that being said, try to understand others and why they're upset.

If only it were that easy. Sadly so rare these days.

You are the only one that gets to choose what friends you have. Nobody chooses your friends for you.

Yes but sadly with my lack of social skills, being able to choose isn’t really an option.

Nothing I say will change your mind immediately, because I know the position you're in and why you're feeling the way you are, and I know that its a stubborn defeatist feeling.

But you need to try. It costs you nothing to try to think outside the painful little box you're in right now.

Just remember - you can't control others all the time - but you can control yourself just by trying - you'd be surprised once you put in effort.

A person wouldn’t wouldn’t understand my current situation unless they have talked to me in the past and heard my past. My past is filled to the brim with good friends I’ve know for around 5-10 years backstabbing me in the back one at a time. I had a massive friend group around the halo reach release and I was a completely different person. After the game died off the group split off and pretty much I was ignore, blocked, forgotten about, harassed, and blamed within the group until only one remains to this day. My past was years of bullying and harassment from elementary to high school, not only did groups of kids best me down internally but so did teachers, councilors, the principle, coaches, and my own parents. Emotionally I’m dead and recked in the inside with hardly any desire to push myself to make friends and seek them out. Every time I have tried it has always ended horrible one way or another. It’s not me being stubborn, it’s me being beaten down so hard that I can hardly trust anyone to even be a friend.

Again - they're not "good friends" if they "backstabbed" you. I know being backstabbed hurts - because I've had pricks do that to me before, but I learned from it valuable experience - the ability to judge what is right and wrong and the ability to read other people and discern whether they're real friend material or not.

I've had a weird life myself with similar experiences to you, but that isn't needed to understand why you feel the way you do, although it certainly helps.

You're only 22 (if that is correct?) - your life is just beginning really.

Its to be expected that what happened to you is going to give you trust issues, but you can use that to your advantage like I did.

Your past doesn't dictate who you are, but it gives you experience on what you can do for your future.

They were good friends far before the events began to unfold after the group split off. I knew most of them for many years in which I played a good dozen games with them. As of right now my life isn’t really in the best spot, with me finding out I might have wasted 4 years at college for a major that I’m not even going to use, a family which harasses me for it yet they were the ones that put me down my path to “help”. My life may just be beginning but honestly my life has been nothing but pain, suffering, and the only person I can trust is myself. It’s hard to be by yourself in the world when you know you have hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt coming your way with years of mindless grinding in college only to come out the other end realizing you wasted your life and have no relationships with anyone. My past isn’t an advantage, it’s affects have left me tainted my entire life and desiring nothing but someone jus to shoot me and get it over with.

You try very hard to be defeatist when you're reviewing your life, without crediting that which you enjoy - surely things aren't all lost.
If you want good friends - seek out good friends and treat them the way you want to be treated - then you can have a symbiotic relationship of helping each other out - that's what friends are for.

I stand by everything I said though, and I hope I'm not wasting my time and effort here when I say these things.
So for my sake - just take a look at yourself - and think about the way you can learn from experience in friends and life in general - and seek the better things and people.

I am a very pessimistic person because I’ve lived my life mostly restrained by my family, unable to actually find anything I enjoy and can call a hobby. If it was easy to make friends I would have them, but that is not the case. I hardly have anything I can call a hobby because I do not have the luxury not having a good family or, based on my current situation, the time to explore it. When I look at myself all I see is a dreadful past and when I look at others most have just fine lives and had few issues when they were raised. Some may have bad parents, some may have bad childhoods in school, but no one I know has had to deal with it all throughout the life and been treated like trash by everyone. Me making friends has nothing to do with treating others how I want to be treated, but rather the inability to have opportunities to meet people.

Surely you have SOME friends you trust from FA or roleplaying no?

I would say I trust only two of them. I don’t really RP anymore.

So much for the tolerant left

Just to stay out of it politically I didn’t mention who’s side they are on and what they support. It was more on the idea that they had a hissy fit when one person disagreed with them.

Honestly that's a big mood, am still friendly to everyone no matter tho, as long as they're good with me and in general. But i aint that social as i used to be because of some people that where doing such things, even tho i would tell them that i dont care about any of that shit and to keep me out of it, they still continued. Kind of learned the hard way you cant have everyone as a friend.
But am pretty sure you have some sweet friends that are close to you and listen when you have something to say! ^w^

Sadly my ability to make friends has been completely ruined years ago and I don’t really get the opportunity to have good friends. There are a few good ones but they a only in the lower single digits.

Yehhh that's understandable, but hey it's good that you have those even though they aren't a lot, it's better then none, i honestly dont know ya but you seem pretty sweet to talk, also ya a noodle soo.. yeh x3

Yeah just a few but even those hardly speak to me these days. I’m not that sweet to talk to sadly, I’m to much of a mess and more of a bother to people now these days.

Oh boy that hit deep, i know very well how you feel.
People stop talking with you and it just makes you feel more like a bother then actually a friend. Been there many times, still get those feelings. Trust me am a huge mess as well, most probably dont even know about it tho, mostly because I don't talk about it or try to hide it.. but yeh..
Look if you need someone new to talk for a while you can note me and see!

Eh, I'm not really someone to dump my feelings onto someone for the sake of myself. I tend to just suck it up and deal with it, hoping my day to vanish from this planet will come. I came very close to that on Monday when I nearly got tboned by someone running a light well over the speed limit downtown. Kind of wish it did happen. x,x

You just defined a fanatic. Sadly, but those are hard to reason with. There are few ways to deal with them, but if your nerves aren't the best, I would reccomend you just avoiding them.

Oh well they blocked me, so no way of even speaking to them again, so the issue solved itself. Was just stupid to deal with.

It's still something to keep in mind for future, our society (or mostly social media and our own preferences) created a lot of information bubbles which are real breeding ground for fanatics.

A dangerous time to be alive. =/

And what times weren't, heh

True

And like in all times, we need to make the best out of what we have.

Sadly not much I have going for me other than a mindless college grind.

It won't last forever. It's not like your whole target was just the college, aim for what is beyond it or options it enables for you

Yeah, still another 6ish years to go. Pretty much will be old by the time I get through.

Or still young, depending on how you look at it. it's not 1900 anymore and we have more time than ever

Gotta love the twitter inquisition

Luckily I stay away from social media pretty much.