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Creeps on the Internet
4 years ago
You know what's really disturbing? Guys who think they're your soulmate and don't accept it when you tell them "Eh, no, you're creepy, please go away." because they insist on knowing you better even though they have NEVER met you in real life.
Guys who go from client / aquaintance to fanboy and suddenly online stalker. Wanting to meet you, to know more about you, to make you fall in love with them no matter if you want or not. And when you tell them to just stop bothering you, it's not because they are a creep, noooooooo, it's because you're suffering from some kind of trauma and are too scared to accept love and a serious relationship. They keep writing about you and everything you said, did and post on the internet on their blog ( friends also tell me about it now and then, everyone who's ever read it thinks he's a creep ), analyze you, observe your actions, judge and criticize your personality and behavior. Act as if only they see through you and get harsh and butthurt when you get annoyed and tell them stop bothering you once more. Who keep sending you donations because they think you can't survive on your own and desperately need their few extra bucks. Who don't care when you tell them over and over again you don't want any money from them and then get condescending when you keep sending it back.
Of course YOU, the woman, is the problem. Not them, the most perfect man on Earth. The one too good for this planet, the one who keeps mentioning what an awesome, pure and good man he is and how everyone else is using him. How every woman in his life, whom he obsessed over and mentally had kids with already, used him and rejected relationships with him...not because he was a creep and they probably didn't even know he had ulterior motives until he said it to their face, nope, no way.
Instead of accepting your desire to have them as faaaaaar away from them as possible and your wish to stop writing about them on their blog, they continue to do so, because they are obviously obsessed and don't accept a woman's "No" because they think it means "Yes".
Instead of seeking a therapist themselves they keep looking for reasons why the woman is the problem, why she is too damaged and stubborn to realize she's been waiting for them their entire life. After all, she has no right to say no to them. A woman rejecting a man, what's next, gender equality?
I thought ignoring would be the best option, but it's been...many, many months since I told him to stop writing about me because even though he thought I'm stupid and didn't notice ( since he's not mentioning any names ), I did. He didn't care, because again, who cares what the stupid little woman wants? He observes me everywhere online, I've blocked him wherever I could. Recently he's suddenly been following my closest friends as well, to maybe get more information about what I'm up to. And of course he's still writing about me, how much we have in common, how I don't want to admit that we're basically made for each other, how this and that I said and did was wrong, unfair and also blunt criticism of things I've said and done in the past. Reasons why I'm not being successful, worries about me living under a bridge someday and self-pity when I've achieved something without his help.
Because HE sees through me and knows what's best for me, sees the true person I am. Even my best friends, who know me for around 20 years, would never say they know me better than I know myself. And then it comes from a guy online who had a few smalltalk chats with me. Right-o.
Of course, he's right, he knows why I say the things I say, why I act the way I do. But everyone who criticizes him is wrong. Family, coworkers, friends, it doesn't matter if he's been told the same accusations a dozen times, they are always wrong. Because THEY are stupid and have misunderstood him on purpose, nothing is ever his own fault because he's the best, purest and most loyal guy on Earth. Not like the other scum. So no way something can ever be HIS fault.
I know he'll read this. I know he'll write about this on his blog, because he's obsessed with me for whatever sick reason. Because he can't accept the fact I said "NO".
Go ahead, read the comments that are most likely to come and see how pure, nice and sweet people will see your behavior.
If you have one tiny bit of sense of honor left, then finally stop judging, talking and gossiping about me behind my back. It's not gonna change my opinion of you the way you want, just convince me more and more that you need psychological help. If you really think you are such a good guy then listen to my wish. If you won't then it's proof enough you're just fooling yourself.
Guys who go from client / aquaintance to fanboy and suddenly online stalker. Wanting to meet you, to know more about you, to make you fall in love with them no matter if you want or not. And when you tell them to just stop bothering you, it's not because they are a creep, noooooooo, it's because you're suffering from some kind of trauma and are too scared to accept love and a serious relationship. They keep writing about you and everything you said, did and post on the internet on their blog ( friends also tell me about it now and then, everyone who's ever read it thinks he's a creep ), analyze you, observe your actions, judge and criticize your personality and behavior. Act as if only they see through you and get harsh and butthurt when you get annoyed and tell them stop bothering you once more. Who keep sending you donations because they think you can't survive on your own and desperately need their few extra bucks. Who don't care when you tell them over and over again you don't want any money from them and then get condescending when you keep sending it back.
Of course YOU, the woman, is the problem. Not them, the most perfect man on Earth. The one too good for this planet, the one who keeps mentioning what an awesome, pure and good man he is and how everyone else is using him. How every woman in his life, whom he obsessed over and mentally had kids with already, used him and rejected relationships with him...not because he was a creep and they probably didn't even know he had ulterior motives until he said it to their face, nope, no way.
Instead of accepting your desire to have them as faaaaaar away from them as possible and your wish to stop writing about them on their blog, they continue to do so, because they are obviously obsessed and don't accept a woman's "No" because they think it means "Yes".
Instead of seeking a therapist themselves they keep looking for reasons why the woman is the problem, why she is too damaged and stubborn to realize she's been waiting for them their entire life. After all, she has no right to say no to them. A woman rejecting a man, what's next, gender equality?
I thought ignoring would be the best option, but it's been...many, many months since I told him to stop writing about me because even though he thought I'm stupid and didn't notice ( since he's not mentioning any names ), I did. He didn't care, because again, who cares what the stupid little woman wants? He observes me everywhere online, I've blocked him wherever I could. Recently he's suddenly been following my closest friends as well, to maybe get more information about what I'm up to. And of course he's still writing about me, how much we have in common, how I don't want to admit that we're basically made for each other, how this and that I said and did was wrong, unfair and also blunt criticism of things I've said and done in the past. Reasons why I'm not being successful, worries about me living under a bridge someday and self-pity when I've achieved something without his help.
Because HE sees through me and knows what's best for me, sees the true person I am. Even my best friends, who know me for around 20 years, would never say they know me better than I know myself. And then it comes from a guy online who had a few smalltalk chats with me. Right-o.
Of course, he's right, he knows why I say the things I say, why I act the way I do. But everyone who criticizes him is wrong. Family, coworkers, friends, it doesn't matter if he's been told the same accusations a dozen times, they are always wrong. Because THEY are stupid and have misunderstood him on purpose, nothing is ever his own fault because he's the best, purest and most loyal guy on Earth. Not like the other scum. So no way something can ever be HIS fault.
I know he'll read this. I know he'll write about this on his blog, because he's obsessed with me for whatever sick reason. Because he can't accept the fact I said "NO".
Go ahead, read the comments that are most likely to come and see how pure, nice and sweet people will see your behavior.
If you have one tiny bit of sense of honor left, then finally stop judging, talking and gossiping about me behind my back. It's not gonna change my opinion of you the way you want, just convince me more and more that you need psychological help. If you really think you are such a good guy then listen to my wish. If you won't then it's proof enough you're just fooling yourself.
Another came to me wanting to be mates, turns out they were cheating and seeked out others
When it comes to them consistently throwing money at you, I would look into which ever site(s) it is and see if koifi or paypal has a block feature. :/ if there is nothing obvious maybe contact the support team of each and ask them about it.
Please, be safe. You never know how far one of these creepers will go...
If someone feels they have to point out they are a "nice guy" it is in hope that you just assume it's true and don't question it and they absolutely never are what they claim. If they really are a nice guy they not only won't point it out, they actually prove it in their actions.
But then if they were self-aware, we wouldn't be having this discussion.
oder jetzt gleich. wäre kein großer verlust.
viel glück!
And for the Creeper who probably read this back away a NO means NO nothing else have to be said so piss off and stop stalking.
i really hope he leaves you because he is mentally ill thats for sure.
@ stalker
leave her alone, you are a NO ONE and seek help
I used to have a stalker since high school, and every so often, I'd used to get a call from them, particularly on my birthday to which is always the same. I hang up. I don't acknowledge them, not even publicly because there is a potential that any kind of recognition can be twisted into validation. I told my friends to ignore them, and not give them the time of day. While I am today not suffering from this problem, and that I hope they found help, there is a greater unfortunate chance they have moved on to someone else.
Matters like this need to taken privately and carefully, because there is a risk that an obsessive person goes from creepy and annoying to an obsessive person feeling betrayed and becoming vindictive and violent. Especially if they start getting pressured by those outside of their circle and become isolated.
Unfortunately, this post acknowledges that you both kept track and still keep track, and if the person didn't know this before, they most certainly and absolutely do now with this post. These people clearly don't think the way we do, and methods like this has a real chance of escalation rather than de-escalation.
You have my best wishes, Dolphiana. While my post has been critical, it is because I want to help, and to let you know that you're not alone from someone who was able to get free.
I know his real name, where he lives and works. From what I know about him and his past he's not the kind of guy to suddenly turn violent. He sees himself too much as white knight in shining armor. He's annoying, condescending and creepy, but I don't think he's dangerous. That's going too far. He wouldn't risk his job and future like that. That's the only positive thing I can say about him.
Either way, safety should always be taken, with any situation. Again, didn't mean to come off as mean, if I did. Just stating my opinion.
I had involved the school, the police, and their own family early on. Even with all these roadblocks, interventions, and individuals notified, it is difficult to monitor anyone's activities all the time, especially when they become an adult, and with how information flow so freely nowadays, it doesn't take much effort to find a particular contact. There are legal records of their activity because I had involved the police.
I am not out to ruin their life, and that will have happened if I had continued to escalate, because they will also continue to escalate. I was fortunate enough to have had excellent people around me to advise me on what was the best course of action. Pushing someone to "crawl into a corner" isolates them from society at large, and while it may result in change, it has the chance of creating a lot of resentment and/or delusional thinking depending on the individual. A resentment that I and potentially those I love would be a target of. Would you take that chance? I didn't, and I sleep well with my decision.
The thing is, I don't know whether they have or not changed, and I don't care to know. I know that it is a high probability they have attached to someone else given what I had studied in the past about their parasitic behavior, but there is a chance they didn't. Also, I have my own life to live, and this person was never my friend. Not that I didn't give them an opportunity to, but that they had never held any respect of my values nor decisions.
Nicht von einer einzelnen Person, aber ich kann dich ein klein wenig verstehen :(
Ich hoffe, das hat bald ein Ende.
bei dem Typen, über den du sprichst, vielleicht wäre ein letzter Schritt vielleicht, mit der Polizei zu drohen, wenn er nicht aufhört? Ich meine, sone Blogs, ... üble nachrede und so ist strafbar.
All the more power to you for standing strong through this
And of course, they are perfect in their own minds. Why would any rational woman refuse them? "Because you are a worthless scumbag" doesn't seem to be the answer.
I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope you find resolution soon.
I'm very sorry to hear you are having to deal with that. If he gave two damns about you like he claims he does, he would back off. But it is obvious that his sole interest is his ego masturbation in which you are the prop to his self-satisfaction. Fucking disgusting.
Sorry that's happening. I don't really have any good advice, I can only give my sympathy. I did read a comment about him checking IP's, so I'll at least suggest you use a VPN to better protect your online privacy.
Sowas ist echt scheiße x.x
Again, I shared the sentiment of others here about your situation.
There's so much control and entitlement involved here. Insecurity leads to these things. That and a superiority complex covering up an inferiority complex, coming across as arrogance. "You can't possible do better than me. We were made for one another!" That is presumptuous at best. That he doesn't mind if you post about this or know about his creepy tactics, let alone his posts or complaints to friends, makes one wonder what it will take to get him to give up on this romantic idealism and move on. I know about romantic idealism, but you can't let it warp your perspective or motivate you to do things such as he is. It's really hard to figure out where he's coming from at this point. I try to understand people, but he's beyond the mental gymnastics I can manage to empathize.
that was very similar to your, the only difference, he also gets trolled too for being stupid as hell.
ps if you are courious who chris chan is, you should look it up on CWCPEDIA. a wikia dedicated to his entier life and sonichu creation.
do not seek him personly on any social media platform he has, just to be on the safe side.
It's so disturbing and unsettling. This person needs to get help and leave you the f alone.