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To get up again
4 years ago
Writing this to get my thoughts into order.
To fall and get up again, that's really the essence of life. Not the falling specifically because it's often inevitable, but the getting up part. To see yourself fall - to the stupidest pitfalls - it's the most awful and humiliating experience. However, other people also keep making those same mistakes and you're not angry at them either, you're angry and disappointed if they give up and stop trying to progress from it.
That's why you need to get up, not just for yourself but also for other people. If you stay at the pit, eventually you'll just believe everyone and everything is a failure, yourself included. While comfortable, there's no way forward and you'll probably drag down other people as well.
There's a lot of people out there who are just looking to spot each mistake and say "gotcha", sometimes all the people around are like that, and sometimes it can feel that's all there is even if it's not always true. "Fuck you, I'll show you" has taken me forward in life for a long time, though you can only run on that solo energy for so long. To start believing in other people, to trust they know what will work best for themselves, that they will stumble, then get back up and eventually succeed. Of course that means some people will probably fail a lot and it's going to feel disappointing, the successes will make it worth it. It will not only fuel them but also yourself.
If you keep getting up and trying again, you have never truly failed, regardless of what other people say.
-Neo
To fall and get up again, that's really the essence of life. Not the falling specifically because it's often inevitable, but the getting up part. To see yourself fall - to the stupidest pitfalls - it's the most awful and humiliating experience. However, other people also keep making those same mistakes and you're not angry at them either, you're angry and disappointed if they give up and stop trying to progress from it.
That's why you need to get up, not just for yourself but also for other people. If you stay at the pit, eventually you'll just believe everyone and everything is a failure, yourself included. While comfortable, there's no way forward and you'll probably drag down other people as well.
There's a lot of people out there who are just looking to spot each mistake and say "gotcha", sometimes all the people around are like that, and sometimes it can feel that's all there is even if it's not always true. "Fuck you, I'll show you" has taken me forward in life for a long time, though you can only run on that solo energy for so long. To start believing in other people, to trust they know what will work best for themselves, that they will stumble, then get back up and eventually succeed. Of course that means some people will probably fail a lot and it's going to feel disappointing, the successes will make it worth it. It will not only fuel them but also yourself.
If you keep getting up and trying again, you have never truly failed, regardless of what other people say.
-Neo
Progress is progress though, even if small, it eventually leads somewhere.
I've both been endlessly patient and thrown a lot of the first stones, the outcome doesn't change regardless because it's up to the other person to decide what they do with it (but one way or another might be more efficient per different people, sometimes there's too much in life to handle and things need to be resolved one by one). Though having the courage to talk sooner is usually better. Of course, I've been on the other end also: Not being given chances, each failure counted, progress never acknowledged, but also being waited on and not told what I'm expected to do, sometimes you don't even know someone is waiting for something.
To add to this (and I'm sure this is what you think too): "not giving up" doesn't mean constantly trying to persevere on the same action even if it proves to be futile; it more means to be willing to accept the defeat (and/or humiliation) and taking another route, without letting our self-esteem suffer to the point we think we can't get anything right.
In the end, not every battle is worth fighting and sometimes the best we thing we can do is to give up on that particular endeavor, but not in general. The idea is to avoid eternally chasing sunk costs that will not really come back, but to still be willing to fight (just somewhere else)
We should talk one day.