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15 years ago
If those who can read my journal on LJ wish to help out then go to this link:
http://blazger.livejournal.com/166217.html
I'm in a bind and I'm growing tired of this world screwin us over.
I'm not asking alot but note me if you can help.
http://blazger.livejournal.com/166217.html
I'm in a bind and I'm growing tired of this world screwin us over.
I'm not asking alot but note me if you can help.
im sorry to hear that Tiger.... o.O how you on FA?
Blaze, don't do this.
Atleast it will give them power to live until they come up with the money to pay them.
However there is no reason to reply so rudely...he is only trying to help...his heart is still in the right place, and he is also a very good friend of Blazes and mine.
Aside from running the risk of electrocuting yourself, tampering with your meter could lead to a variety of legal issues, both civil (they can sue you) and criminal (they could press charges). Your unpaid bill would suddenly become the least of your worries.
Just don't do this.
Also, try hitting up DHS for financial help. If you're eligible, they'll help you with bills til you find another job, get on your feet. They'll also help you find another job in general with their job hunt program.
http://www.dhs.state.il.us/page.aspx?
Keep that in mind, okay?
That's idiotic.
MANY years ago, my boyfriend and I moved to this insanely expensive apartment complex, because we both got handed these amazing jobs... He did something to piss off the owner and got let go, I got fired the next day for something trivial...
So, we found ourselves unemployed, with only one car and license between us... But unemployment wouldn't cover a third of our rent. Since I had the car/license, I found a low-pay job working third shift, so we could cover the rent, but we had to grocery shop at gas stations, because I only had gas credit cards... I made barely enough to cover rent, but heat had to go... Then electric. We got desperate and ran a power cord out our door to a nearby outlet, at least we could run the computer. (Until one of his cats pissed on the monitor that is.) But ultimately, we still lost the apartment.
At some point... You have to accept that the world isn't out to get you... You're bringing this shit on yourself by making bad decisions.
We moved to another apartment, lost it, got a room in someone's house, lost it, and ultimately moved to the city because my car died and I needed a way to get to work... Is this rock bottom for you? I dunno... But here's what worked for me, and I hope to whatever god you believe in, that it does you some good and you can learn from my mistakes:
1. Whether you both have a vehicle and licenses now or not, you need to move somewhere that's not an issue. We moved in with a friend in the city for about 3 months. We were honest about being unable to pay him back in cash and about how long we'd be there. We kept his place clean and did ANYTHING he asked of us while there and above all else, we were always open about how much progress we were making and spent every waking moment either looking for a job or keeping the place clean. We didn't play games, we didn't talk to friends (unless they were helping us find employment) we didn't slack off in ANY way because our friend was doing us a HUGE favor. As a furry, you have a HUGE social network available to you... you've got to be able to find someone nearby who can let you crash a while.
2. You, BOTH need jobs. A single person can no longer support more than one person, hasn't happened since the 70's. There are ALWAYS places hiring. They may be below you, they may be crappy jobs... But a crappy paycheck is better than no paycheck. And you need to be realistic about what a need is and what a necessity is... Cheetos are not a necessity. Soda, NOT a necessity. A vehicle? A very expensive, non-necessity... You need food that is filling and pseudo-healthy and you need water... You need shelter, heat, electricity... Everything else, you can worry about later, AFTER you've built up a reserve for emergencies.
3. Once you both have SOME kind of employment, you need a CHEAP place. I assume you've already got that covered where you're at, but if you can't both get to work easily from there, then it's not helping you out very much, is it? Maybe you'll need roommates, maybe you'll have to rent out a tiny studio apartment... I lived in a studio apartment with two other guys for 5 years... Ya make do. You can always move again, the key here is finding a place you can get back on your own two feet, without leaning on anyone else.
4. And throughout all of this, and ESPECIALLY after... You need to stop spending money. Every tax return, every loan from a friend... Every penny you bring in, NEEDS to be saved. You don't need video games, you don't need conventions or art... You don't need the junk food or anything else that is not a necessity... What you need, is a buffer in place to keep you from losing it all.
You're a good person Blaze... I believe that you have within yourself the power to do great good... The problem, as I see it... Is that you seem to constantly think about others, and very rarely about yourself. Maybe you think it's selfish or that it makes you a bad person to occasionally put yourself first... But you HAVE to. Because otherwise, you just end up being a drain on the very people you want to help, whom you want to be there for.
PLEASE take the above advice into account... And good luck.
We're all only trying to help you and being catty about it just makes you look a bit of a douche and inherently will make people less inclined to help you in the future.
I'm sorry I can't offer you any advice regarding your situation; things with welfare and housing work differently here.
But that bears no reason for you to take it out on those trying to help you, Blazey.
If you'll look back, I bet not one person that commented was a bastard to you. One good turn deserves another, you know.
I wish you the best of luck in getting it sorted out, and as quickly as possible.
What I'm saying is these people are being as kind as they can be to you, so it's only right that you do the same. Please, I know you're facing hardship, but no one here is out to get you.
You and everyone else that wanna help I am being kind to best I can. But just remember that I need just prayers and other stuff to get me and frost through all this.
It was the way he said it that made it seem a little dismissive to me.
I took his response to be a simple venting of that frustration.
*Hug*
Nice, oh-so-subtle double entendre there.
And while I may not know the specific details of what you've been through, I may not have been in your exact shoes... I've been there. Time and time again you've made a plea in regards to your most recent difficulty and time and time again I've been able to share a story which damned near mirrors your experiences. I'm not just throwing idealistic advice at you from some damned podium... I'm taking the time to share memories and stories from my past that, while I'm not embarrassed by them, because they taught me so very damned much and helped make me the man I am today... They aren't stories I share lightly.
I DO know what you're going through, and I'm trying to help as best I can... You'll get through this, and be stronger for it.
I got to much crap going on here I have projects coming out my tail. x.x
WANTS...................................................NEEDS
soda.............................................................water
furcon...........................................................electricity
iPhone...........................................................cheapest landline
pizza at a restaurant........................................hot dogs and beans at home
potato chips....................................................plain oatmeal from a big box
Divide up everything that you spent money on into the two columns. Everything!
No, this isn't how you will have to live for the rest of your life. This is simply what you need to do now so that you can live a better life in the future.
You don't have to necessarily give up all your WANTS, either. You may be able to afford to keep one of two of your WANTS - such as the internet and hence FA - if you temporarily give up the rest of them. If you both look hard for jobs - even crappy ones (I was once an elevator operator in a fancy apartment building) - and carefully prioritize your spending, it can lead to a much better future. Its not rocket science, but it is a necessary self disciplined step forward.
I don't drink soda much any more. I have been on a diet.
the furcon's were gifts and we saved money to pay off bills.
we have a cheap net cause we ain't paying for it and if need be we use our neighbor's wireless line cause he too is a fur.
We don't go out alot. We eat what we have at home.
I have been eating oatmeal for 2 months now instead of alot of junk food.
I hope that you and Frost are able to find work soon - I realize that this is mighty difficult now because the economy is really screwed up with crap like bailouts (for big political contributors) and stimulus packages (but only for certain people), automatic tax increases at the end of this year, and a lot more. Still, please consider doing that list. There is usually room for further clarification of priorities. *hugs*
1, if you have Aldi [grocery store] they have food that is cheaper, but they only take cash, debit cards, and food stamps [i think the 3rd is foodstams/card]. i don't know if they are local to where you are.
2, if there is a St Vincent de Paul in your area, you may want to see if they can help with your utilities, to get the power turned back on. I know that is a charity, and they might even be able to help with some food as well. Not going to be brand name stuff, but it is food.
3, if you end up moving in with friends, even if you can't pay much for stuff, doing stuff for them helps a lot. Like mowing the lawn, getting the trash out, stuff like that. But they would have to agree with it.
If nothing else, I hear that White Castles pays well. something like $10/hour + benefits.
2. is st vincent a church?
3. some of us signed up for six flags. they pay weekly so hopefully that will help out. And suprisingly there is no white castle near us sides the one in kenosha by woodman's.
I don't have any advice and I can't give you any money, but I can say it's great you have friends that will take you to furcons so you still have a chance for fun and relaxation in a harsh world. I pray things get better for you, cooper, frostcat, and all those that live in your apartment. *Big Hugs* Good luck.