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10 years ago
Society, just once I wish you would prove me wrong-
Yes, this journal is another rant. Yes, I rant alot. Yes, people tick me off ALOT. I’m pretty sure that’s becoming a common theme from my journals. But believe it or not, I’m actually a nice person (if you catch me on a good day). Ignorant, dumbass, superficial people just have a knack of bringing my bad side out- which nowadays seems to be the norm, especially on the internet. Which brings me to my rant-
Earlier today, one of my friends messaged me after putting a new picture of himself on a dating and social furry site (name of the site withheld but I’m sure most of my friends already know which one I’m referring to…yeah that hellhole). And I guess as an experiment, here’s what happens after putting a picture of himself online showing off his abs he’s been working on-
“So I put my unflattering, shit-quality photo of hairless abs onto 'the site'... and guess what happened? 5 women message me in under 24 hours, lmfao! So much for men being outstandingly shallow, huh? XD”
What the reader is probably thinking: “A bunch of women messaged him because they’re interested in him and he’s complaining? What’s his problem?! Better still, what’s his secret so I can get someone to talk to me?”
What I was thinking: “I’ve been working out for almost two years and I still don’t have any abs dang it…*jealous*”
I know that’s what most of you are thinking, but that’s not the issue. What’s so bad is the issue as quoted by him, “That ad has been more or less the same for 5 or whatever years, so you can bet the only thing any of them cared about was the photo…People are so superficial it's saddening, lol.”
*points to the above and shakes my head* Right there folks is the problem. It took him putting up a picture of his six pack to get attention. Yet the rest of his profile, which has been the same for years, hasn’t hardly gotten him any replies. So basically what that tells me is the only reason he got any replies was because of his looks, or body rather. Because those same women would have probably ignored him had he just had his profile with a “normal” picture of his face or him covered up, or no picture at all. So where are all those people that claim they want someone with a “good personality, intelligence, or understands them and their needs…” Hmm? I guess they’re hiding behind all the twits drooling over those six packs! LOL.
Let’s face it, we’re all superficial to a degree- it’s safe to assume that. But if that’s the only thing you’re looking at in a relationship, dating, or even friendship? Then you will be screwed later in life because guess what? Eventually everyone ages! And those abs, biceps, butt, and everything else will start to sag, wrinkle, and fade- then what? That person you were so physically enamored by has nothing left to offer you because you didn’t take the time to get to know them on any other level *snorts* People are so fixated on finding someone with an Adonis-like body, they don’t look at the here and now- or rather who is right in front of them, and could make them happy.
Now I’m going to be blunt here and I will probably offend a lot of people but so be it. Realistically, how many people out there, particularly in the furry community are:
• In shape- and I don’t just mean aesthetically. I mean someone that knows how to take care of their bodies, works out, and eats right.
• Have good health: mentally, physically, and emotionally
• Are intelligent- not just book sense but common sense too
• Have a job and can support themselves
• Have their lives in order
• Knows how plan ahead
• Have little to no drama (well…that knocks out most of the fandom right there)
I’m not saying it’s impossible to find someone that meets all of the above- believe it or not, people like that DO exist, furry and nonfurry. But…it’s pretty damn difficult. So rather than weed through the masses or patiently wait, most people “settle” with someone that has most of what they’re looking for: be it looks, financial security, or the classic- said person is there, available, and wants to be with them. Basically it’s convenient for both parties involved and a bit of desperation…
So what’s the moral of that little rant? People are superficial and are more likely to date someone based on looks alone rather than personality or getting to know the person beforehand. But I guess I really didn’t need to write a long ass journal to say that; most of you already knew that. In addition…ladies? Shame on you for being as bad as the men I’ve lashed out at in my journals! I’m hanging my head in shame over here.
…and yes, in case you didn’t notice for once I’m picking on women, not men! That’s right guys, women are just as superficial, judgmental, and ignorant as a men. Wow, who would have thought that was possible? /sarcasm
I know I slam men a lot…*blinks* Okay, okay, 95 percent of my journals are about how much men are the primary issue when it comes to dating and relationships. But I have no shame in admitting women can be just as bad, especially furry ones. Trust me, I can dedicate an entire journal on how flaky and ignorant women can be (most not all women- to you exceptions out there: thank you for not falling into the typical stereotypes and standards) but that’s for another day…believe me, it will come soon enough. Until later…
Yes, this journal is another rant. Yes, I rant alot. Yes, people tick me off ALOT. I’m pretty sure that’s becoming a common theme from my journals. But believe it or not, I’m actually a nice person (if you catch me on a good day). Ignorant, dumbass, superficial people just have a knack of bringing my bad side out- which nowadays seems to be the norm, especially on the internet. Which brings me to my rant-
Earlier today, one of my friends messaged me after putting a new picture of himself on a dating and social furry site (name of the site withheld but I’m sure most of my friends already know which one I’m referring to…yeah that hellhole). And I guess as an experiment, here’s what happens after putting a picture of himself online showing off his abs he’s been working on-
“So I put my unflattering, shit-quality photo of hairless abs onto 'the site'... and guess what happened? 5 women message me in under 24 hours, lmfao! So much for men being outstandingly shallow, huh? XD”
What the reader is probably thinking: “A bunch of women messaged him because they’re interested in him and he’s complaining? What’s his problem?! Better still, what’s his secret so I can get someone to talk to me?”
I know that’s what most of you are thinking, but that’s not the issue. What’s so bad is the issue as quoted by him, “That ad has been more or less the same for 5 or whatever years, so you can bet the only thing any of them cared about was the photo…People are so superficial it's saddening, lol.”
*points to the above and shakes my head* Right there folks is the problem. It took him putting up a picture of his six pack to get attention. Yet the rest of his profile, which has been the same for years, hasn’t hardly gotten him any replies. So basically what that tells me is the only reason he got any replies was because of his looks, or body rather. Because those same women would have probably ignored him had he just had his profile with a “normal” picture of his face or him covered up, or no picture at all. So where are all those people that claim they want someone with a “good personality, intelligence, or understands them and their needs…” Hmm? I guess they’re hiding behind all the twits drooling over those six packs! LOL.
Let’s face it, we’re all superficial to a degree- it’s safe to assume that. But if that’s the only thing you’re looking at in a relationship, dating, or even friendship? Then you will be screwed later in life because guess what? Eventually everyone ages! And those abs, biceps, butt, and everything else will start to sag, wrinkle, and fade- then what? That person you were so physically enamored by has nothing left to offer you because you didn’t take the time to get to know them on any other level *snorts* People are so fixated on finding someone with an Adonis-like body, they don’t look at the here and now- or rather who is right in front of them, and could make them happy.
Now I’m going to be blunt here and I will probably offend a lot of people but so be it. Realistically, how many people out there, particularly in the furry community are:
• In shape- and I don’t just mean aesthetically. I mean someone that knows how to take care of their bodies, works out, and eats right.
• Have good health: mentally, physically, and emotionally
• Are intelligent- not just book sense but common sense too
• Have a job and can support themselves
• Have their lives in order
• Knows how plan ahead
• Have little to no drama (well…that knocks out most of the fandom right there)
I’m not saying it’s impossible to find someone that meets all of the above- believe it or not, people like that DO exist, furry and nonfurry. But…it’s pretty damn difficult. So rather than weed through the masses or patiently wait, most people “settle” with someone that has most of what they’re looking for: be it looks, financial security, or the classic- said person is there, available, and wants to be with them. Basically it’s convenient for both parties involved and a bit of desperation…
So what’s the moral of that little rant? People are superficial and are more likely to date someone based on looks alone rather than personality or getting to know the person beforehand. But I guess I really didn’t need to write a long ass journal to say that; most of you already knew that. In addition…ladies? Shame on you for being as bad as the men I’ve lashed out at in my journals! I’m hanging my head in shame over here.
…and yes, in case you didn’t notice for once I’m picking on women, not men! That’s right guys, women are just as superficial, judgmental, and ignorant as a men. Wow, who would have thought that was possible? /sarcasm
I know I slam men a lot…*blinks* Okay, okay, 95 percent of my journals are about how much men are the primary issue when it comes to dating and relationships. But I have no shame in admitting women can be just as bad, especially furry ones. Trust me, I can dedicate an entire journal on how flaky and ignorant women can be (most not all women- to you exceptions out there: thank you for not falling into the typical stereotypes and standards) but that’s for another day…believe me, it will come soon enough. Until later…
You knew this though, even if you didn't want to admit it. I feel like the site keeps reaching new lows throughout the whole gender spectrum, it's kind of fun to watch the trainwrecks. I don't get much entertainment these days otherwise.
*goes off to look for this person for the laughs*
...and yeah, I knew it it's just sad to hear someone actually state it. And though I'm not active on the site at this time, I'm sure if/when I return, I'll enjoy laughing at the trainwrecks which ensue.
So did you find said person...hmm?
Nah, I didn't. I need another hint, I lost too many braincells going through profiles that I normally wouldn't touch.
*points at the scale, then my pudge and gives you a look* really? I look okay but trust me, if you saw one of the girls I work with that does bootcamp and runs way more than I do? Nope. I need to up my game if I want to be healthier, haha. But one day though!
No hints! But if you figure it out I'll show you a picture of my abs! (kidding, kidding, that would just scar you for life) But come on, you need a challenge to get you going...that and you going through all those ads amuses me for some odd reason
If all of a sudden people message someone after they post that kind of a picture then this people aren't worth his/her time. Its outstandingly obvious how shallow they are and just goes to prove your point.
Men, women, it doesn't matter, history shows us that both genders can be remarkably talented in the field of being shallow and superficial, unfortunately its much more prominent in men.
...and just an fyi, if you did the same thing my friend did, you'd probably get a crapton of replies too (sorry to say that but, yeah, you would buddy). But that's how people are: even on here I've seen people receive comments and watches from posting real life pictures of themselves and as a result, people watch their accounts *shakes head*
I doubt it I'm goofy lookin!
...really? *points to your pictures you've posted* Like really now? I've seen some of the comments people have left about your pictures, especially since you've gone and cleaned your gallery out. But nice try.
and well..... we will agree to disagree but thanks lol
You need to journal more often, they're always interesting and the last one was a while ago :P
How's the compy build ?
I am actually at a standstill. I have everything but the hdd (which I'm not sure how much I should get: debating between 1-2tb as I will also be using my current one- which is 500gb, until it goes out), a cpu fan, and the hard part: a case. I am having the hardest time finding a case I am both happy with price wise and aesthetically. I would like one that has blue lcd lights inside, yet does not cost an arm and a leg so but is not cheaply made either
...hopefully I will have this pc built before christmas! LOL
But back on track- "People who have the second point covered seem to be on the rarer side, rest not so much..." Hmm, so people who have good health are rare huh? I suppose that is very true. How many people- furry or nonfurry are mentally, physically AND emotionally balanced, health wise? Not to stereotype but several furries I have come across seem to have some ailment- usually mental issues (ie- depression seems to be common just to name one) or are out of shape weight wise and do not have the motivation to lose weight. And drama? Well it's a running joke that drama seems to follow most furries everywhere they go. I tend to avoid it because I do not allow it into my life: simple as that. If others followed that policy, they would not have any drama either.
...and I would write more journals but meh, between work, real life, and gaming- I really don't have the time like I used to. Plus other than the "regulars" who reply to all my journals, my other watchers do not seem to care for my rambles and rants *laughs* So I do not like bombarded my watchers with journals. But if something in particular gets on my nerve or bothers me, I do my best to write a journal- though believe it or not, occasionally I write light-hearted or funny journals as well
My comment wasn't aimed at furries specifically, I see the it everywhere. It is like the 3 options, pick any two kind of things...
The drama though is mostly around furries. I care too little for it to affect me in any meaningful way, so it can be around if it wants lol.
Hehe ok, understandable.
Now the last bit, I hope to experience some of those one day, so far it has all been rants to me lol. I fill out memes and such as I find them, which reminded me I have one that I need to finish up !
Hmm, I see. I suppose those issues do affect everyone, furry or not. I would like to hope I am fairly balanced...with my flaws mind you, but healthy enough physically, emotionally, and mentally. But I guess everyone has a trigger that can throw that off balance: some more than others.
...and seriously, what is it about furries and drama? It is like watching a train wreck sometimes
Haha, if you go through my history of journals, I do have some funny or interesting ones- even did a meme a while back but I try to avoid most of them since they are done to death on here. I will have to do more light-hearted ones in the future or tell less...ranty ones
There's also the subjective aspect, at what level you consider something to be in the green. I would say I am green in everything though there's some occasional problems with depression like things and I have a bad back because of two bones in my toes being slightly too short...
Sometimes all you need is some popcorn, comfy recliner and see how the train wreck progresses lolololol
I'll have to take a look then, but first a 386 needs some software maintenance, floppies are fun lolololol
As to your friend getting messaged for his hawt six-pack, it's because those women didn't want a relationship. They just wanted to fuck. Women are just like men in that aspect - you wanna get laid, you look for people you find attractive, you want a relationship, you look for people you have a connection with. Or for people you think you can fix into a devoted, loving partner if you're the delusion type..Besides, while I've found great friends on that site, it's mostly college freshman looking to lose their c-vcards.. Your friend, and anyone else, is better off meeting people through cons and FA comments.
Like I've told you before, the trouble with having standards is that you'll be disappointed most of the time, but it doesn't mean you should get rid of them. Glad to see you're alive. :)
But I think my friend realizes that; he was just amused at the fact that in his time on that place, it took him putting up an attractive picture to get a reply. He's put up pictures of his face and body before- hardly to no replies. Now insert in a picture of his abs: female attention! And I bet most of those replies were from women that had been on there for weeks, even years and had not bothered to read his ad until they saw that picture.
...and yeah I'm alive! Just keeping a low profile right now: busy with work, gaming, and such. Honestly I am a bit tired but thankfully I'll be off labor day weekend so I'll try and get a bit of rest. How are things on your end?
That said, taking care of yourself is important and if someone is in-shape on top of having an awesome personality, for me, that's rather attractive. I imagine your friend might get a similar reaction just from wearing clothes that show off his fitness level, too - granted I don't know what he was wearing before in those other pics..
Glad to hear you've been keeping busy! What do you game with again? We should play sometime. I'll be getting a WiiU/PS4 soon (splitting things with someone makes them oh-so-affordable!). Things have been shitty for me but I'm kinda sued to it now. Doing what I can to make them better - trying to get good fitness habits in place so I can loose the weight I've gained. >.< We'll see if I can't make my walk route three times this week - only managed two the past couple weeks. We need to chat more, girl! If there's a better way to reach you than here or Skype, note me with it or something~