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7 years ago
I never thought my boring, low-key self would be writing a journal like this one but here we are! I figured I would share this story because it is not only funny (at least to me), but it has been a while since I posted a journal so enjoy some wolfcat humor…
Yesterday, one of my coworkers told me that several women around my job have been talking about me. My first thought was, “Here we go again…” I swear some of you women can be so catty- no pun intended towards any female feline characters out there. But I digress-
Apparently I have a new nickname among some of the staff here at my job: “that skinny girl.” And no, they do not mean it in a positive way; they are implying all I do is exercise and starve myself, hence how I lost all my weight. *facepalms* You know, a few months ago, my mom warned me to be careful at my job as the more weight I lose and the better shape I get into, the more women will start talking about me and judging me. Boy, was she ever right; moms really do know everything, lol. Also, I am pretty sure some of my friends that know me are laughing their asses off right now because they KNOW I definitely eat, especially after a strenuous workout- or how I steal their food because I get hungry after my long runs and weight training (but they like me so they let me get away with it!)
That and- this one made me laugh, I walk on my toes and I am a fast walker…like almost to the point it looks like I’m running rather than walking-
I mean I AM a runner, so when I walk, it probably is a fast pace because I am used to running, lol. But wow, these are grown women, some of them as old my parents, sitting around making up nonsensical rumors and talking about me behind my back, instead of…I don’t know, working and doing their jobs!
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Did I mention I don’t have many female friends? And nonsense like the above is exactly why! I am almost 33 years old- though I guess age does not matter since most of the people talking about me are older than I am...ironic I know. The lesson there folks is that age is not a sign of maturity. Nor do I have the time or patience for people that have nothing better to do than to start rumors or talk about others behind their backs…that is VERY immature and kind of pathetic, regardless of how old you are.
My coworker that told me about those messy women thought I would be mad and might go beat up some idiots, he even stood in the doorway of my office to keep me from leaving! Haha. However, I actually found what he told me...amusing. Heck, I am not even mad!
There is an old saying, “Don’t worry about those that talk behind your back, they are behind you for a reason.”
Their jealously and talking behind my back tells me that my hard work I am putting into my fitness, eating, and lifestyle choices ARE paying off! And I am totally okay with that- so let them talk about me…it only makes me want to get better and stronger! And next time I see them: I will smile, ask them do they want to go walking with me- which they will decline with some weak excuse, and go about my merry way~
And that is how you deal with idiots and jealously- smile in their faces, treat them as if they do not bother you, and go about your way. And most importantly? Use their ignorance to make yourself into a stronger person.
In other news, I am getting ready to enter my first race! Next month will be a Heart Walk & Run and our job is participating in it. It is only a 1 or 2 mile run but hey, every runner has to start somewhere right? It will be held at my alma mater where the participants run or walk across campus so I am very excited. They even asked me to be one of the team captains- apparently those same busybodies that were talking about me above said I would be a good candidate since I like to exercise-
…*starts to say something but just shakes my head* Uh…huh. I declined and said I would just be a participant, lol. But yeah, I get to run AND it is for a good cause so it is a win/win for everyone!
Anyway, that is all the exciting news on my end. I hope everyone is doing okay and staying cool. I am…staying out of trouble, does that count? Yeah, I think it does. I definitely cannot complain; I am just busy with work, trying to stay healthy, and enjoying time with my friends and family. Also, hello to all you new watchers; apologies for the long rambling and ranting but...yeah, it is what I do, haha.
And yes, more Whisper and Amelia art is coming soon! I am just…super lazy about reloading art; I am just glad most of you already watch the same artists I do so you see the art before I post it on my account, otherwise, it might be weeks or months until you see it on my end, haha.
Until later~
Yesterday, one of my coworkers told me that several women around my job have been talking about me. My first thought was, “Here we go again…” I swear some of you women can be so catty- no pun intended towards any female feline characters out there. But I digress-
Apparently I have a new nickname among some of the staff here at my job: “that skinny girl.” And no, they do not mean it in a positive way; they are implying all I do is exercise and starve myself, hence how I lost all my weight. *facepalms* You know, a few months ago, my mom warned me to be careful at my job as the more weight I lose and the better shape I get into, the more women will start talking about me and judging me. Boy, was she ever right; moms really do know everything, lol. Also, I am pretty sure some of my friends that know me are laughing their asses off right now because they KNOW I definitely eat, especially after a strenuous workout- or how I steal their food because I get hungry after my long runs and weight training (but they like me so they let me get away with it!)
That and- this one made me laugh, I walk on my toes and I am a fast walker…like almost to the point it looks like I’m running rather than walking-
I mean I AM a runner, so when I walk, it probably is a fast pace because I am used to running, lol. But wow, these are grown women, some of them as old my parents, sitting around making up nonsensical rumors and talking about me behind my back, instead of…I don’t know, working and doing their jobs!
…
Did I mention I don’t have many female friends? And nonsense like the above is exactly why! I am almost 33 years old- though I guess age does not matter since most of the people talking about me are older than I am...ironic I know. The lesson there folks is that age is not a sign of maturity. Nor do I have the time or patience for people that have nothing better to do than to start rumors or talk about others behind their backs…that is VERY immature and kind of pathetic, regardless of how old you are.
My coworker that told me about those messy women thought I would be mad and might go beat up some idiots, he even stood in the doorway of my office to keep me from leaving! Haha. However, I actually found what he told me...amusing. Heck, I am not even mad!
There is an old saying, “Don’t worry about those that talk behind your back, they are behind you for a reason.”
Their jealously and talking behind my back tells me that my hard work I am putting into my fitness, eating, and lifestyle choices ARE paying off! And I am totally okay with that- so let them talk about me…it only makes me want to get better and stronger! And next time I see them: I will smile, ask them do they want to go walking with me- which they will decline with some weak excuse, and go about my merry way~
And that is how you deal with idiots and jealously- smile in their faces, treat them as if they do not bother you, and go about your way. And most importantly? Use their ignorance to make yourself into a stronger person.
In other news, I am getting ready to enter my first race! Next month will be a Heart Walk & Run and our job is participating in it. It is only a 1 or 2 mile run but hey, every runner has to start somewhere right? It will be held at my alma mater where the participants run or walk across campus so I am very excited. They even asked me to be one of the team captains- apparently those same busybodies that were talking about me above said I would be a good candidate since I like to exercise-
…*starts to say something but just shakes my head* Uh…huh. I declined and said I would just be a participant, lol. But yeah, I get to run AND it is for a good cause so it is a win/win for everyone!
Anyway, that is all the exciting news on my end. I hope everyone is doing okay and staying cool. I am…staying out of trouble, does that count? Yeah, I think it does. I definitely cannot complain; I am just busy with work, trying to stay healthy, and enjoying time with my friends and family. Also, hello to all you new watchers; apologies for the long rambling and ranting but...yeah, it is what I do, haha.
And yes, more Whisper and Amelia art is coming soon! I am just…super lazy about reloading art; I am just glad most of you already watch the same artists I do so you see the art before I post it on my account, otherwise, it might be weeks or months until you see it on my end, haha.
Until later~
But that is society for you- rather than try to change what they don't like about themselves, they find someone else to pick and pull down to feel better about themselves instead.
Hääv fann on the run/walk thing ~
I will, thanks! If I remember, I will have to post a follow-up journal next month after the race to tell everyone how I didn't die from running~
They're probably just jealous at you because you acomplished to loose so much weight and get fit. :3
Oh that reminds me of a song I used to like a lot back in the days. It is from a german band called Die Ärzte.
Here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AaQcnnM2a70
And don't worry here are the english Lyrics:
https://lyricstranslate.com/en/lass.....them-talk.html
You are the best.
Also It's great to hear from you again. :3
Can't wait to see more art from you.
Have a great day and take care.
"Let them talk, and don't listen to them
Most people just don't have anything better to do
Let them talk, day and night
Let them talk - they always have, anyway"
No matter what you do or who you are, someone will always talk about you. All you can do it is shake them off!
Aww, you are so sweet Jose, I hope you are doing okay too! Here's a hug for you to get you through the rest of the week: https://media.tenor.com/images/c2f9.....fd0c/tenor.gif
I don't need to tell you as you are already doing it, but take it in stride and be proud! I am more than confident you look absolutely incredible and you are continuing to improve on that.
Let the jealously and envy flow, just don't get too big headed about it haha. :P
I wish you the best of luck on your race! First place here you come! I also look forward to the upcoming art as well. ^^
Mind you, that does NOT mean I am going to get complacent or let their words give me a big head: I still have a long ways to go to get where I want to be and be happy with my appearance. In addition, I would like to make this weight loss a lifestyle, not just a "I'm losing weight to fit into small clothes or look good" type of thing.
Thank you for the well wishes! I will try not to die running, lol. I told someone above if I remember, I will try to post a follow-up journal next month (it's on June 9th I believe) with how the race went. And yes...more art soon. I can't wait to see what art you have in store for your characters as well~
Good luck with the running thing!
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I mean, fitness is not just something you do until you hit your desired weight! You have to keep at it or guess what? You GAIN the weight back and lose your muscle (I tried to explain that to some of them but it falls on deaf ears). It is just annoying that some (not all) women cannot support one another, but instead try to find ways to put you down or make you feel like you're doing something wrong! Heck, if someone tells me they are trying to lose weight and making a genuine effort? I cheer them on, give them tips, even ask them what they are doing to lose weight because they might can teach me something I do not know!
...and then you have the ones that want to put you down or make you feel like being in shape is a bad thing *sighs* Sad really. And trust me, I am NOT skinny by any means- according to the bmi chart, I fall between being "normal" and "overweight" because my weight is -right- in the middle depending on water retention, muscle mass, etc. I guess the best way to describe myself right now is I have an athletic build? In shape but you can tell I like to eat, lol
Thank you for the well wishes- I am so excited to run! Gosh, I have to start training as well~
Even today I had someone (a woman) tell me the SAME THING. She told me, "if you get any skinnier, you are going to fade away!"
Me: I need to lose another 10-15 pounds...
Her: ...
Keep in mind I work at a hospital so we are supposed to encourage people to be fit and healthy. Yet most people, particularly the staff, are obese or out of shape, haha. Part of me thinks they would be happier if I gained my weight back, just so it does not seem like I am throwing my good health in their faces? I do not know; people are...really odd.
"As a female, it should be pretty easy to know when you've gone "too far", since you'll probably lose your period. Before then I wouldn't be too worried." Without going into tmi (mostly because I know some of my guy friends read this journal and I don't want to make them squirm too much, haha), I can say that is definitely NOT an issue! As much as I would love not to have a period...err, with good reason and not due to a medical condition or pregnancy that is, I still have that dreaded monthly visitor, lol.
Yes, I have heard that when you get "too small" or even women that exercise too much (especially runners) suffer from amenorrhea. That is why I try not to push myself too much- I push myself, but not to where it negatively affects my health and well being.
I am just glad I do not have periods so bad like some women I hear and read about where they are just unable to do anything until it is over because they are in so much pain, it is almost debilitating
I used to be extremely overweight (topped out at 330lbs). People called me everything under the sun, told me to put the fork down countless times, and even called me lazy (I used to bike a minimum of 45km/wk, and I loved waking and swimming; but nah... totally lazy...)
Conventional methods never worked long-term for me. Changing my diet, cutting out pop, eating more veggies, drinking more water, going to the gym, doing Tae Kwon Do, and even did both LA Weight Loss and Weight Watchers. Nothing stuck.
I had gastric bypass almost 2yrs ago. I'm now around 185lbs. You won't believe how many people sit there and go, "you cheated, you took the easy way out, I actually had to WORK to get where I am!"
It wasn't easy and I still have to work to maintain it. You always have to remember that theses changes...you're doing them for you, not anyone else. And once you remember that, the haters are inconsequential.
You keep doing you. Sounds like you rock at it
"You won't believe how many people sit there and go, "you cheated, you took the easy way out, I actually had to WORK to get where I am!"" Oh I believe it, and find it disgusting people have such a negative mindset.
I have two coworkers that underwent that procedure: one lost 91 pounds, the other almost 100 pounds. And one of them filled me in on the entire procedure: from the pre-op prep she went through to make sure she was mentally and physically ready for it, her eating habits changed (limiting how much you eat, along with what you can and cannot eat), and the after effect of sagging/excessive skin. As she started to lose weight, she actually found it easier to exercise! Now she walks and dances to help with toning up.
So no, it's not "cheating" or the easy way out- that's called doing what's best for you and your body. Good for you for not letting others hold you down either!
Thank you so much! Keep up the awesome work as well. It is so great hearing from another fit, healthy furry on here
Um. No? That's not how this works. I know skinny people that eat like shit and can't gain a pound (and get told "you look great, keep doing what you're doing!"). I know overweight people who eat healthy and are active, and can't lose anything no matter what (and they CONSTANTLY get told to eat less...). Is all about metabolism, genetics, and any underlying medical conditions. The same shit does NOT work for absolutely everyone. The surgery wouldn't be an option if that were the case.
Props to those that can lose it on their own and keep it off. That's hard work. But that didn't give them the right to shame those that it doesn't work for.
Honestly man, people are awful and girls are especially bad when they get into a group setting. I’ve worked in a retail cosmetics section for a while and the amount of drama just from that one department was insane. I tried my best to stay out of it, but that made things worse; not willing to be catty? Then you’re an outcast in the social grouping.
Everything I did was known by everyone. Every success was a reason to mock me and every failure was an excuse to scold me.
Best thing to do is to keep doing you. People talk begcause they’re bored. Their life ain’t shit and they know it; better to have something to fill the boredom and gossip does that for them.
Alternatively you can also suggest that they sit on a wood chipper =^w^=
Yeah, I have noticed the more females you put together in one place, the more drama and gossip seems to appear! That is why I mostly keep to myself at my job, and the few females I do talk to are like myself: quiet and drama free (it also helps I have my own office where I can shut the door when people get on my nerve, haha). I will speak to everyone at my job out of respect but wow...it kind of irks me seeing how some people will smile and laugh in your face but talk about you the minute you turn your back on them. I just watch them and shake my head in disbelief at how they treat their supposed "friends" or coworkers.
"I tried my best to stay out of it, but that made things worse; not willing to be catty? Then you’re an outcast in the social grouping." Yeap, it's like high school all over again! Stay away from them and you're considered antisocial or rude. But try to befriend them and they will STILL find a way to talk about you when you are not around.
I definitely agree with you- I think some of it has to do with boredom or not having a life; their life sucks so they want to make others miserable so they feel better about themselves.
The way I see it, it is impossible to please everyone or make everyone happy so all you can do is focusing on making yourself happy and spend time with those that care about you- though I really like telling them to go sit on a wood chipper too~
Hardly. I seriously wonder sometimes why people would be jealous of boring old me, lol. But you are totally awesome! Thanks for the sweet words~
Woot, grats to your little bro graduating and getting into the Army! That is awesome- and I know you're proud of him; he's your brother; you have NO reason to be jealous of him at all.
"Ah, fast walker are ya? I mostly walk on the 'palms' of my feet in a normal pace, not on my toes or heels." You're a fast walker too? Nice! You can keep up with me. I have a hard time finding people to walk with me because apparently I 'walk too fast.'
And I think you're right- I think most of my coworkers are just grown up versions of bullies because they're unhappy with their own lives...or I guess in this case, out of shape selves?
"I guess I'm one to talk, I sometimes rant to myself about my family and lifestyle behind everyone's backs, and open up only to you..." So? that is normal! Heck, I rant to my friends about my family, job...I'm on fa and wrote a journal about my coworkers for goodness sake! I just filter out names and important information for privacy sake (and I don't want to be gossipy). But venting and ranting is healthy: it's like therapy. Saying what's on your mind, even to random strangers, is a way to destress; it's been proven. So hey, just remember if you need someone to vent or rant to...I'm here!
After many years at my family's flower shop, I've noticed that there are many people(ladies and men included) who absolutely never get past that toxic, immature backbiting gossip stage. Good for you to let it go like water off a duck's back. :D
See, crap like that is why I keep to myself at my job: I really don't have time for office drama, politics, and backtalk- and why I am very glad I have my own office, haha.
"After many years at my family's flower shop, I've noticed that there are many people(ladies and men included) who absolutely never get past that toxic, immature backbiting gossip stage." Isn't that something? I always thought...or hoped, once we got past high school, hell even college, we would escape that nonsense. Meh, it was a nice thought. It seems some people get worse the older they get and depending on whom they are around.
Especially considering the person that told me about all this work drama and cattiness was a guy, it makes me wonder what guys say to each other behind our backs, haha. Personally I just seem to have better luck dealing with and befriending guys due to most (not all of them) being as messy as the women I have been around.
There's been some other drama but I'd end up writing many paragraphs if I went into it. But I'm glad you've been having good experiences meeting nice and genuine guys.
"...but men give us shit for it and act like it's something so specific to women and then do it too and I find it pretty funny." Haha, right? Like that incident at your dad's job? THAT is ridiculous! And men, not women, that did all the rumor spreading and got the story screwed up-
Not to mention nonsense like that can jeopardize people's jobs and reputations; I do not see how he puts up with it!
Haha, thank you for discussing this topic with me! I actually enjoy reading my watchers and other people's replies on topics like this. It lets me know that I'm not the only one out there dealing with nonsense and I get to hear other's insight on things outside the fandom~
Treat said people as if they don't even bother you (even if it does). Believe it or not, if you treat people like that like you don't care, it gets on their nerves and they eventually find someone else to talk about! Weird I know but people like that feed on others low self esteem and self consciousness; it makes them feel better about their own sad, empty lives.
I'm so glad I could make you feel better! You're welcome~