As another 'death gripper' I can assure you it does work. I had trouble even staying hard when having fun with my husband, until I forced myself not to fap for a week. There was quite a mess the next time we fooled around!

I do the death grip thing too and have been since I started maturating 5 years ago at 18. While I have found myself to be less reactive to non-hand stimulation, I still have methods to get myself going without hand use.

Not sure how many of them would work for you as most are pretty kink specific, but my methods normally include:

- Fingering anus with damp towel with entire crotch damp assisted further by blowing on all the moisture.

- Using any anal insertion to prod at the prostate

- Fisting self with no lube

- Inhaling various good or bad scents deeply

- Sitting on balls in various ways until climax, sometimes assisted further with anal/prostate stimulation of any kind.

- Shoving a non-lubed vibrator into filthy uncleaned anus, turning it slowly towards max, and try to climax from it. As incentive, I punish myself for not climaxing by attempting to clean the filthy vibrator orally with mouth and tongue, which helps to encourage climax on future attempts.

- And many other things that are probably way beyond your interest range. XD

My main piece of advise it to try to find multiple things that get you going that do not require hands, or at least not hand to cock. Diversifying what gets you off will help to train your cock to be more receptive to other stimulation. I'm also big on reward systems in which you reward yourself for success, or even for simply making progress; as well as safely punishing self for when it doesn't work. Reward does work better than punishing, but I find a healthy mix of both makes for good fun training, but that may just be because I am a masochist. XD

Anyways, hope that helps some. I have never had it to such an issue as you, but its never too late to diversify and train out of the habit to allow your cock to function in more situations. :3

Check your notes.

I typically just take a few days and usually things are fine, but I also try to shift my mental framing some and just work through it as if it is just any other mental block.

I've tried that. It needs to be more hardcore for me apparently. I've only ever gotten an orgasm from someone else on 3 occasions, and all were through masturbation. I've never once had an orgasm through oral or anal sex, and the problem I've noticed is that it's simply not stimulating enough. I need to recondition myself to be able to get off with less intense stimulation than I'm used to.

well the only way to fix that I would presume is desensitization. Which usually means not doing anything for a little bit. I think you can go a few days and when you go to fap, I would try starting as light as possible to stimulate yourself and then work up. Also, I would recommend changing the way you are stimulating yourself, so like rubbing different spots that are not commonly attended to. Different movements, etc. basically changing the routine of it can sometimes do the trick in and of itself.

Like getting a flesh light/masturbator toy. Or stroking the perineum alone for a bit. Or using a single finger to just stroke along the underside of your member. The more variety you can do, the less likely you'll get used to one thing.

If none of that works, i would presume you are going to have to play the waiting game, start with a few days of nothing, finding something else to relieve stress [I took up model building while my brain was figuring out regular artwork] Or like going for a stupidly long walk without focusing on anything. I know this one sounds stupid, but just walking and letting thoughts be fleeting passing moments can help stress and divert attention. I had to do it back in college,when I was frustrated with an assignment and couldn't get something figured out, I just stood up, put my shoes one and went outside and just started meandering around the campus. So give yourself a defined area to walk within so you don't go too far, but just walk around, aimlessly

If that still doesn't help,. you may need more extreme help, or suffer through the long wait, but you need something else to do to help with stress relief, because again, variety prevents that one thing becoming overused and no longer pleasant, because you have effectively given yourself a tolerance to it [much like narcotics make you more sensitive to pain, but bearing the pain can make it so you are less sensitive to it. This might be a terrible examples, but it was what my brain came up with, so....yeah.]

ok what does death gripper even mean ? XD

It means that when I fap, I squeeze my dong like the handle on a runaway motorbike.